Episode 165- More Than Parents: Marriage in Different Parenting Seasons
January 27, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Proverbs 22:6
Parenting introduces new pressures at every stage, but it doesn’t have to pull your marriage apart. In this episode, the MTR Team walk through four major parenting seasons and share how couples can stay united, intentional, and More Than Roommates at every stage.
Discussion Questions:
1- Which parenting season are we currently in, and how is it impacting our marriage right now?
2- Do we feel like we’re truly on the same team—or unintentionally siding with our kids over one another?
3- How do our differences (personality, discipline style, love language) strengthen or strain our marriage?
4- What is one intentional habit we can reintroduce (or start) to protect our marriage in this season?
Episode 356: You Can Love the Bible! (feat. Amanda Bible Williams)
January 26, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
In this episode we talk to Amanda Bible Williams, one of the founders of She Reads Truth. They have put together a fantastic new resource called “The Bible is for You” that will help everyone love their Bible more. To learn to love the Word of God more, check out this episode!
Episode 164 - How to DATE Your Spouse
January 20, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, John Elmore • Amos 3:3, Ephesians 5:33, 1 Corinthians 7:1–7, 1 Corinthians 13:1–7, Song of Songs 2:10
What if the difference between feeling like roommates and feeling deeply connected was as simple as dating your spouse again? In this episode, the team unpacks the powerful framework of DATE—Dialogue, Affection, Time, and Ephesians 5 (love and respect)—and how practicing it can transform your marriage in any season.
Discussion Questions:
1- Which part of DATE do we currently do best? Which one do we tend to neglect?
2- How has busyness, kids, or phones affected our dialogue?
3- How can I love or respect you more clearly this week—in how I say things, not just what I say?
4- What would one simple, realistic date look like in our current season?
Episode 355: What Happens When We Sing (feat. Shane & Shane)
January 19, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
Shane and Shane have been writing songs for the church for years, and they’ve gotten to see how songs impact us. They’re convinced that we were made for worship! Their new daily devotional has helped thousands follow Jesus. To hear more, check out this episode!
Life Altering Love
January 18, 2026 • John Elmore • 1 John 4:7–10
Real love doesn’t start with us trying harder, it starts when we finally grasp how deeply God loves us through Jesus, even in our sin. When that love takes root, it changes everything: healed people love people, and a life transformed by grace becomes a life poured out for God and others.
The command and capability to love Is from God
The proof and purpose of God’s love in Jesus
Remember your sin to rekindle your love
Life Group Discussion:
What “environmental inputs” (community, media, habits, worship, Scripture) are currently shaping your heart—for better or worse?
Where might God be inviting you to love someone this week by laying down comfort, convenience, or control?
How have you seen gratitude for God’s forgiveness deepen someone’s love, joy, or obedience (maybe even in your own life)?
Episode 163- Should Married Couples Ever Separate?
January 13, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Matthew 19:6, James 4:1–2, Genesis 2:24
Separation is often presented as a healthy solution when marriage feels hard—but is it really? In this episode, the More Than Roommates team explores what separation actually means, why it so often leads to divorce, when it may be necessary, and how couples can pursue healing and restoration with Biblical wisdom and community.
Discussion Questions:
1- Why do you think separation so often leads to divorce rather than healing?
2- How does selfishness subtly show up in your marriage during hard seasons?
3- What role does community currently play in helping you protect and strengthen your marriage?
4- How could you better “water your own grass” in this season?
Resources:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zejvmetu5pvb4u0lcvzmh?si=wylpqzwirhe04g32t0bcjw
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lwq2zaupxmw5wadmlrfli?si=3cxbzhrdqigzu6hshyy5nw
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3i7ji84oboyt20ehpg729o?si=e5db0c3577e844c2
https://www.watermark.org/elders/marriage-divorce-remarriage
Episode 354: Can I Have Non-Christian Friends?
January 12, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
How do you handle friendships with people that don’t follow Jesus? How close can those people be to you? For help with your friendships, you won’t want to miss this episode!
What Keeps Us from Loving God?
January 11, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • 1 John 2:15–17
JP taught that access to God’s Kingdom means little if we don’t truly love Him. From 1 John 2:15–17, he showed that pleasure, possessions, and position apart from God pull our hearts away from loving Him.
The pursuit of pleasure apart from God
The pursuit of possessions apart from God
The pursuit of position apart from God
Life Group Discussion:
What desires or habits are shaping your appetite right now, and how are they affecting your love for God?
What is something you want right now, and how can you tell if that desire is rooted in gratitude or coveting?
In what situations do you find yourself most concerned with how others see you?
Episode 162- Joy in Marriage
January 6, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Nehemiah 8:10, Philippians 4:4–5, James 1:2, Hebrews 3:13, Psalm 27:13
Joy in marriage isn’t about perfect circumstances—it’s about a deep, Spirit-formed posture of the heart. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and special guest Andrew Owen explore how biblical joy sustains marriages through hardship, disappointment, and everyday life, and how couples can actively choose joy together.
Discussion Questions:
1- When you think about your marriage right now, would you describe it as joyful? Why or why not?
2- How would you define the difference between joy and happiness in your relationship?
3- What currently tends to rob joy in your marriage (fear, anxiety, unmet expectations, bitterness)?
4- How can you better encourage one another daily so your hearts don’t become hardened?
Episode 353: The Pressure to Perform (feat. Josiah Queen)
January 5, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
Josiah Queen is an artist that has found success at an early age. With songs like “The Prodigal” and “Dusty Bibles” he’s already selling out arenas in his young 20’s. We talk with him about what his journey has been like and how to stay grounded in God through all of it!
True Love Will Change Your Life
January 4, 2026 • Nate Hilgenkamp • Mark 12:28–34
Love always changes your life, and Jesus says the most important thing about you is not what you believe, but who you love, starting with God and flowing out to others. This year’s invitation is simple but weighty: sit in God’s love, let it reorder your priorities, and watch your love for Him grow into real, tangible love for people.
This Command Is the Benchmark
This Command Is a Blessing
This Command Comes with a Barometer
Life Group Discussion:
What areas of your life (time, money, habits, relationships) most clearly reveal what you love the most?
Where do you notice restlessness or dissatisfaction in your life, even when things are “going well” on the outside?
Who is the hardest person in your life to love right now, and what makes that difficult?
Episode 161 - Looking back and Looking Ahead at New Years
December 30, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • 1 Samuel 7:12, Joshua 4, Lamentations 3:22–23
As the year comes to a close, join the More Than Roommates team for a short conversation about what it looks like to look back and look ahead as we all seek to be more intentional in our marriages. The MTR team reflects on what God's Word says about rememberance and how that applies to our marriages.
Discussion Questions:
1- Start, Stop, Continue- as you apply that idea to your marriage, what do you want to focus on in this new year?
2- How have you seen God move in the last year? What are you grateful for?
3- What is a place in your life you are still waiting to see God move?
Episode 352: Sex by Design Part 2 (feat. Juli Slattery)
December 29, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
We continue our conversation with clinical psychologist, author, and speaker Juli Slattery about sex. She answers some of the most asked questions on the topic of sex. Don’t miss this really helpful discussion!
The Greatest Gift (Christmas Eve)
December 24, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda
Episode 160 - How to be Intentional during Christmas
December 23, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Romans 12:1–2
In the midst of a busy and often distracting Christmas season, this episode challenges couples to choose presence over just more presents. The More Than Roommates team offer practical, biblical encouragement to help you slow down, be intentional, and truly connect with your spouse and Jesus during the holidays.
Discussion Questions:
1- When you think about this Christmas season so far, where have you been most distracted? Where have you felt most present?
2- What tends to pull your attention away from your spouse during the holidays (phones, stress, schedules, comparison, etc.)?
3- What does presence look like for you personally? What about for your spouse?
4- How can you intentionally create moments of connection in the days ahead—even if Christmas has already passed?
Resources
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0cdd6dhr7dibfzsxtkp26c?si=eb0da67cafe3453c
Episode 351: Sex by Design Part 1 (feat. Juli Slattery)
December 22, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
We get to speak to clinical psychologist, author, and speaker Juli Slattery about all things sex. She brings a wealth of knowledge to this subject and will help you wherever you’re at! Don’t miss this episode!
Does Your Life Glorify Christ
December 21, 2025 • John Elmore • Philippians 2:6–11, Luke 2:17
Pastor John Elmore reminded the church to grasp the gravity of Christmas, that Jesus, fully God and fully man, humbled Himself to come for us. He called listeners to receive Christ as the servant who willingly came to die and save sinners. Finally, he challenged believers to live transformed lives that glorify Jesus in everything we do and offering back to Him all that He has first given us.
Do you grasp the gravity of Christ?
Have you received the gift of Christ?
How will your life glorify Christ?
Life Group Discussion:
What practices or rhythms help you slow down and truly reflect on the significance of the incarnation?
Is there anything that makes it hard for you to ask Jesus for help or surrender control to Him?
This week, what is one practical way you can “play your best for Him” in your everyday life?
Episode 159 Goodbye Scott.... kind of
December 16, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Philippians 1:3–6
Scott is changing jobs! This week, the team honors Scott as he transitions off Harris Creek's staff and shares the story behind his big vocational change—how he processed the decision, invited community, and listened to the Lord’s leading. The conversation offers couples a model for making major decisions with humility, unity, and intentionality. The MTR team also discusses the exciting future to come with the podcast!
Discussion Questions for Couples
1- When you face a big decision, do you tend to move fast or slow? How does that impact your spouse?
2- What role does community currently play in your decision-making? What role should it play?
3- How do you personally respond to vulnerability—your spouse’s and your own?
4- Are there areas where you might be making decisions independently rather than mutually?
Resources:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3aoouaaqqdcvjmdcmta8rz?si=300531668e90413f
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1egtsr4ggzp5xzdmf9eq84?si=dc297b0593504473)
https://open.spotify.com/episode/08igpo5gaifw89ctn4gr0p?si=645a22e186414697
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0zug5oogsrbns0tsanxqkt?si=c5eaeb98cbb24060
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0smzcqkayirbggpnwfblgm?si=9435f181e38f4668
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6wguxfpdsrldzkdkjd725r?si=c2bd60c0462440b3
Episode 350: Is Sarcasm a Sin?
December 15, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp
How far is too far when it comes to joking around with friends? Are jokes and sarcasm ever ok, or it is a sin? For more, check out this episode!
True Joy Comes From Jesus
December 14, 2025 • Jonathan Pokluda • Psalm 98
True joy isn’t fragile happiness, it’s a settled gladness rooted in Jesus, often born out of waiting and disappointment. Psalm 98 shows that joy comes when we receive salvation, grows as Christ reigns in our lives, and lasts because God rules with righteousness. Because Jesus is the solution to our deepest brokenness, we can live with unshakable joy and hope, knowing how the story ends.
Joy comes when we receive salvation
Joy grows where Christ reigns
Joy lasts in righteous ruling
Life Group Discussion:
What’s a season or “well” Jesus has pulled you out of, and how does remembering that shape your joy today?
Who is someone you know that consistently lives with joy, and what do you notice about how they order their life?
How does trusting God with justice and fairness change the way you respond when you’re hurt or wronged?
Episode 158 - Love and Respect
December 9, 2025 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Ephesians 5:33, Romans 12:10, 1 Peter 3:7, Genesis 3:16
In this episode, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle explore the often-misunderstood ideas of love and respect in marriage, grounding the conversation in Scripture while sharing real-life stories from their own relationships. They unpack why spouses may long for different forms of affirmation and how understanding those needs can transform everyday connection.
Resources
- https://www.amazon.com/love-respect-desires-desperately-needs/dp/1591451876by Emerson Eggerichs
Discussion Questions:
1- When do you feel most loved or most respected by your spouse? Can you describe a recent moment?
2- Do you think you naturally communicate more love or more respect? How does your spouse typically receive it?
3- Have past misunderstandings ever come from giving your spouse what you value instead of what they value?
4- What is one simple action this week—public or private—that would communicate either love or respect more clearly?