Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 9

Calvary Temple

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 9

June 3, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

We are going to continue with our study on "Headship, Helpmeets, and Lovers." You say, "When are we going to get to the 'lovers' part?" It's coming, so just hang on and we'll get there, praise God. We've been hearing from both the men and the women that they want to get into that topic. We've had some of the women come and say, "You wouldn't believe my husband!" Yes, I would. We're going to get him straightened out before this thing is over; and all the ladies said, "Amen!"

Last Sunday morning we were dealing with the primary obligations of the husband, the man, the head of the house; and we saw in Ephesians that the first requirement of the man is that he does what? That he loves his wife as Christ loved the church, amen? Love is what man is required to do. If love is not the dominant force in the house, it's the man's fault. Ladies, you missed a good opportunity to say "amen." If love is not the dominant force in the home, it's the man's fault. Regardless of how the children or the wife respond to that love, makes no difference. It's the man's responsibility to love, because he has been put into the position of headship. As we saw in Ephesians last week, who is it that he's representing? As Corinthians tells us, who is his head? Christ. Does Jesus ever exhibit anything but love? So, if we're the representative of our head Jesus, then we have to love at all times, regardless of circumstances. Men, regardless of how unlovely the situation might be we are responsible to love at all times. That's what God has called us to do. Yet we seem to think that the women are the ones who have been chosen to love, to be gentle, and to be kind, as if that was their place; and that we're here to be rulers, dictators, and totalitarian in our approach to life. That is not what we've been called to do. As we were sharing last Sunday night, love is not 'ooey-gooey' compromise. Love is holding up the standards of the Word of God regardless of our own emotions, regardless of how much it hurts us personally, and requiring the will of the Lord be done. Amen?

We are beginning to see what true biblical love is. First John says that perfect love is doing what? Keeping the commandments of God. The consequence is that it casts out the fear of judgment. How is it that it casts out fear of judgment? Because I've been obedient to keep the Word of God I'm not afraid of judgment. I'm doing what God is requiring of me; therefore, I don't fear the presence of God or standing up and being judged. What's the standard that God is going to use to judge us? The Word of the Lord. If I'm keeping the Word of the Lord then what problem do I have with judgment? There is no fear of judgment, I've already judged myself and required of myself to do the Word of God...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 1

May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

That's the calling, and we're going to take a look at that and discern why woman has been put into that position and how woman has been prepared for that ministry, and I believe it will be a blessing to us and just an area of us being able to establish the divine order in the home, praise God. Okay, let's turn, if you would, to the book of Titus, and we'll kick this thing off and see what happens. We'll start off our special this morning with that very scriptural song, I Want a Girl (Just Like The Girl That Married Dear Old Dad). What's your concept of "Mom" this morning? We all have different figures that come to our mind when we talk about "Mom." My father has a tattoo on his left forearm that says "Mom," from when he was in the Navy. I don't know how drunk he was the night that he got that, but he does have that tattoo and we realize that "Mom" brings up a lot of different images into our mind. Janet was just with someone the other day; they were out exchanging some of the things that we had bought for my mother as a gift. She never buys anything for herself, so we went down and bought her about seven complete outfits to wear, different outfits to wear, and we combined it as a birthday/Mother's Day kind of thing. They were down there exchanging some of them and there was a lady, at this particular counter at the store, that was just really giving her mother fits. And there was another comment that was made about, "You know, my mother's in her older age; she's getting so cantankerous and so ornery, and she is just so this and that…" Here were these two ladies complaining about their mothers, and Janet made the comment and said, "Well, at least you still have your mother. Mine's been gone for 10 years." Ten years now, that Freda's gone and been with the Lord. What a blessed woman she was. I'll tell you, you don't usually hear people talk about their mothers-in-law this way, but this was a virtuous woman. Godly woman. Someone that you could emulate, if you wanted to know Freda, just know Janet, because she is the reproduction of her mother. And, in fact, isn't that what the Scripture says in Ezekiel? It says that that parable will come forth, that the daughter will be exactly like her mother (Ezekiel 16:44). Now ladies, if that frightens you, then in these teachings you'll be able to glean some truths and work on it-and see the transformation...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 2

May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

I trust all of you mothers have had a great Mother's Day. Did you guys take them out for dinner? I hope so. You'd better not have made them go home and fix lunch for you. How many of you mothers had to go home and fix lunch for that old-? Okay, there are a few. Some of them were brave enough to raise their hand. We very seldom go out to eat, but on Mother's Day I succumb to the pressures of society. In the heat of the moment, tradition is cast aside, and we go out to eat. I don't like going out to eat. There are too many people out there. I like going home, because I'm always around people. So when I get a chance, I'm alone. Besides, Janet cooks better than any of those restaurants anyway. You all can tell that by looking at me. Let's turn to Titus, and we'll pick up where we were. We do thank God for all, as I said this morning, all the mothers. We realize not only the high calling that you fulfill, ladies, but not only the seriousness and the importance of this role, but also the fact that probably this role of subordination is one that's misunderstood. In fact, I think I want to start off this evening by sharing with us the fact that subordination and the Christian role of the woman is not one of inferiority. It's not one of being in a position of a demeaning role. It's not like the woman's role in Islam. You know, this is one of the great growing religions in our nation. How many of you are aware of that? The reason is a lot of the ladies don't know what it entails. A woman is a second-rate citizen in Islam. But not in Christianity, not so. Subordination, submission, is not a role of inferiority. It's not a role of second-class citizenship. I think that's something that needs to be distinguished as we look at the Word of God...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 3

May 16, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

Man, it's taken us a long time to get you women straightened out. I didn't expect to have to spend this long at all, but I guess if you need it, we'll take the time. We're going to entitle this teaching "Headship, Helpmeet, and Lovers." We're going to get to every one of those categories, especially the last part. Because until we start moving in the recognition of having love one for another, we're not going to be able to affect any of our positions that God has ordained us to fulfill, because faith works by love; amen? And without faith it is impossible to do something; what is it? We realize, then, that this is what Father has called us to do and we're going to have to fulfill our God-given positions by faith. Whether it be headship, whether it be helpmeet, it doesn't make any difference. It's going to take faith to fulfill the job, and it works by love. Realizing and believing what 1 John says, the love that God has to us and then also fulfilling the mandate that we're to love with the same love that we've been loved with. We have to be gracious, loving and kind in the administration of our offices. Let's look at Titus, Chapter 2, and we'll pick back up on this particular subject. "But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: [So here comes some good doctrine for us.] That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed" (Titus 2:1-6). So we want to see in our lives that God's Word is exalted. Don't you want to be able to-the Scripture says we're supposed to be epistles read of men; amen? They're to look on us and see what the Word of God is all about...