Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 4

Calvary Temple

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 4

May 20, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

PASTOR SCOTT: Ephesians, Chapter 5. Let's start off there since that's where we left off in our last session. Beginning in verse 21, "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. [Husbands, to the degree that Jesus loved the church-to the degree that Jesus loved the Church-love your wives] even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, [for this purpose] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband" (verses 21-33).

So there it is, capsulated, what the Spirit of God is calling us to. We'll be spending more time in some of the details in future sessions. In just a second we'll give opportunity to ask questions on what we've covered up to this point. What did you want to share?

JANET SCOTT: Well, first of all, I wanted to share with you that people often times look at me and have an image of what they think I am and who they think I am. I've been here for many years now, about eighteen, and some of you don't know what my background is and the role that I play here, as the Pastor's wife. So I wanted to give you a little bit of background because so many of you are single adults that this teaching on the submission of the wife and the place of the wife in the home is not really applicable. It is applicable, however, if you plan on getting married some time in the future, because you don't become a submissive person simply by saying wedding vows. You need to have the character of God in you before you can make this lifetime commitment...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 1

May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

That's the calling, and we're going to take a look at that and discern why woman has been put into that position and how woman has been prepared for that ministry, and I believe it will be a blessing to us and just an area of us being able to establish the divine order in the home, praise God. Okay, let's turn, if you would, to the book of Titus, and we'll kick this thing off and see what happens. We'll start off our special this morning with that very scriptural song, I Want a Girl (Just Like The Girl That Married Dear Old Dad). What's your concept of "Mom" this morning? We all have different figures that come to our mind when we talk about "Mom." My father has a tattoo on his left forearm that says "Mom," from when he was in the Navy. I don't know how drunk he was the night that he got that, but he does have that tattoo and we realize that "Mom" brings up a lot of different images into our mind. Janet was just with someone the other day; they were out exchanging some of the things that we had bought for my mother as a gift. She never buys anything for herself, so we went down and bought her about seven complete outfits to wear, different outfits to wear, and we combined it as a birthday/Mother's Day kind of thing. They were down there exchanging some of them and there was a lady, at this particular counter at the store, that was just really giving her mother fits. And there was another comment that was made about, "You know, my mother's in her older age; she's getting so cantankerous and so ornery, and she is just so this and that…" Here were these two ladies complaining about their mothers, and Janet made the comment and said, "Well, at least you still have your mother. Mine's been gone for 10 years." Ten years now, that Freda's gone and been with the Lord. What a blessed woman she was. I'll tell you, you don't usually hear people talk about their mothers-in-law this way, but this was a virtuous woman. Godly woman. Someone that you could emulate, if you wanted to know Freda, just know Janet, because she is the reproduction of her mother. And, in fact, isn't that what the Scripture says in Ezekiel? It says that that parable will come forth, that the daughter will be exactly like her mother (Ezekiel 16:44). Now ladies, if that frightens you, then in these teachings you'll be able to glean some truths and work on it-and see the transformation...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 2

May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

I trust all of you mothers have had a great Mother's Day. Did you guys take them out for dinner? I hope so. You'd better not have made them go home and fix lunch for you. How many of you mothers had to go home and fix lunch for that old-? Okay, there are a few. Some of them were brave enough to raise their hand. We very seldom go out to eat, but on Mother's Day I succumb to the pressures of society. In the heat of the moment, tradition is cast aside, and we go out to eat. I don't like going out to eat. There are too many people out there. I like going home, because I'm always around people. So when I get a chance, I'm alone. Besides, Janet cooks better than any of those restaurants anyway. You all can tell that by looking at me. Let's turn to Titus, and we'll pick up where we were. We do thank God for all, as I said this morning, all the mothers. We realize not only the high calling that you fulfill, ladies, but not only the seriousness and the importance of this role, but also the fact that probably this role of subordination is one that's misunderstood. In fact, I think I want to start off this evening by sharing with us the fact that subordination and the Christian role of the woman is not one of inferiority. It's not one of being in a position of a demeaning role. It's not like the woman's role in Islam. You know, this is one of the great growing religions in our nation. How many of you are aware of that? The reason is a lot of the ladies don't know what it entails. A woman is a second-rate citizen in Islam. But not in Christianity, not so. Subordination, submission, is not a role of inferiority. It's not a role of second-class citizenship. I think that's something that needs to be distinguished as we look at the Word of God...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 3

May 16, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

Man, it's taken us a long time to get you women straightened out. I didn't expect to have to spend this long at all, but I guess if you need it, we'll take the time. We're going to entitle this teaching "Headship, Helpmeet, and Lovers." We're going to get to every one of those categories, especially the last part. Because until we start moving in the recognition of having love one for another, we're not going to be able to affect any of our positions that God has ordained us to fulfill, because faith works by love; amen? And without faith it is impossible to do something; what is it? We realize, then, that this is what Father has called us to do and we're going to have to fulfill our God-given positions by faith. Whether it be headship, whether it be helpmeet, it doesn't make any difference. It's going to take faith to fulfill the job, and it works by love. Realizing and believing what 1 John says, the love that God has to us and then also fulfilling the mandate that we're to love with the same love that we've been loved with. We have to be gracious, loving and kind in the administration of our offices. Let's look at Titus, Chapter 2, and we'll pick back up on this particular subject. "But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: [So here comes some good doctrine for us.] That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed" (Titus 2:1-6). So we want to see in our lives that God's Word is exalted. Don't you want to be able to-the Scripture says we're supposed to be epistles read of men; amen? They're to look on us and see what the Word of God is all about...