SE 86: Can I Have Solid Relationships After a Shaky Childhood?

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SE 86: Can I Have Solid Relationships After a Shaky Childhood?

July 9, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question:

I’ve been learning about attachment styles and how we develop unhealthy attachment styles if we didn’t have secure attachment with our parents when we were growing up. I didn’t have one with my parents, so I’m wondering how to form a secure attachment with God and others. Is it possible?

Announcements:

Summer Webinar Series – You are invited to join Laura Busse and Dr. Michaelle Knight

July 18 – Embrace Disappointment and Dream Again

August 8 – Press On with Perseverance and Make a Plan

– Hope to see you there!

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

• Reviewing the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, which one did you experience in your family of origin?

• We invite you to take the attachment assessment below. What did you learn about yourself?

• What attachment style do you lean towards? Any thoughts of why this might be?

• Think of all the ways attachment styles play out in the world around you. How do they impact your relationship with God (however you define God), yourself, and others? What’s one way you could step closer and grow in one of these relationships?

Resources:

Attachment Style Assessment – Take the Quiz

Wired for Love by Stan Tatkan – Book

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – HERE

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

SE 95: A House Divided - Navigating Thanksgiving's Family Challenges

November 12, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: Thanksgiving is in two weeks. I really don’t want to host my extended family because we’re divided on several key topics. How do I navigate family division and still enjoy the holidays? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When you think about Thanksgiving this year, what feelings and thoughts come up for you? 2. Think of a time when you had “gridlock” with a partner or family member. How have you learned to love in the midst of conflict or disagreements? 3. In what ways could you practice self-care and self-compassion in this post-election and pre-holiday season? 4. Why do you think it’s important to H.A.L.T. (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) a conversation until you can take care of yourself? 5. Where are your safe spaces that you can express your genuine feelings and be present for others to express theirs? Resources: Laura is hosting 3 free classes during the holidays to help prepare you for all the big emotions that come up this time of year. To register – https://www.griefandhope.org/event-list To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ To ask Laura to speak at your event – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 94: When You're Lost in the Middle

October 29, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m in a really uncomfortable space. I used to be in breadwinner for our family. Now my husband and I switched places. He’s going to work and I’m staying home with the kids. I feel lost, without direction, in this new role. How do I motivate myself in this weird space? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What uncomfortable transition or liminal space do you find yourself in? 2. What different emotions are you noticing in your current space? 3. How can you create “sacred space” in this season of your life? What needs to shift in order to do so? 4. Laura and Christine talked about slowing down, honoring your emotions, reflecting, and trusting the process. Which it the hardest for you to do? Why do you think so? 5. What’s your one take away from this podcast you want to remember and apply in your life? Resources: In Midlife by Murray Stein – https://www.amazon.com/midlife-jungian-perspective-murray-stein/dp/1630510890/ref=sr_1_1?crid=9zretnfyq0mj&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.nftp6i4yg7jbqlbmylrvdeyusbup5rd77gomankhl0ujfv08tc993mvauqcjdim2khzgiq8d509gqqhc7zr9qglo6s--9ggfpgl-yj0bswfp5ouqeg0b8y1fbj5cn4jxpbuvfu4mwghirzvioptbye3y_ms_gy8e1ia8xxfexy0heupceorati2edukj7pvr.aio9o5fymae1ttnt_4arfknmce58wmdcpaqsozuvq4q&dib_tag=se&keywords=murray+stein+midlife&qid=1730140967&sprefix=in+midlife++murra%2caps%2c247&sr=8-1 To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 93: I'm Boiling Mad. Turn Up the Heat!

October 14, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: I grew up in a house where it was wrong to express your anger so I learned to suppress it. Now I’m conflicted because anger feels like a natural response when you’ve been wronged. What do you think? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What were you taught about anger when you were growing up? 2. Think of a situation that got your angry. What need was not being met? What boundary was being violated? How did you respond? 3. How has anger inspired you to make positive changes in your life? 4. When have you seen others create positive impact in the world because they were angry about something? 5. Where do you need to “turn up the heat” and express your anger in order to bring about greater intimacy, truth, or growth? Make a plan and go for it! Resources: To sign up for one-on-one grief support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/