That's the calling, and we're going to take a look at that and discern why woman has been put into that position and how woman has been prepared for that ministry, and I believe it will be a blessing to us and just an area of us being able to establish the divine order in the home, praise God. Okay, let's turn, if you would, to the book of Titus, and we'll kick this thing off and see what happens. We'll start off our special this morning with that very scriptural song, I Want a Girl (Just Like The Girl That Married Dear Old Dad). What's your concept of "Mom" this morning? We all have different figures that come to our mind when we talk about "Mom." My father has a tattoo on his left forearm that says "Mom," from when he was in the Navy. I don't know how drunk he was the night that he got that, but he does have that tattoo and we realize that "Mom" brings up a lot of different images into our mind.
Janet was just with someone the other day; they were out exchanging some of the things that we had bought for my mother as a gift. She never buys anything for herself, so we went down and bought her about seven complete outfits to wear, different outfits to wear, and we combined it as a birthday/Mother's Day kind of thing. They were down there exchanging some of them and there was a lady, at this particular counter at the store, that was just really giving her mother fits. And there was another comment that was made about, "You know, my mother's in her older age; she's getting so cantankerous and so ornery, and she is just so this and that…" Here were these two ladies complaining about their mothers, and Janet made the comment and said, "Well, at least you still have your mother. Mine's been gone for 10 years." Ten years now, that Freda's gone and been with the Lord. What a blessed woman she was. I'll tell you, you don't usually hear people talk about their mothers-in-law this way, but this was a virtuous woman. Godly woman. Someone that you could emulate, if you wanted to know Freda, just know Janet, because she is the reproduction of her mother. And, in fact, isn't that what the Scripture says in Ezekiel? It says that that parable will come forth, that the daughter will be exactly like her mother (Ezekiel 16:44). Now ladies, if that frightens you, then in these teachings you'll be able to glean some truths and work on it-and see the transformation...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 2
May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
I trust all of you mothers have had a great Mother's Day. Did you guys take them out for dinner? I hope so. You'd better not have made them go home and fix lunch for you. How many of you mothers had to go home and fix lunch for that old-? Okay, there are a few. Some of them were brave enough to raise their hand. We very seldom go out to eat, but on Mother's Day I succumb to the pressures of society. In the heat of the moment, tradition is cast aside, and we go out to eat. I don't like going out to eat. There are too many people out there. I like going home, because I'm always around people. So when I get a chance, I'm alone. Besides, Janet cooks better than any of those restaurants anyway. You all can tell that by looking at me.
Let's turn to Titus, and we'll pick up where we were. We do thank God for all, as I said this morning, all the mothers. We realize not only the high calling that you fulfill, ladies, but not only the seriousness and the importance of this role, but also the fact that probably this role of subordination is one that's misunderstood. In fact, I think I want to start off this evening by sharing with us the fact that subordination and the Christian role of the woman is not one of inferiority. It's not one of being in a position of a demeaning role. It's not like the woman's role in Islam. You know, this is one of the great growing religions in our nation. How many of you are aware of that? The reason is a lot of the ladies don't know what it entails. A woman is a second-rate citizen in Islam. But not in Christianity, not so. Subordination, submission, is not a role of inferiority. It's not a role of second-class citizenship. I think that's something that needs to be distinguished as we look at the Word of God...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 3
May 16, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
Man, it's taken us a long time to get you women straightened out. I didn't expect to have to spend this long at all, but I guess if you need it, we'll take the time. We're going to entitle this teaching "Headship, Helpmeet, and Lovers." We're going to get to every one of those categories, especially the last part. Because until we start moving in the recognition of having love one for another, we're not going to be able to affect any of our positions that God has ordained us to fulfill, because faith works by love; amen? And without faith it is impossible to do something; what is it? We realize, then, that this is what Father has called us to do and we're going to have to fulfill our God-given positions by faith. Whether it be headship, whether it be helpmeet, it doesn't make any difference. It's going to take faith to fulfill the job, and it works by love. Realizing and believing what 1 John says, the love that God has to us and then also fulfilling the mandate that we're to love with the same love that we've been loved with. We have to be gracious, loving and kind in the administration of our offices.
Let's look at Titus, Chapter 2, and we'll pick back up on this particular subject. "But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: [So here comes some good doctrine for us.] That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed" (Titus 2:1-6). So we want to see in our lives that God's Word is exalted. Don't you want to be able to-the Scripture says we're supposed to be epistles read of men; amen? They're to look on us and see what the Word of God is all about...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 4
May 20, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
PASTOR SCOTT: Ephesians, Chapter 5. Let's start off there since that's where we left off in our last session. Beginning in verse 21, "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. [Husbands, to the degree that Jesus loved the church-to the degree that Jesus loved the Church-love your wives] even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, [for this purpose] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband" (verses 21-33).
So there it is, capsulated, what the Spirit of God is calling us to. We'll be spending more time in some of the details in future sessions. In just a second we'll give opportunity to ask questions on what we've covered up to this point. What did you want to share?
JANET SCOTT: Well, first of all, I wanted to share with you that people often times look at me and have an image of what they think I am and who they think I am. I've been here for many years now, about eighteen, and some of you don't know what my background is and the role that I play here, as the Pastor's wife. So I wanted to give you a little bit of background because so many of you are single adults that this teaching on the submission of the wife and the place of the wife in the home is not really applicable. It is applicable, however, if you plan on getting married some time in the future, because you don't become a submissive person simply by saying wedding vows. You need to have the character of God in you before you can make this lifetime commitment...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 5
May 23, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
Let's turn to the book of Titus, Chapter 2. We want to continue our study that we've been on the last five sessions. Chapter 2 of Titus, we'll begin at verse 1, "But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." That's quite a mouthful that the Holy Ghost has given us, isn't it? We've had a lot of comments from some of the ladies. "The aged women to teach the younger women." It's an interesting thing. It's really vital for us to see the necessity of being instructed.
We don't just become good Christians by osmosis. Jesus put teachers in the church; amen? So, it's not by osmosis. It's not by being a child that you learn how to be a parent. Do you all realize that because you've been parented, that does not equip you to be a parent? We need instruction. How many of you were parented and felt that those that parented you could've used a little instruction prior to the job being done? Okay, don't blame them. They were not instructed. But you don't have any excuse, because you're being taught. So we have to realize we can't point back and say, "This is how I was raised. They treated me this way, thus and so, therefore, I am the product of that." No, you're not. The Bible says when you become a Christian "old things have passed away and all things become new," amen? You're a product of the Word of God. You're a product of the lordship of Jesus Christ. We have no excuses, like society does. They try to blame everybody else. They try to blame one another. They try to blame their parents. They try to blame the environment they live in. We realize that we, as individuals, if we're going to be mature believers, are going to have to assume the responsibility for our behavior; amen?...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 6
May 27, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
Turn, if you would, to the books of Corinthians and Ephesians. We're going to continue along with our study-see if we can start this morning and get the guys straightened out. How many of you guys need [to be] straightened out? Amen. Well, I saw one hand. How many of you ladies think these guys need [to be] straightened out? No, watch out. Don't get them up.
Okay, the eleventh chapter of Corinthians. You know the most frustrating thing about this? It's interesting, and the most frustrating thing in teaching the Word, especially-well, I guess it's every category, but it's so obvious in a situation like this-is people hear from preconceived notions, and rather than hearing to receive revelation and change, so many people listen to grab one phrase or one principle to justify their position rather than looking to change. We teach these different principles, and for instance, we're going to get into teaching concerning headship of the men...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 7
May 27, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
You think either it's a three-day weekend or people don't believe Jesus is coming back? Think it could be a three-day weekend? How many of you believe Jesus is coming back? Amen! Then we're to live every day as though it were the day; amen? Let's turn if we would-I want to get back into Corinthians 11, start off out of there again where we started this morning and deal a little bit more with headship.
I want to encourage all of the gentlemen here again. Let me share one thing with you that's very important for you to understand. We were sharing this morning that in the headship, the area of responsibility that God has placed us in, we're to function in love; amen? "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it." We were talking about the fact that love is kind; it's gentle; it's longsuffering-all of these different aspects. We want to continue to encourage you, men, in that direction. But hear what I'm saying to preface this: even if your leadership has not to this point been kind and gentle and longsuffering, by all means, lead. Do you all hear what I'm saying, men? Because the first responsibility you have is not how you administrate your household but whether you are fulfilling God's given task to you, and that's leadership. And all the men said- Amen. You may not be the best leader in town, but bless God, you'd better be leading. Amen? Because you're going to answer to God for whether you're doing the job that He's ordained you to do. Now you may not be getting rave reports from home, but if you're in leadership, you're at least headed in the right direction, praise God! And all the ladies said "amen" to that. Amen? How many of you ladies want your husbands to take the lead? Let me see the hands. Okay, one. We see then, that- This is the first one up. Did you see that, T-? I'm a witness, praise God. Amen. If she ever gets out of line, come back and remind her. Say, "Remember that day? Pastor saw you raise your hand. You were the first one that said 'amen.' " Leadership, headship: it's what God has ordained us to. And what we are trying to do is to get it working right in our lives. But before you can get it working right, you've got to get it working...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 8
May 30, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
A good way to finish up a long day is just being refreshed in God's presence and fellowshipping with the saints. I heard a song today. I don't know if I'd ever heard it before, but I picked up part of the words on it. It was a secular song I heard playing today called, "Only the Good Die Young;" I think that was what it was called. There was one phrase I thought was interesting. He said, "I'd rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints." That was an interesting phrase. The days are coming when there's not going to be too many sinners laughing.
You know, we look at society today and we look around us and all of the trials and all of the tribulations, and we can become burdened down with these things. I'm not talking about not in a bad way; I'm talking about the fact that we should be touched; we should be concerned with the condition of our society. We need to be in prayer and we need to realize that this isn't the time for our celebration. This is a time of us weeping, because if we go forth weeping we will doubtless come again rejoicing bringing the sheaves in with us; amen?
Many people that don't know Jesus take our concern for righteousness and the state of this world as being that we don't know how to enjoy life. I don't know anybody that knows how to enjoy life other than Christians. I don't know about you; I'm having a good time. Amen! Just thoroughly enjoying myself in the presence of God, but really concerned with the state of mankind and also with the condition of the church, the professed church. You know, the professed Christians are in trouble today; their souls have been vexed. In fact, Janet and I were talking this afternoon about these things and the fact that you can become burdened. She said, you can't live people's lives for them and, you know, that's true. But it's a thing when you realize the magnitude of people, the souls that are not ready for the return of the Lord Jesus Christ. It becomes a burden, it becomes a weight. It becomes for us, as spiritual leaders-and I want to talk to the men again tonight-to realize that we have to take this responsibility on ourselves as far as we can take it. When we talk to the men, there's a phrase I want you to get down. In fact, get your notes out; I want you to get this down as we get ready to start our teaching. We're going to continue talking about the priesthood of the man in the home, and I think it's very important...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 9
June 3, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
We are going to continue with our study on "Headship, Helpmeets, and Lovers." You say, "When are we going to get to the 'lovers' part?" It's coming, so just hang on and we'll get there, praise God. We've been hearing from both the men and the women that they want to get into that topic. We've had some of the women come and say, "You wouldn't believe my husband!" Yes, I would. We're going to get him straightened out before this thing is over; and all the ladies said, "Amen!"
Last Sunday morning we were dealing with the primary obligations of the husband, the man, the head of the house; and we saw in Ephesians that the first requirement of the man is that he does what? That he loves his wife as Christ loved the church, amen? Love is what man is required to do. If love is not the dominant force in the house, it's the man's fault. Ladies, you missed a good opportunity to say "amen." If love is not the dominant force in the home, it's the man's fault. Regardless of how the children or the wife respond to that love, makes no difference. It's the man's responsibility to love, because he has been put into the position of headship. As we saw in Ephesians last week, who is it that he's representing? As Corinthians tells us, who is his head? Christ. Does Jesus ever exhibit anything but love? So, if we're the representative of our head Jesus, then we have to love at all times, regardless of circumstances. Men, regardless of how unlovely the situation might be we are responsible to love at all times. That's what God has called us to do. Yet we seem to think that the women are the ones who have been chosen to love, to be gentle, and to be kind, as if that was their place; and that we're here to be rulers, dictators, and totalitarian in our approach to life. That is not what we've been called to do. As we were sharing last Sunday night, love is not 'ooey-gooey' compromise. Love is holding up the standards of the Word of God regardless of our own emotions, regardless of how much it hurts us personally, and requiring the will of the Lord be done. Amen?
We are beginning to see what true biblical love is. First John says that perfect love is doing what? Keeping the commandments of God. The consequence is that it casts out the fear of judgment. How is it that it casts out fear of judgment? Because I've been obedient to keep the Word of God I'm not afraid of judgment. I'm doing what God is requiring of me; therefore, I don't fear the presence of God or standing up and being judged. What's the standard that God is going to use to judge us? The Word of the Lord. If I'm keeping the Word of the Lord then what problem do I have with judgment? There is no fear of judgment, I've already judged myself and required of myself to do the Word of God...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 10
June 3, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
Let's open our Bibles. We want to pick up where we left off this morning. Someone asked, "Since it's graduation, how long are you going to teach tonight?" I said, "As long as I always do: until I'm done." When I'm done I'll tell you. We want to pick up where we were in 1 Peter, and we are not going to change the subject matter we have been studying for the last nine sessions because it's applicable to where you are. We are going to be looking at Ephesians and 1 Peter; then we are going to jump into Proverbs for a few minutes. But it's very interesting that, of our last graduating class-and I had made the comment that I felt you were the best graduating class that we have ever had, but I need to qualify that by saying, "…the best multiple graduating classes that we have ever had," because the last graduating glass of one was a good graduating class, too-Kimberly was the first student to ever go from kindergarten through twelfth grade here at Calvary Temple School.
We have shared in the past the different bad raps that many of us in Christian education get, and we have also shared the perverted outlook of many others who feel that Christian schools ought to be nothing more than private institutions that are called "Christian" to try to get away from the drug problems and the sex problems and the violence problems in the schools. You haven't solved any problems by removing your children from the public schools and the environment of drugs and violence and sex if you haven't put Jesus into their hearts, because the problems we face in life are not external; the problems every one of us has are internal, the sin that is in our members. Amen? It doesn't matter what's outside; there is nothing external that can harm you. The warfare is waged internally. Paul did not say, "Woe is me; I'm a man who is undone," as the prophet said. Paul, wanting to fight this battle (in the seventh chapter of Romans) said, "O wretched man that I am!" He didn't say, "O wretched world that I live in!" "O wretched man that I am!" He didn't ask, "Who will deliver me from this drug culture?" He asked, "Who will deliver me from me?"...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 11
June 6, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
Go back to Ephesians and then also into 1 Timothy. We've only got four more services that we're going to be dealing with this subject so we want to get right into it and see if we can draw this thing to a conclusion.
Ephesians and 1 Timothy 3-we want to talk some more about the responsibility of headship in the home to bring about teaching and admonition so that there will be fruit that remains in our ministries. If we don't raise up a godly generation, we've failed, men, to do what God has called us to do. Genesis 18 tells us-why did God choose Abraham? We all remember that, right? He said, "I chose you because I knew that you would be faithful to take these and teach them to your children and your children's children." That's why Abraham was chosen, because he was going to be an obedient servant and make sure that the statutes of God went to the next generation and the generation following.
So this is what God is looking for in our lives, and if we're going to be men of faith, Abraham was the father of faith. We talk about a lot of things that Abraham had done and how he had stood on the Word of God. We see the miraculous birth of Isaac, and we see the offering up of Isaac on Mount Moriah and these different things, but I want you to understand the thing that God saw in him was an obedient heart to train up his children in the way that they should go. That's why God chose him, so if you're going to find a true man of faith-and we talk about all the things that made Abraham the father of faith. The father of faith was the father of obedience to require holiness in his children...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 12
June 10, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
We want to continue with the teaching on "Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers." We've dealt with a lot of very touchy situations, and we're not through yet, but… Hopefully, it'll cause some peace to come into your homes. The Scripture says that when things operate properly, your prayers will not be hindered. And that's what we're looking for: the right relationship that we can have with Father to where there's unity and harmony in the home, and you can dwell at peace with one another, praise God! We realize that man was created for the very purpose of having fellowship with God. Woman was created for the purpose of bringing about ministry to the man as helpmeet, one that would surround him and assist him and prop him up. We know that the woman was made, woman's sole purpose is, for the man. It's not very popular today; it goes contrary to what's being propagated today in our women's lib movement and our human rights movement and all of these different things. We see that, ladies, you have one right, and that's to submit yourselves to your husbands and to serve them as God created you for that purpose. That's your right. That's why you're here. To have any other perspective is going to bring about frustration to you as an individual, so you need to realize that this is where God has created you, and you need to rejoice in that. We realize that the head of the woman is the man, and the head of the man is who? Christ.
So, man is not the ultimate source of authority on the planet. Thank God for that. We realize that he has a head and that there is wisdom that comes from God that the man has to administrate in his home and in dealing with his wife. We saw that man can only operate in one way, and that's to operate in love. And to do so, then, would be able to represent Jesus Christ. And when he operates in love, he's laying his own life down for his wife and for his children. We realize that this is the requisite that man has. So it's important for us to see these things as we draw some of these things together. The man is only the undershepherd of the lordship of Jesus, he's there representing God's Word in the home. He's not to make his own rules, he's not to set forth his own philosophies, but he's there to administrate the Word of God. So that's the responsibility that we have as husbands...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 13
June 10, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
We have a few questions we're going to try to deal with tonight. So, we're going to try to keep them as concise and practical as we can, praise God. Anybody else? I have one more question that came in here, let me check that out. Janet, you want to come up and join me, here? We'll take a look at some of these.
In the study that we've been doing, there are many, many books that are available. But if you don't have these, I'd encourage you to get them. They're very simple, two men that have dealt with some very practical things. It's like everything else, you have to eat the hay and spit out the sticks. But Christian Living in the Home by Jay Adams is a good book that will be a blessing to you, I believe, and deals with some real good subject matter. Many of you have probably read it. "The Christ-centered Home," "Communication Comes First," "Single Persons" (how to find a mate). We've been talking about how to find a mate when we spent the time in 1 Timothy 3 and Proverbs 31. That's how you find a mate. You walk around with that list and if they don't measure up you don't marry them. Then, it's a word to the wives, "Loving Leadership," "Discipline With Dignity," and "How To Live With An Unbelieving Husband," couple of the passages that are in there. Spirit-Controlled Living by Tim and Beverly LaHaye has some good practical aspects in it. Chapter headings include: "The Importance Of Family," "Decline Of Family," "Key To A Happy Marriage," "Six Major Problems In Marriage," "Role Of The Wife," "Role of The Husband," "Communication," "Finances In The Home," "The Church And Your Family," and "Prayer Power For Family Living." It's a very good book. And like I said, there are some things in there that you can draw from that are excellent. There are a few in there, some, that you'll have to discern. God will give you the wisdom to choose what truth is. Okay!...
Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 14
June 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott
Until there's a transformation of character and we become truly holy, and we become sanctified individuals, we're not going to be capable of communicating through the old man. So he says, "Wherefore [and look at Ephesians 4, verse 25 and this is what we want to pick up on, some of the specifics] putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:Neither give place to the devil. Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, [If we're going to communicate properly, here's something very important] forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."
This is very important for us to see, the aspect of being able to move in the love of God in communication. First thing that we're looking at here that we're required if we're going to be communicating properly, we're required to speak the truth. So we're not communicating biblically until we're telling the truth to each other. Many times we think that we're going to get somewhere by coating over the issue; talking around the issue. If we're going to communicate biblically, we've got to get right to the issue; don't we? We're children of light. We can't walk in darkness. We have to deal with at all times, in biblical communication, with truth...
