February 17, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Colossians 3:23–24, Proverbs 13:12, Matthew 6:21–24, 1 Corinthians 10:31
Busyness with work isn’t just a scheduling problem—it’s often a heart and priority problem that quietly harms marriages. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and unpack how couples with two busy jobs can stay aligned, communicate expectations, and intentionally protect their marriage in demanding seasons.
Discussion Questions:
1- What currently makes our schedules feel most overwhelming, and why?
2- What unspoken expectations do we have about work, availability, or lifestyle?
3- Which priorities might need to be temporarily scaled back to protect our marriage?
4- What would it look like for us to implement daily, weekly, and annual rhythms of connection?
Episode 359: The Way We Date Isn’t Working
February 16, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
In this episode we talk through the major issues young adults have in dating. Are our standards too high? Not high enough? We talk through why things aren’t working and how to fix it!
The Gospel Changes Everything
February 15, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • Colossians 1:1–14
The gospel creates a real before-and-after in our lives, changing what people see on the outside through love, hope, and faith. It transforms us on the inside with new strength and confidence that God is for us. And it moves us into a new Kingdom, where we don’t just act better, we live rescued and changed by Jesus.
The Gospel changes the outside
The Gospel changes the inside
The Gospel changes your Kingdom
Life Group Discussion:
Where do you feel like your actions don’t always match what you say you believe?
When life gets hard, what do you usually run to for strength or control?
What would it practically look like this week to live like you belong to a new Kingdom instead of just trying to be a “better person”?
Episode 167- Make this the Best Valentine's Day Yet
February 10, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Song of Songs 1, Hebrews 3:13
Valentine’s Day can feel commercial, awkward, or unnecessary—but it’s actually a powerful opportunity to fight complacency and intentionally love your spouse. In this episode, the More Than Roommates crew unpacks why celebrating your marriage matters, how simple intentionality can transform connection, and practical ways to make this Valentine’s Day meaningful.
Discussion Questions:
1- What makes you feel most loved on days like Valentine’s Day?
2- When Valentine’s Day approaches, what expectations (spoken or unspoken) do you each carry?
3- What can we do this week to celebrate our marriage?
Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/love-languages-secret-that-lasts/dp/080241270x
Episode 358: Preparing for Marriage (feat. Christian Bevere)
February 9, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
In this episode we get to talk to author, Christian Bevere, about how to wait well for marriage. In your singleness, how can you pray for your spouse while also being content in your current season?
What to do When Desire Drifts
February 8, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • Revelation 2:1–7
JP taught that spiritual drift isn’t usually rebellion but routine, doing the right things while losing real desire for God. Jesus’ message to Ephesus shows the answer isn’t trying harder but repenting and returning to our first love. When we rebuild rhythms that stir our affection for Him, our faith becomes real again.
Discipline without desire leads to drift
Lost love is restored through repentance
Return to rhythms that stir affections
Life Group Discussion:
What spiritual habits do you keep out of routine rather than relationship?
How could admitting drift strengthen your relationship with God instead of producing shame?
What specific practices or environments help you feel closest to God?
Episode 166- Navigating Mental Illness in Marriage
February 3, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, John Elmore • Ephesians 5:28, Galatians 6:2, 1 Timothy 5:19–23, 1 Peter 5:7
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and John Elmore to discuss what it looks like to walk faithfully with your spouse through mental illness. With biblical clarity, compassion, and practical wisdom, John shares how he and his wife Laura have navigated OCD, stigma, treatment, and the call to love your spouse as yourself even when it is difficult.
Discussion Questions:
1- When one of us is struggling emotionally or mentally, do we tend to fix, minimize, or walk alongside? How can we grow in being more present?
2- Are there areas where mental or emotional health struggles feel stigmatized or unspoken in our marriage?
3- How do we discern when to show compassion versus when to gently coach one another forward?
4- What fears do we carry about seeking outside help (therapy, medication, counseling)?
Resources:
https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/
Episode 357: How to Be Yourself
February 2, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
Many of us are so prone to changing who we are based on who we’re around. In this episode we talk about how we can stop pretending, and to be who God created us to be!
The Greatest Obstacle to Loving God
February 1, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • 1 John 4:16–19
JP’s sermon taught that many of us struggle to love God because we’re afraid, He’s disappointed in us. But God is love, and His perfect love removes our fear because Jesus already took our punishment. We don’t love God to earn love; we love because we’re already loved.
God is love
Perfect love casts out fears
God loves you
Life Group Discussion:
When you think about God, do you naturally picture love or disappointment? Why?
In what areas of your life do you need to let God’s love replace fear right now?
What helps you remember God’s love when you mess up or feel unworthy?
Episode 165- More Than Parents: Marriage in Different Parenting Seasons
January 27, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Proverbs 22:6
Parenting introduces new pressures at every stage, but it doesn’t have to pull your marriage apart. In this episode, the MTR Team walk through four major parenting seasons and share how couples can stay united, intentional, and More Than Roommates at every stage.
Discussion Questions:
1- Which parenting season are we currently in, and how is it impacting our marriage right now?
2- Do we feel like we’re truly on the same team—or unintentionally siding with our kids over one another?
3- How do our differences (personality, discipline style, love language) strengthen or strain our marriage?
4- What is one intentional habit we can reintroduce (or start) to protect our marriage in this season?
Episode 356: You Can Love the Bible! (feat. Amanda Bible Williams)
January 26, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
In this episode we talk to Amanda Bible Williams, one of the founders of She Reads Truth. They have put together a fantastic new resource called “The Bible is for You” that will help everyone love their Bible more. To learn to love the Word of God more, check out this episode!
Authentic Love for God
January 24, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • 1 John 5:1–5
When we believe in Jesus, our faith shows up in real ways: we love God’s people, walk in obedience, and live with confidence that Christ has already won the victory. Because of that faith, we don’t just survive the world around us, we live joyfully, grounded in who Jesus is and what He’s done.
We Love His children
We Obey His commands
We are Victorious over creation
We Enjoy faith in Christ
Life Group Discussion:
Who is someone in your life that’s hard to love right now, and what might it look like to love them like Jesus does?
Which of God’s commands do you find easiest to follow—and which feel the hardest right now?
Where do you need to start believing that Jesus has already won, instead of living like you’re trying to win on your own?
What spiritual habits help your faith feel alive and meaningful?
Episode 164 - How to DATE Your Spouse
January 20, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, John Elmore • Amos 3:3, Ephesians 5:33, 1 Corinthians 7:1–7, 1 Corinthians 13:1–7, Song of Songs 2:10
What if the difference between feeling like roommates and feeling deeply connected was as simple as dating your spouse again? In this episode, the team unpacks the powerful framework of DATE—Dialogue, Affection, Time, and Ephesians 5 (love and respect)—and how practicing it can transform your marriage in any season.
Discussion Questions:
1- Which part of DATE do we currently do best? Which one do we tend to neglect?
2- How has busyness, kids, or phones affected our dialogue?
3- How can I love or respect you more clearly this week—in how I say things, not just what I say?
4- What would one simple, realistic date look like in our current season?
Episode 355: What Happens When We Sing (feat. Shane & Shane)
January 19, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
Shane and Shane have been writing songs for the church for years, and they’ve gotten to see how songs impact us. They’re convinced that we were made for worship! Their new daily devotional has helped thousands follow Jesus. To hear more, check out this episode!
Life Altering Love
January 18, 2026 • John Elmore • 1 John 4:7–10
Real love doesn’t start with us trying harder, it starts when we finally grasp how deeply God loves us through Jesus, even in our sin. When that love takes root, it changes everything: healed people love people, and a life transformed by grace becomes a life poured out for God and others.
The command and capability to love Is from God
The proof and purpose of God’s love in Jesus
Remember your sin to rekindle your love
Life Group Discussion:
What “environmental inputs” (community, media, habits, worship, Scripture) are currently shaping your heart—for better or worse?
Where might God be inviting you to love someone this week by laying down comfort, convenience, or control?
How have you seen gratitude for God’s forgiveness deepen someone’s love, joy, or obedience (maybe even in your own life)?
Episode 163- Should Married Couples Ever Separate?
January 13, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Matthew 19:6, James 4:1–2, Genesis 2:24
Separation is often presented as a healthy solution when marriage feels hard—but is it really? In this episode, the More Than Roommates team explores what separation actually means, why it so often leads to divorce, when it may be necessary, and how couples can pursue healing and restoration with Biblical wisdom and community.
Discussion Questions:
1- Why do you think separation so often leads to divorce rather than healing?
2- How does selfishness subtly show up in your marriage during hard seasons?
3- What role does community currently play in helping you protect and strengthen your marriage?
4- How could you better “water your own grass” in this season?
Resources:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zejvmetu5pvb4u0lcvzmh?si=wylpqzwirhe04g32t0bcjw
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lwq2zaupxmw5wadmlrfli?si=3cxbzhrdqigzu6hshyy5nw
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3i7ji84oboyt20ehpg729o?si=e5db0c3577e844c2
https://www.watermark.org/elders/marriage-divorce-remarriage
Episode 354: Can I Have Non-Christian Friends?
January 12, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
How do you handle friendships with people that don’t follow Jesus? How close can those people be to you? For help with your friendships, you won’t want to miss this episode!
What Keeps Us from Loving God?
January 11, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • 1 John 2:15–17
JP taught that access to God’s Kingdom means little if we don’t truly love Him. From 1 John 2:15–17, he showed that pleasure, possessions, and position apart from God pull our hearts away from loving Him.
The pursuit of pleasure apart from God
The pursuit of possessions apart from God
The pursuit of position apart from God
Life Group Discussion:
What desires or habits are shaping your appetite right now, and how are they affecting your love for God?
What is something you want right now, and how can you tell if that desire is rooted in gratitude or coveting?
In what situations do you find yourself most concerned with how others see you?
Episode 162- Joy in Marriage
January 6, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Nehemiah 8:10, Philippians 4:4–5, James 1:2, Hebrews 3:13, Psalm 27:13
Joy in marriage isn’t about perfect circumstances—it’s about a deep, Spirit-formed posture of the heart. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and special guest Andrew Owen explore how biblical joy sustains marriages through hardship, disappointment, and everyday life, and how couples can actively choose joy together.
Discussion Questions:
1- When you think about your marriage right now, would you describe it as joyful? Why or why not?
2- How would you define the difference between joy and happiness in your relationship?
3- What currently tends to rob joy in your marriage (fear, anxiety, unmet expectations, bitterness)?
4- How can you better encourage one another daily so your hearts don’t become hardened?
Episode 353: The Pressure to Perform (feat. Josiah Queen)
January 5, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
Josiah Queen is an artist that has found success at an early age. With songs like “The Prodigal” and “Dusty Bibles” he’s already selling out arenas in his young 20’s. We talk with him about what his journey has been like and how to stay grounded in God through all of it!
True Love Will Change Your Life
January 4, 2026 • Nate Hilgenkamp • Mark 12:28–34
Love always changes your life, and Jesus says the most important thing about you is not what you believe, but who you love, starting with God and flowing out to others. This year’s invitation is simple but weighty: sit in God’s love, let it reorder your priorities, and watch your love for Him grow into real, tangible love for people.
This Command Is the Benchmark
This Command Is a Blessing
This Command Comes with a Barometer
Life Group Discussion:
What areas of your life (time, money, habits, relationships) most clearly reveal what you love the most?
Where do you notice restlessness or dissatisfaction in your life, even when things are “going well” on the outside?
Who is the hardest person in your life to love right now, and what makes that difficult?
