SE 80: Heroine's Journey Part 8: Courage to Promote Myself
May 6, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week’s Listener Question: At work, I’m the director of my department. I really like my job but I want a promotion, a new position of greater responsibility and authority. How can I find the courage to self-promote and apply for new positions? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. How do you get sabotaged by your inner critic? What does is often say? 2. Can you think of a time when you waited for someone to rescue or validate you? Share your story. 3. When have you criticized a man in your life for something you needed to activate in your life? 4. Where do you need to self-promote? What holds you back? How can you take the next step of courage? 5. Stand in a warrior position (yoga or make up your own). How can your body claim more authority in your life? What would that look like? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Your Body Language My Shape Who You Are – TED Talk by Amy Cudy – https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?language=en The Confidence Gap – https://zengerfolkman.com/articles/the-confidence-gap-in-men-and-women-how-to-overcome-it/#:~:text=considering%20the%20confidence%20gap%2c%20gender,differ%20in%20quality%20or%20quantity. Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 79: Heroine's Journey Part 7: Healing the Mother-Daughter Split
April 30, 2024
This Week’s Listener Question: How can I empower my adult children to turn to God and trust their relationship with Him without me (Mom) as constant intermediary? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What is the nature of your “mother wound”? Was your mother more likely to be intrusive, controlling, rejecting, neglectful or somewhere in between? 2. How have your mother’s limitations played out in your life? 3. What would it look like to forgive your mother for her limitations? If you have forgiven her already, describe your journey. 4. When you think of your own limitations, what would it look like to forgive yourself? 5. If you are a mother, in what ways can you share with your childhood that they have everything they need within themselves to make decisions and /or move forward? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 How to Raise an Adult: Break Free from the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julia Lythcott-Haims https://www.amazon.com/how-raise-adult-overparenting-prepare/dp/1250093635/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2rk4kqiqubmyh&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.q-msp_rmq5cs1wjcltvwocawqgjatonchwiawq2mq0lku8ce5sxqxk-pzopohubmhx3z6apr-kvvoayqvc6zg1mur8cah_bq8zkdxe3olgrvajkddabsosewkrpghke2ao6tsezu7ogss3h8kxhxxkh2skxnznwrhpibwujlklmt1irkarfvdj_humalvsfqrrccg-c77lg1dcdetbijggsagvntkykmi-u_u9yx9y8.quav9gwau1r_ftztpvogzutiecjojtsj3zi0d9zanvg&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+raise+an+adult&qid=1714241290&sprefix=how+to+raise+an+adult%2caps%2c265&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 78: Heroine's Journey Part 6: Rediscover Your Wild Self
Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week’s Listener Question: I became an empty nester two years ago and I’m having an identity crisis. I no longer know what my life is supposed to be about. How do I find myself in this new season? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Releasing – What from your old life do you need to release: clutter, relationships, roles, patterns of beliefs, fears…? 2.Reclaiming – What is your current relationship with your passions and desires? How could you reclaim passions that you buried a while ago? 3. Rewilding – What wild parts of yourself need to be accessed now? How can your creativity come out? What desires need exploring? 4. It’s Time to Rewild! – How can you run experiments, follow your curiosity, and roar your dreams and desires? What the first step you need to take this week? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes https://www.amazon.com/women-who-run-wolves-archetype/dp/0345409876/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1ejowkg606bli&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.pdatixnf62j_6y7vbjsibd5gwm8zsbzfknzvncijmlzcmqgnawaa0eyxe39gmlw1rtuqlffpk5ftyyrpy-wbwxm1r36b8lec6nav-n8kg7-lqlmie0vquqysahng7ngodc4tanrxrfwgxh4hi833nyrpad7xvqpp2y2a4lrst22rmbmfjbxi1amqv2t6mrc2visykt5gv75ws1tzwnfmacq0edbpcqyeerxyyxqfp54.azqdv3sknhgv8fyosrbcljj2-1rusjgtjezksczgcry&dib_tag=se&keywords=women+who+run+with+wolves&qid=1713815429&sprefix=women+who+%2caps%2c211&sr=8-1 God, Sex, and Musical Theatre by Kristin Hanggi https://www.amazon.com/s?k=god+sex+and+musical+theatre&crid=1kb8mwk87rus7&sprefix=god+sex+and+musical+theatre%2caps%2c141&ref=nb_sb_noss_2 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 77: Heroine's Journey Part 5: Wandering Through Darkness
April 16, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week's Listener Question: I went through a divorce a couple of years ago. I still feel like I’m wandering in the dark and can’t get over it. How do I get over this and move on? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What grade in school would have skipped if you could? 2. Christine and Laura shared several ideas for practicing rituals to help us move through loss. Which ones resonate with you? 3. What sign posts, guides, or strategies have you discovered while you were walking in darkness? 4. Think of a loss you’ve experienced. Where could you find community with other people who understand the road you’re walking? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you. Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock Book Learning to Walk in the Dark by Barbara Brown Taylor Book Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – HERE Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE
SE 76: Heroine's Journey Part 4: Depression Through a Different Lens
April 9, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week’s Listener Question: I have been fighting depression for over a year now with little to no relief. I’ve tried different medications and nothing seems to work. What would you suggest I do now? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When have you gone through a dark night of the soul? What did you learn about yourself? 2. What life events or disruptions can catapult us or the ones we love into depression or darkness? 3. In dark times of your life, who has been an ally, supportive companion, or trusted guide? 4. If you think about depression as something that clears out space, what new or fresh opportunities might be possible after the clearing? 5. How could dark times in light actually become a guide or light for what’s next? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you. Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth
SE 75: Heroine's Journey Part 3: Am I on the Wrong Path?
April 2, 2024
This Week’s Listener Question: Why is life so hard? I’ve going through a divorce, hate my job, and my best friend and I are fighting all the time. Does all this mean I’m on the wrong path? And if so, how do I get on the right one? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Where in your life are you playing it safe or clinging to old patterns? How might you step out or let go to move forward? 2. When have you played the martyr, sacrificing yourself to take care of someone else? What did you learn from this? 3. When was the last time imposter syndrome ramped up for you? Where were you and what voices were repeating in your head? 4. Have you ever looked to a romantic love to rescue, heal, or complete you? If so, share your story and conclusions. 5. We live in a world that is constantly telling us we’re not enough and need to hustle for approval. Where do you see this the most? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you. Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 74: Heroine's Journey Part 2: Don't Like Change?
March 26, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week's Listener Question: I don't like change at all. I like routine and predictability. Is the Heroine's Journey just for adventurous people or for all of us? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What did it mean to be a “good girl” in your family of origin? 2. How have you tried to separate from a mother figure and win a father’s approval? 3. What skills are now in your masculine arsenal such as competition, productivity, overworking, persuasion, achievement…? Where do you see these showing up during the week? 4. How can you trust yourself and step into your gifted space to live in your full capacity? What obstacles arise when you think of doing this? 5. What character traits need to increase in you to support you along this journey such as perseverance, courage, collaboration, confidence, strength, or faith? Write that one word on a sticky note and leave it in a place you will see it often. Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura unpacked stage two of the Heroine’s Journey. Journal about the questions above and continue recording your personal quest. What questions arise for you. Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Announcement: Laura’s next faith study, Identity Theft, has been rescheduled for the Fall of 2024. Mark your calendars now. Registration will open in August for a launch date in early September. We hope to see you online or in person! Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 73: Heroine's Journey Part 1: Pain as a Catalyst For Change
March 19, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week's Listener Question: Christine and Laura, I feel stuck. My life feels like I’m just going through the motions – same thing, same ways, every single day. There has to be more! What do I do to get unstuck? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. In what places of your life are you feeling stuck? 2. What fears or concerns are keeping you clinging to safety or the same routines? 3. How might pain be a catalyst for change in your life? Share a time when pain actually pushed you forward in a good way. 4. Who can you invite into this “Heroine’s Journey” quest and conversation? We’re stronger together and never meant to walk life’s journey alone. Soul Challenge: Laura and Christine will continue to unpack the Heroine’s Journey for the next few weeks. They will be inviting you to take steps of courage. So, grab a journal and start recording your personal quest. Announcement: Laura’s next faith study, Identity Theft, has been rescheduled for the Fall of 2024. Mark your calendars now. Registration will open in August for a launch date in early September. We hope to see you online or in person! Resources: The Retreat Christine mentioned – https://www.theporchcommunity.net/join-the-community Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert https://www.amazon.com/big-magic-creative-living-beyond/dp/1594634726/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1t4rppl227jch&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.3cexmlodgy0td0owfg6ze1qendore2ssjgnpy2mtbelxidrtp2vnep7wazmtogn_qh6mh65u_zvx8qzvoivvqlcon6nrkt5xbzbnsilhbuftigrfbmr7ajxsibjzuvm3ghcyyhudnamj0qn1vxnmpqu4wnys4sgjyuvhh19yyyqdorqsztysmgsnsu4cakkbhmwrhcwsnakfwxwnosyhs_vhk56_vpdgcvl92pd-xbk.3hshjj9oineqq4tjuatwrj6sgtmyfab8zraert6syty&dib_tag=se&keywords=big+magic+elizabeth+gilbert+book&qid=1710605111&sprefix=big+magic%2caps%2c321&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 72: How to Navigate Through Grief
March 12, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week’s Listener Question: I lost my mother two years ago and had to be strong for my dad. Now we’re getting close to the anniversary of her death and I’m getting really anxious and angry at everyone who wants to talk about it. How do I deal with this? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Name some of the small and large losses you’ve suffered in the last several years. What emotions have come up for you? 2. How does grief tend to manifest in your body? (chest, neck, throat, back, belly…) What body sensations or muscle tension do you notice you’re carrying? 3. Who are some people you trust who can witness your grief? 4. Christine and Laura shared that mourning is the outpouring of your grief and needs to be witnessed. What holds you back from mourning with others? 5. What are some ways you can discharge the grief held in your body or soul? (sway, run, sing, play music, stretch, meditate, pray…) Soul Challenge: Do you struggle to walk confidently in your true identity? Laura is leading a powerful class, IDENTITY THEFT, online and in person starting on April 4, 2024. Learn more here – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/identity-theft Use this discount code for $10 off the entire class – FRIENDID Resources: Where’d You Park Your Spaceship? An Interplanetary Tale of Love, Loss, and Bread by Rob Bell – https://www.amazon.com/whered-park-your-spaceship-interplanetary/dp/b0cc4gk65z/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2xuxm8jbzwppf&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.19tbskmt9kq9vryiy4rlsig8ntv4xliabeykf55ovz6oinzp5t33_ebyx9iygd0yk8hv7l2pm1de-sfqgoaw2sjhjveahtc6swi2btdcicu7xmwn53rp8k9tzev-7ngsgivch5e9_y7mqtbj46tomg.a6fwtebty8j9h-gukmcv2nj307nuluzhk3yoaperzxw&dib_tag=se&keywords=rob+bell+where+did+you+park+your+spaceship&qid=1709742863&sprefix=rob+bell+%2caps%2c154&sr=8-1 IDENTITY THEFT Who Do You Say I Am? April 4 – May 2, 2024 by Laura Busse and Jen Severn – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/identity-theft Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/
SE 71: Sex Drive: Are you speeding along or out of gas?
March 5, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
This Week’s Listener Question: My husband seems to have the same sexual appetite he had in his 20’s. My sexual appetite, on the other hand, has completely died. What’s wrong with me? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What were you taught about sex while you were growing up? Can you relate to Christine’s “good girl” complex? 2. How does sexual shame lock so many women up today? What practical steps of can we take that move us in the direction of freedom? What’s one you could take today? 3. How do you think outside stressors impact the intimacy and emotional bonding of couples? List the top five stressors you see in relationships. 4. If you’re married, what stressors are you experiencing in this season of life? How might you prioritize stress reduction and erotic playfulness? Soul Challenge: If you want to go deeper in your faith, take a look at how Jesus treated the woman at the well in John chapter 6. How did Jesus treat her, challenge her, and what did He call her to do? What does this divine encounter tell us about Jesus’ thoughts and emotions towards women? Resources: Esther Perel’s TED Talk – The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en The Gottman Institute, Dr. John Gotman – Making Marriage Work https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aktypgwfpgg&ab_channel=thegottmaninstitute Have a questions for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/http://www.3oclockwakeup.com Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://http://www.christineruth.com Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://http://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies
SE 70: Relationships Take Work
February 27, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
Yes. You read that right. I don’t remember this class being offered in school. This Week’s Listener Question: I heard your last episode (Soul Enchilada #69). I’d like to go deeper. What do you do when you’re in the third stage of marriage and your partner is resigned. It feels like he’s completely given up on making our marriage better. SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Think of your most significant relationship, what stage you are currently in? Stage 1 – Romantic / Infatuation Stage 2 – Disillusionment / Distraction Stage 3 – Contentment / Radical Acceptance 2. How did your parents navigate the different stages of marriage? How did that impact you? 3. How would you describe radical acceptance in marriage or key relationships? 4. What’s one step or one way you can move from blame or criticism to expressing your needs or sharing invitations with your partner or in a key relationship? Resources: It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse―and How You Can, Too by Winifred M. Reilly https://www.amazon.com/takes-one-tango-marriage-spouse_and/dp/1501125869/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2nohspa5z3yxu&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.k2oob0ygw Have a questions for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/http://www.3oclockwakeup.com Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://http://www.christineruth.com Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://http://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies
SE 69: The Thrill Is Gone
February 20, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
What do you do when you’ve been married for 25 years and there’s no passion left? Is it possible to get it back? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Laura and Christine discussed the five different types of love languages and encourage you to discover yours and your partners. Five Love Languages · Words of Affirmation · Physical Touch · Quality Time · Acts of Service · Receiving Gifts Do you know your top love language? If you don’t know it, here is a free quiz to discover it. https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes 2. If you could design your perfect date based on your love language, what would it look, sound, and feel like? 3. If we take our partner’s love language “off the table,” how does it damage the relationship and squelch our passion? 4. Why do you think pursuing our passions infuses passion into our relationships? How can you prioritize your passions this week? Resources: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel https://www.amazon.com/mating-captivity-unlocking-erotic-intelligence/dp/0060753641 Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/come-you-are-surprising-transform/dp/1476762090 Have a questions for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/http://www.3oclockwakeup.com Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://http://www.christineruth.com Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://http://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies
SE 68: What Goes Around Comes Around: Caring for Elderly Parents
February 13, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
What goes around comes around, as the saying goes. Caring for elderly parents bring up so many emotions that’s impossible to list them all here. Couple these with the overlay of decades of family dynamics and you’ve got yourself a good old fashioned mine field. This week we talk about walking through that mine field in ways that preserve relationships… and sanity. This Week’s Listener Question: Laura and Christine, You've talked a lot about love, tough love, enabling vs. coming alongside in relationships. But I am in a new season of life and the challenge has switched from me being the parent on a parent child relationship, to me being the adult child dealing with an aging parent. I see friends who are personally doing everything as a caregiver for their aging parent, sacrificing their own health and well-being, relationships and finances because they think they are required or responsible to personally take care of their parents. As I am preparing to have conversations with my own parents about this matter, can you give me some insight as to if we are required as Christians or good adult children to personally take care of our parents? Or is it ok to hire caregivers and professionals to do so, even if the parent disagrees to the extent of shaming or worse, like refusing to eat or take meds unless their adult child is the one to do it for them? Thanks! SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What honest, open, and loving conversations do you need to have with your family? What fears come up for you when you think about having these talks? What positive outcomes could come out of having these conversations? 2. In this season of your life, what are a few of your deepest desires? What holds you back from sharing these desires with your family members? How could sharing them draw you closer together? 3. In your own words, describe what you think leading with love in conversations sounds like and feels like? Resources: Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity by Peter Attia https://www.amazon.com/outlive-longevity-peter-attia-md/dp/0593236599/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=utf8&qid=1707802835&sr=8-1 Have a questions for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/http://www.3oclockwakeup.com Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://http://www.christineruth.com Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://http://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies
SE 67: Calming the Monkeys in Your Mind
February 6, 2024
We’ve all heard that one. Many of us have even used it as an excuse for being busy… too busy. This week we explore why we’re so busy and talk through strategies to slow ourselves down. This Week’s Listener Question: This past January, I set a goal to take time for myself to meditate and pray. But I can’t slow down and sit still. What’s wrong with me? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Think back to your family of origin. What was modeled to you around busyness? Did people have permission to slow down, rest, or play? 2. When you find yourself racing around and staying busy all the time what might you be avoiding? 3. What rituals or habits help you launch and land your day with calmness? If you don’t have any, what could you start this week? Apps to Explore: Calm Head Space 10 % Happier Abide Have a questions for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/http://www.3oclockwakeup.com Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://http://www.christineruth.com Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://http://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies
SE 66: Are you a Peacemaker or a Peacekeeper?
January 30, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth
Conflict. Peace MAKERS resolve it, while peace KEEPERS avoid it. While making peace is harder, it is better in the long run, because the conflict you avoid today will find you tomorrow. This week we talk strategies for how to best handle conflicts in order to minimize their impacts on your mental health and sanity. This Week’s Listener Question: My husband and I often fight in front of our kids. I really don’t like conflict and try to keep the peace. What’s your advice for dealing with family conflict? Small Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your small group, ask each other these questions. 1. What’s your window of tolerance when it comes to conflict? 2. What childhood stories can you remember that impacted your window of tolerance? 3. Make a list of the differences between peace keeping and peace making? Circle the ones you do most often. 4. How can you actively resolve conflict instead of avoiding it? That’s peace making! Resources: Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aktypgwfpgg&ab_channel=thegottmaninstitute Fighting for Your Marriage – https://www.amazon.com/dp/0470485914?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_dp_r7f0zn3b8hw7e11fraj1&language=en-us Non-Violent Communication – https://www.amazon.com/dp/189200528x?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_dp_rmzbgas9d31j6w3x0xet&language=en-us