Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 13

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Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 13

June 10, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

We have a few questions we're going to try to deal with tonight. So, we're going to try to keep them as concise and practical as we can, praise God. Anybody else? I have one more question that came in here, let me check that out. Janet, you want to come up and join me, here? We'll take a look at some of these.

In the study that we've been doing, there are many, many books that are available. But if you don't have these, I'd encourage you to get them. They're very simple, two men that have dealt with some very practical things. It's like everything else, you have to eat the hay and spit out the sticks. But Christian Living in the Home by Jay Adams is a good book that will be a blessing to you, I believe, and deals with some real good subject matter. Many of you have probably read it. "The Christ-centered Home," "Communication Comes First," "Single Persons" (how to find a mate). We've been talking about how to find a mate when we spent the time in 1 Timothy 3 and Proverbs 31. That's how you find a mate. You walk around with that list and if they don't measure up you don't marry them. Then, it's a word to the wives, "Loving Leadership," "Discipline With Dignity," and "How To Live With An Unbelieving Husband," couple of the passages that are in there. Spirit-Controlled Living by Tim and Beverly LaHaye has some good practical aspects in it. Chapter headings include: "The Importance Of Family," "Decline Of Family," "Key To A Happy Marriage," "Six Major Problems In Marriage," "Role Of The Wife," "Role of The Husband," "Communication," "Finances In The Home," "The Church And Your Family," and "Prayer Power For Family Living." It's a very good book. And like I said, there are some things in there that you can draw from that are excellent. There are a few in there, some, that you'll have to discern. God will give you the wisdom to choose what truth is. Okay!...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 1

May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

That's the calling, and we're going to take a look at that and discern why woman has been put into that position and how woman has been prepared for that ministry, and I believe it will be a blessing to us and just an area of us being able to establish the divine order in the home, praise God. Okay, let's turn, if you would, to the book of Titus, and we'll kick this thing off and see what happens. We'll start off our special this morning with that very scriptural song, I Want a Girl (Just Like The Girl That Married Dear Old Dad). What's your concept of "Mom" this morning? We all have different figures that come to our mind when we talk about "Mom." My father has a tattoo on his left forearm that says "Mom," from when he was in the Navy. I don't know how drunk he was the night that he got that, but he does have that tattoo and we realize that "Mom" brings up a lot of different images into our mind. Janet was just with someone the other day; they were out exchanging some of the things that we had bought for my mother as a gift. She never buys anything for herself, so we went down and bought her about seven complete outfits to wear, different outfits to wear, and we combined it as a birthday/Mother's Day kind of thing. They were down there exchanging some of them and there was a lady, at this particular counter at the store, that was just really giving her mother fits. And there was another comment that was made about, "You know, my mother's in her older age; she's getting so cantankerous and so ornery, and she is just so this and that…" Here were these two ladies complaining about their mothers, and Janet made the comment and said, "Well, at least you still have your mother. Mine's been gone for 10 years." Ten years now, that Freda's gone and been with the Lord. What a blessed woman she was. I'll tell you, you don't usually hear people talk about their mothers-in-law this way, but this was a virtuous woman. Godly woman. Someone that you could emulate, if you wanted to know Freda, just know Janet, because she is the reproduction of her mother. And, in fact, isn't that what the Scripture says in Ezekiel? It says that that parable will come forth, that the daughter will be exactly like her mother (Ezekiel 16:44). Now ladies, if that frightens you, then in these teachings you'll be able to glean some truths and work on it-and see the transformation...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 2

May 13, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

I trust all of you mothers have had a great Mother's Day. Did you guys take them out for dinner? I hope so. You'd better not have made them go home and fix lunch for you. How many of you mothers had to go home and fix lunch for that old-? Okay, there are a few. Some of them were brave enough to raise their hand. We very seldom go out to eat, but on Mother's Day I succumb to the pressures of society. In the heat of the moment, tradition is cast aside, and we go out to eat. I don't like going out to eat. There are too many people out there. I like going home, because I'm always around people. So when I get a chance, I'm alone. Besides, Janet cooks better than any of those restaurants anyway. You all can tell that by looking at me. Let's turn to Titus, and we'll pick up where we were. We do thank God for all, as I said this morning, all the mothers. We realize not only the high calling that you fulfill, ladies, but not only the seriousness and the importance of this role, but also the fact that probably this role of subordination is one that's misunderstood. In fact, I think I want to start off this evening by sharing with us the fact that subordination and the Christian role of the woman is not one of inferiority. It's not one of being in a position of a demeaning role. It's not like the woman's role in Islam. You know, this is one of the great growing religions in our nation. How many of you are aware of that? The reason is a lot of the ladies don't know what it entails. A woman is a second-rate citizen in Islam. But not in Christianity, not so. Subordination, submission, is not a role of inferiority. It's not a role of second-class citizenship. I think that's something that needs to be distinguished as we look at the Word of God...

Headship, Helpmeet and Lovers, Part 3

May 16, 1990 • Pastor Star R. Scott

Man, it's taken us a long time to get you women straightened out. I didn't expect to have to spend this long at all, but I guess if you need it, we'll take the time. We're going to entitle this teaching "Headship, Helpmeet, and Lovers." We're going to get to every one of those categories, especially the last part. Because until we start moving in the recognition of having love one for another, we're not going to be able to affect any of our positions that God has ordained us to fulfill, because faith works by love; amen? And without faith it is impossible to do something; what is it? We realize, then, that this is what Father has called us to do and we're going to have to fulfill our God-given positions by faith. Whether it be headship, whether it be helpmeet, it doesn't make any difference. It's going to take faith to fulfill the job, and it works by love. Realizing and believing what 1 John says, the love that God has to us and then also fulfilling the mandate that we're to love with the same love that we've been loved with. We have to be gracious, loving and kind in the administration of our offices. Let's look at Titus, Chapter 2, and we'll pick back up on this particular subject. "But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: [So here comes some good doctrine for us.] That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed" (Titus 2:1-6). So we want to see in our lives that God's Word is exalted. Don't you want to be able to-the Scripture says we're supposed to be epistles read of men; amen? They're to look on us and see what the Word of God is all about...