Re-Assembly Required
Re Assembly Required Part 6
October 15, 2023 • Jason Ewart
If a relationship will be brought to full reconciliation, it won’t happen until the (more) mature person decides to make a move in the direction of the relationship. As we wrap up the series, we’ll put together all of the steps we have covered, along with a new one, that are needed to bring the relationship back together. It includes forgiving from the heart, owning your slice, making the first move, and expressing forgiveness to people who apologize.
Re Assembly Required Part 5
October 8, 2023 • Jason Ewart
It’s easy for all of us to point out the wrong that someone else has done to us. It’s a little more challenging to point out the ways we have been wrong. But reconciliation only has a chance when you begin by identifying our owning your slice of the blame pie. You might be 50% responsible for the broken relationship. You might only be 5%. But restoration begins with owning your slice of the pie… and apologizing for it.
Re Assembly Required Part 4
October 1, 2023 • Sean O'Connell
Is reconciliation always a good idea? What about egregious sins? What about the people who have deeply hurt us and they’re not sorry that they did it? In the Bible we learn that there are some people are to be avoided – even after you forgive them. There’s an important distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation. Wise people let go of all resentment and anger to forgive. Wise people also recognize when to keep the walls high.
Re Assembly Required Part 3
September 24, 2023 • Jason Ewart
If you have a wound, it will either get infected or it will heal. There’s no third option. The same is true when someone sins against you. Your inner life will either heal, or it will get infected. But there’s some misinformation about forgiveness that can keep us from practicing it. In this message, we’ll address some common myths about forgiveness, and uncover exactly what forgiveness is and how it works. Forgiveness is not minimizing the seriousness of the offense (it’s important to acknowledge it’s a big deal). Forgiveness is not reconciliation (reconciliation is not always available). Forgiveness isn’t a team sport. It’s a one player game. Forgiveness is not forgetting what happened (it might be impossible to forget). Forgiveness is not a feeling, and it is not fair. So, what is it? Forgiveness is a choice. And if you decide to make the choice, healing will begin.
Re Assembly Required Part 2
September 17, 2023
We live in a culture that gives honor to people who portray themselves as victims. As a result, we’re becoming experts at casting ourselves as victims and telling ourselves stories that put us at the center of injustices. But if we allow ourselves to be easily offended by others, it indicates that we aren’t aware of how offensive we ourselves are. Not just to others, but specifically to God. But when you consider your life from God’s perspective, we realize we’re not as innocent as we portray. The ability to reconcile broken relationships begins with seeing how God treats people who have offended him.
Re Assembly Required Part 1
September 10, 2023 • Jason Ewart
When it comes to repairing relationships, many of us will need to unlearn some unhealthy behaviors. Many of us learned, or assumed, that in relationship conflict, we need to convince, coerce, convict or control. People have tried to do this to you, and perhaps you’ve tried to do it to other people. But every time a person uses the 4 C’s, incredible damage is done to the relationship. So, when a relationship is strained, how do you begin to put it back together? It begins by identifying the right goal. It is to live like Jesus.