SE 87: When You're Smothered By Another

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SE 87: When You're Smothered By Another

July 23, 2024

This Week's Listener Question:

My partner always wants me to go everywhere he goes. He won’t go to parties, games,

church, or vacations without me. It feels like he’s smothering me and I need some

space. What should I do without hurting his feelings?

Announcements:

Summer Webinar Series – You are invited to join Laura Busse and Dr. Michaelle Knight

August 8 – Press On with Perseverance and Make a Plan

Hope to see you there!

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. Reflecting on your family of origin and caregivers when you were a child, how

would you describe how your needs were met? What messages did you receive

about how to express your emotions?

2. Did you grow up seeing any of these patterns of anxious attachment – clinging,

controlling, people pleasing, helplessness, placating, or jealousy? Do you see

them in your relationships today?

3. Why do you think anxious attachment styles are common in relationships?

4. In what ways can we be connected to others yet still differentiated?

5. Celebrate one of your relationships that feels connected and you still have your

own autonomy. Or choose one you’d like to move in that direction. Make a plan

to communicate or celebrate with them.

Resources:

Attachment Style Assessment – Take the Quiz

Wired for Love by Stan Tatkan – Book

Attachment Styles in Adult Relationships - Complete Guide

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – HERE

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

SE 97: Mental Health Doesn't Take a Holiday

December 26, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: Even though I tried to make the holidays peaceful and wonderful for my family, everything seemed to blow up in my face. How is it that you can do everything “right” as a parent and your kids are still going through major mental health issues? Would you like to be with Laura and Christine as they record their 100th Soul Enchilada episode? If so, email Laura at mailto:laura@3oclockwakeup.com to reserve your seat. The recording will be done the week of January 20, 2025. We hope you’ll be a part of this fun event! SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What mental health issues are talked about in your family? Which ones are kept secret? 2. Why do you think some emotions or experiences are easier to talk about then others, even though they’re universal? 3. How has a painful experience led you towards a career path, opened a door, or invited you into a new opportunity? Share your story. 4. How can you show up, be present, listen without judgment, and lean in with love to someone who is struggling with a mental health issue? Resources: To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ To ask Laura to speak at your event – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com

SE 97: Holiday Panic

December 10, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: My college-aged kid came home from school super stressed out! How can I talk her off the ledge when she’s about to have an anxiety attack? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. How do your family members show their anxiety? 2. When you witness someone super anxious, what does it activate in you? 3. What helps you manage your personal anxiety? What’s in your “tool kit”? 4. In what ways can we model calmness in the presence of anxiety? 5. Brainstorm all the ways you can anchor yourself in calmness prior to a stressful situation, such as the holidays. Resources: To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ To ask Laura to speak at your event – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 96: Why Do I Keep Acting Like That?

November 26, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: What’s wrong with me? Every time I go home for the holidays, I revert back to my teenage self. I’ve matured so much since the but I act like a rebellious adolescent around my parents and siblings. SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. During the holiday, how do you regress or revert back to an older version of yourself? 2. How can you prepare yourself ahead of time for all the stress in this season? What do you need or want that might be different this year? 3. Who could be an ally for you this year, someone who holds you accountable for who you want to be? How can you purposefully plan with them? 4. What 3 values do you want to prioritize this holiday season? How will you live them out? 5. How can you anchor yourself in the person you’re trying to become or create? What the first step? Resources: Laura is hosting 3 free classes during the holidays to help prepare you for all the big emotions that come up this time of year. To register – https://www.griefandhope.org/event-list To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ To ask Laura to speak at your event – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/