Sermons
Episode 118 - Small Things Make a Big Difference in Marriage – (feat. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goi
March 4, 2025 • Brian Goins, Scott Kedersha, Shaunti Feldhahn • 1 Peter 3:9, Romans 2:4, Philippians 4:8
In Part 2 of their interview with Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how the little things truly matter in marriage. We discuss the importance of believing the best about our spouse and why we need a combination of quality and quantity time together. Scriptures: 1 Peter 3:9 Rom 2:4 Phil 4:8 Questions to Discuss: What are some small changes you can make in your marriage that could make a big difference? How do you and your spouse do at believing the best about your spouse’s intentions? How can you create more quality and quantity time together with your spouse? Resources: Book - https://amzn.to/3d3brdr, by Shaunti Feldhahn Shaunti’s Website – https://shaunti.com/ Follow Shaunti on https://www.instagram.com/shauntifeldhahn/ Follow Brian on https://www.instagram.com/thegoinson/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/married-with-benefits/id1459310515 Podcast (FamilyLife Network) Podcast - https://shaunti.com/podcast/
The Enemy Desensitzes
March 3, 2025 • Nate Hilgenkamp • Ephesians 4:17–32
Sin gradually desensitizes us, making what once felt wrong seem normal, which is exactly how Satan works to separate us from God. Ephesians 4 warns that when we give ourselves over to sin, we become aimless, hardened, and blind to its destruction, ultimately giving the enemy a foothold in our lives. Nate reminds us that as Christians, we are called to reject sin, pursue sanctification, and immerse ourselves in God's truth to fully embrace the life He desires for us. Sin Makes you senseless Christians part with sin to pursue sanctification Sin gives Satan a space in Christ's place Life Group Discussion: What are some warning signs that you might be drifting toward spiritual numbness? How can accountability within a community help us in the process of sanctification? What steps can you take this week to remove sin’s foothold and invite Christ into every area of your life?
Episode 117 - Changing the Way We Talk About Marriage – (feat. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins)
February 25, 2025 • Brian Goins, Scott Kedersha, Shaunti Feldhahn • 1 Corinthians 13:13, Hebrews 3:13, 1 Corinthians 7:28
In Part 1 of a 2-Part interview, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott interview Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins about the small things that make all the difference in marriage. In Part 1 we discuss the myth that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and why it’s harmful to perpetuate this myth Scriptures: 1 Cor 13:13 Hebrews 3:13 1 Cor 7:28 Questions to Discuss: How can you build your sense of hope in your marriage? What would you tell a young couple before they get married? How would you encourage or challenge them? What are some ways you need to change the way you talk about marriage with others? Resources: Shaunti’s Website – https://shaunti.com/ Follow Shaunti on https://www.instagram.com/shauntifeldhahn/ Follow Brian on https://www.instagram.com/thegoinson/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/married-with-benefits/id1459310515 Podcast (FamilyLife Network) Podcast - https://shaunti.com/podcast/
Episode 307: How To Be a Better Friend
February 24, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
If you’re looking for better friendships, the first step is to be a better friend! In this episode we talk about maintaining and sustaining relationships. Rather than just looking for other people to be better friends, you should take the first step!
Deconstruction
February 23, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda • 1 Timothy 4:1–10
As we continue our series, “State of Warfare”, JP looks to 1 Timothy 4:1-10, explaining the enemy’s mission to “abandon the faith” by causing believers to doubt and turn away from God. He highlights the enemy’s method of replacing a genuine relationship with God with rigid rules, leading to spiritual emptiness. JP encourages believers to stay motivated by building a faith that lasts, rooted in gratitude, prayer, and steadfast trust in Jesus. The enemy’s mission: Get you to “abandon the faith” The enemy’s method: Get you to replace relationship with rules Our motivation: To build a faith that lasts Life Group Discussion: Can you share a time when you felt tempted to give up on your faith? How did you respond? How can legalism affect your personal connection with God and others? How does gratitude play a role in strengthening your faith journey?
Episode 116 - How Can You Serve Each Other in Marriage When You Don’t Feel Like It?
February 18, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Philippians 2:1–11, Philippians 1:27, 1 Corinthians 13:6, Mark 10:45
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the importance and centrality of serving your spouse in marriage when life is full and busy and when you don’t feel like it! Scriptures: Mark 10:45 Gal 5:13 Phil 2:1-11 Phil 1:27 1 Cor 13:6 1 Peter 3:7 Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/42zfltt, by Ted Lowe More Than Roommates – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-16-the-importance-of-empathy-in-marriage/id1667102563?i=1000608364099 (feat. Ted Lowe) Questions to Discuss: 1. What is the thing around the house you hate to do? 2. What is one thing your spouse hates to do around the house? 3. What Does It Look Like to Serve Each Other in Your Marriage?
Episode 306: The Benefit of Doubt (feat. Craig Groeschel)
February 17, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
What should we do when we doubt an aspect of God? Is it even ok to admit that we have doubts? In this episode we talk to pastor and author, Craig Groeschel, about how our doubts can bring us closer to God! Check out more by purchasing his new book here: https://a.co/d/diJBWJ9
Don’t be Deceived
February 16, 2025 • Nate Hilgenkamp • John 8:31–46
Pastor Nate emphasizes that true freedom is found in abiding in Jesus' teachings, as God's truth breaks the chains of sin. He warns that Satan, the father of lies, seeks to deceive and destroy, leading people toward spiritual death. Ultimately, Nate reminds us that who we listen to determines who we belong to—either we follow God’s truth and find life, or we believe Satan’s lies and remain in bondage. God’s truth leads to freedom Satan’s lies lead to death Who you listen to is who you belong to Life Group Discussion: How can we ensure we are actively listening to and applying God's truth daily? In what ways have you seen deception negatively impact relationships, faith, or personal growth? What influences in your life are shaping the way you think and believe?
Resources to Help Marital Intimacy and What To Do Next? MTR Quickies Episode 12
February 14, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates (our last “Quickie”), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what’s next—what do you do with all that’s been shared in these 12 days of Quickie episodes. We also share some recommended resources to help you take the next step in your marriage and sexual intimacy. Questions to Discuss: Which episode of the 12 days of Quickies was most helpful to you? What’s something you learned in this series that you want to apply in your marriage? Are there some concepts discussed in these episodes that would be good to discuss with community to help encourage and challenge each other? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/christian-sexuality-java-with-juli/id1116000318 Podcasts – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-naked-marriage-with-dave-ashley-willis/id1437213097 and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-on-the-line-with-dave-ashley/id1777053396 Book – https://amzn.to/3c9dirn, by Douglas Rosenau Book - https://amzn.to/4jhpqn0, by Shaunti Feldhahn and Michael Sytsma
Frequently Asked Questions About Sex - MTR Quickie Episode 11
February 13, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • 1 Corinthians 7:1–5, Hebrews 13:4, Ephesians 4:29
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some frequently asked questions about sex, including questions about cussing in the bedroom, sexual abuse, can I say “No,” sex during menstruation, and more. Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 Hebrews 13:4 Ephesians 4:29 Questions to Discuss: How do you handle it in your marriage when one of you is in the mood for sex and the other isn’t? Is there any part of your past/your story that would be helpful to discuss a counselor or doctor to get some help and guidance? What questions do you still have about sex and marriage? Email them in to mailto:marriage@harriscreek.org for future episodes. Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ Ministry for those who have experienced sexual abuse – https://www.harriscreek.org/courageous-hope at Harris Creek Book – https://amzn.to/4jfvcox, by Justin & Lindsey Holcomb
Is the Goal of Sex Mutual Orgasm? MTR Quickie Episode 10
February 12, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question about orgasms—for him, for her, and the elusive unicorn of mutual orgasm. We also discuss some common differences between the male and female orgasm. Questions to Discuss: Have you and your spouse discussed your expectations about how to please each other? How can you take one step to help your spouse reach orgasm? How do you do in giving feedback to each other in the bedroom? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Podcast – The Naked Marriage Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/should-we-orgasm-together-hump-day-q-a/id1437213097?i=1000651981800 Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
A Christian Perspective on Birth Control - MTR Quickie Episode 9
February 11, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Romans 12:2, 1 Corinthians 6:19–20, Psalm 127:3
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question— how followers of Christ should think about and make decisions about birth control. What does the Bible say and how Christians should think about birth control. Scriptures: Psalm 127:3 Romans 12:2 1 Cor 6:19-20 Questions to Discuss: Have you and your spouse discussed your views about birth control? Take some time to pray about what God would have you do regarding birth control. Do some research about birth control and discuss with your doctor and your community as needed. Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Podcast – More Than Roommates Episode 42 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000627580668 Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
Suffering by Satan is Shaping by God
February 10, 2025 • John Elmore • 2 Corinthians 12:7–10
Pastor John talks about spiritual battles, explaining that struggles—whether from life, our own choices, or Satan—challenge our faith. Using 2 Corinthians 12, he shows how Paul’s hardships made him rely on God even more. In the end, trusting God through tough times makes us stronger and brings Him glory. Satan seeks to destroy you through suffering God shapes you in suffering We glorify God by trusting in the suffering Life Group Discussion: How have you seen suffering challenge your faith or the faith of others? Why do you think God allows suffering if He loves us? How can our response to suffering be a testimony to others?
Episode 305: The Greatest Threat to Your Faith
February 10, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
Our phones are costing us. They provide a constant distraction that will interrupt and interfere with our relationship with Jesus. Don’t let your addiction to your phone keep you from an intimate relationship with God!
Addressing Common Myths About Sex - MTR Quickie Episode 8
February 10, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some common myths and stereotypes about sex drive, desire, and frequency and some potential differences between men and women. Questions to Discuss: What’s the biggest challenge you face in your marriage related to sex drive, desire, and frequency? Have a conversation with your spouse about the topics raised in this episode. Make sure you listen well and seek to understand. Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/4gwmntt, by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1-when-it-comes-to-sex-drive-whats-normal/id1459310515?i=1000598466305 (FamilyLife Network) Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
What If There’s Pain, Guilt, or Shame in Sex? MTR Quickie Episode 7
February 9, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • 2 Corinthians 5:17, Romans 8:1, Genesis 3
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss common challenges couples face with sexual intimacy. These challenges (such as past abuse and trauma, physical pain, guilt and shame) are more common than we might realize, and if you’re struggling, you are not alone! Scriptures: Romans 8:1 Genesis 3 2 Cor 5:17 Questions to Discuss: What’s been the biggest challenge the two of you have faced in sexual intimacy? Who can you connect with to discuss any issues/challenges you face/could face when it comes to sexual intimacy? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Website – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
Married Sex In Different Seasons of Life - MTR Quickie Episode 6
February 8, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Song of Songs, 1 Peter 3:7, Genesis 2:25
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how sex changes in different seasons of marriage – newlyweds, with a newborn, with kids in the house, empty nest, and everything in between. Scriptures: 1 Peter 3:7 Genesis 2:25 Song of Solomon Questions to Discuss: How can you best serve each other in marriage and sexual intimacy in your current season of marriage? What’s one challenge you anticipate in the season ahead and how can you proactively address some of the potential challenges? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta
Is It Okay To Have a Quickie? - MTR Quickie Episode 5
February 7, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss whether or not it’s within bounds to “have a quickie.” We discuss different ways to think about sex depending on your schedule and margin, and how to have a healthy rhythm of intimacy. Questions to Discuss: 1. Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to quickies? 2. How can you make space for more extended time for intimacy together? Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-naked-marriage-with-dave-ashley-willis/id1437213097
Specific Questions of What’s In and Out of Bounds - MTR Quickie Episode 4
February 6, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Ephesians 5:3, Matthew 5:27–28, 1 Corinthians 10:31
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss specific questions of what’s in and out of bounds in the bedroom. What does the Bible say about specific questions such as pornography, masturbation, positions, oral sex, and so much more. Scriptures: Hebrews 13:4 1 Cor 6:18 Ephesians 5:3 MT 5:27-28 1 Cor 10:31 Questions to Discuss: 1. What are some ways you can honor your spouse and serve them in the bedroom? Discuss with one another. 2. Take a few moments to pray and ask God to help you honor God and your spouse when it comes to what’s in bounds and out of bounds. Pray for grace, patience, and tenderness with one another. Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta
What's In and Out of Bounds in the Bedroom? - MTR Quickie Episode 3
February 5, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Romans 14, Matthew 5:27–28, Philippians 2:3–4
In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some general principles of what’s in bounds and out of bounds in the bedroom. Sex cannot involve others besides your spouse (Matthew 5:27-28), cannot involve willingly hurting your spouse against their will (Philippians 2:3-4), and cannot violate your or your spouse’s conscience (Romans 14). Come back tomorrow as we get even more specific. Scriptures: MT 5:27-28 Phil 2:3-4 Rom 14 Questions to Discuss: 1. Have you and your spouse ever discussed what’s in bounds and out of bounds in your bedroom? 2. Take a few moments to pray and ask God to help you honor God and your spouse when it comes to what’s in bounds and out of bounds. Pray for grace, patience, and tenderness with one another. Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3uyzlgl, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta