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I Want to Forgive, But I Can't!

August 21, 2019 • A. W. Smith

If you struggle with forgiveness, don’t be discouraged. Forgiveness is hard because someone has hurt you. It’s okay to feel that hurt, but it’s not okay to hate the other person.

Jesus knows forgiveness is hard, which is why He included it in the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-15). He knows we need Him in order to forgive. If you’ve put your trust in Jesus, He’s forgiven your great debt of sin, and He is with you, giving you His power to forgive others when they sin against you. But what does that process look like?

Step 1: Let It Out. Pray about what hurt you. No emotion is too strong for God. Go to Him with everything, even deep anger and sadness. The book of Psalms in the Bible is filled with prayers like this.

Step 2: Let It Go. After the psalmists shared their hurts with God, they remembered who God was. God is just, so He will punish every wrong (Romans 12:19; 1 Peter 2:23). If you know Jesus, He’s already punished your sins by taking the punishment on Himself when He died on the cross (1 Peter 3:18). When you remember Jesus paid your great debt of sin, you can begin to let go of other people’s sins, trusting God to handle them.

Step 3: Look to God. To forgive means to stop holding the wrong someone did against them. It doesn’t necessarily mean trusting the other person, especially in a dangerous situation. Instead, the goal is to stop wanting bad things for them and to start wanting good things for them. This will be a process, and you can trust God to complete the work He started in you (Philippians 1:6).

Step 4: Put on Love. As Jesus chips away at bitterness in your heart, He
fills that space with His love for the person who hurt you (Matthew 5:44-45; Colossians 3:8, 12-14). Talk to God about this, and start praying for the person who hurt you. If possible, look for specific ways to bless them. Pray for wisdom and talk with trusted people to find the best ways to love the person who hurt you.


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