Can a marriage truly recover from betrayal? In this episode Matthew and Joanna RaabSmith share their personal journey through pornography addiction, secrecy, broken trust, and the difficult but beautiful process of rebuilding their marriage. They explain why honesty, emotional safety, individual healing, and a willingness to seek help are essential to restoring intimacy and how God can use even our most painful stories to bring healing, purpose, and hope.

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Discussion Questions

1. Honesty: Is there anything we have been avoiding talking about because we are afraid of how the other person might respond? How can we make honesty safer in our marriage?

2. Trust and safety: What specific behaviors help each of us feel emotionally safe, valued, and secure? Are there ways we could become more consistent and reliable?

3. Secrets and shame: Why can it be so difficult to bring our struggles into the light? What role should confession, accountability, and Christian community play in our marriage?

4. Personal responsibility: When we experience conflict, do we tend to blame each other, become defensive, or take responsibility for our own part?

5. Intimacy: How comfortable are we talking openly about our emotional and physical intimacy? What makes these conversations difficult, and what would help us approach them with greater care?

6. Healing: Are there individual struggles, past wounds, or unhealthy patterns that we need to address rather than expecting our marriage to solve them?

7. Seeking help: If our marriage entered a difficult season, who would we turn to for wise counsel and support? Is there a step we should take now rather than waiting for a crisis?