SE 69: The Thrill Is Gone

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SE 69: The Thrill Is Gone

February 20, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

What do you do when you’ve been married for 25 years and there’s no passion left? Is it possible to get it back?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. Laura and Christine discussed the five different types of love languages and encourage you to discover yours and your partners.

Five Love Languages

· Words of Affirmation

· Physical Touch

· Quality Time

· Acts of Service

· Receiving Gifts

Do you know your top love language? If you don’t know it, here is a free quiz to discover it. Love Languages Quiz

2. If you could design your perfect date based on your love language, what would it look, sound, and feel like?

3. If we take our partner’s love language “off the table,” how does it damage the relationship and squelch our passion?

4. Why do you think pursuing our passions infuses passion into our relationships? How can you prioritize your passions this week?

Resources:

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Book

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Book

Have a questions for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/

Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://www.christineruth.com/

Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies

SE 81: Heroine's Journey Part 9: At The Crossroads, Is It Worth The Risk?

May 14, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m a single woman now. My husband died five years ago from cancer. I’ve always had a dream of doing mission work and recently found out I could be a nurse with Doctor’s Without Borders. I’ve never had the courage to change my life so dramatically. Do I follow my dream or stay in my comfort zone and continue to do what’s practical? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When have you stood at a cross road and had to make a risky choice? What dreams and fears collided at that choice point? 2. Who do you identify as an ancient of days heroine? How can see model for you? 3. When have you taken a radical risk to pursue a dream or desire? What did you learn about yourself in the process? 4. If you choose to live a bold, brave, or risky life, who will you be influencing? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler – https://www.amazon.com/finding-meaning-sixth-stage-grief/dp/1501192744/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3vbng5w5ruobv&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kc45mujderglgsipvj0x5kjletkfvcogozcmpmdytlhbpkl9umpdvs8xcqq5qbmjhul5vloap9mcc0yenpptshvbtgfvbr_civgbyivqsxsf5a6voi0tr96rivqid2mlmqssadijo45jdorevjsp-ryopz-3vwaaoapgkzpdubgzjahrtn8k1_b0ojguolltgnaflngkyco4c3yoyzqzdfsa-zd1awkiaan9jxsfdoy.v7kge-h1qgowdpqwuomlcaujjced9zefagizgxnhwdw&dib_tag=se&keywords=finding+meaning+david+kessler&qid=1715461120&sprefix=finding+meaning%2caps%2c177&sr=8-1 The Heroine’s Journey Workbook by Maureen Murdock – https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-workbook-every-womans/dp/1611808316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=xvwpyrkuxia6&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kjazea_n6tkojypzzgbavuctejbn0ntwwu6zzjtmii8twelqmvpokdo7hx3eq1ysk8eijeadhbxxznmle5n5ayqfwekgf2yrtz8q5gfuw3hzcb_pvyj4r5plkjgkclxixrngkfjiw9xaz2kqeyij7qvf2antvcdo6z8khpk3zemobgrius9svzfuj8g-xi7cezmzph9gwgqnromv1rocpdfj_ps6ybdyk4aqp_k66lu.ro5iflz0wo16mwbo-ou_2u8f9lnzo6ns9-ffpjtgbyw&dib_tag=se&keywords=heroine%27s+journey+workbook&qid=1715461230&sprefix=heroine%27s+journey+%2caps%2c153&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 80: Heroine's Journey Part 8: Courage to Promote Myself

May 6, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: At work, I’m the director of my department. I really like my job but I want a promotion, a new position of greater responsibility and authority. How can I find the courage to self-promote and apply for new positions? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. How do you get sabotaged by your inner critic? What does is often say? 2. Can you think of a time when you waited for someone to rescue or validate you? Share your story. 3. When have you criticized a man in your life for something you needed to activate in your life? 4. Where do you need to self-promote? What holds you back? How can you take the next step of courage? 5. Stand in a warrior position (yoga or make up your own). How can your body claim more authority in your life? What would that look like? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Your Body Language My Shape Who You Are – TED Talk by Amy Cudy – https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?language=en The Confidence Gap – https://zengerfolkman.com/articles/the-confidence-gap-in-men-and-women-how-to-overcome-it/#:~:text=considering%20the%20confidence%20gap%2c%20gender,differ%20in%20quality%20or%20quantity. Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 79: Heroine's Journey Part 7: Healing the Mother-Daughter Split

April 30, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: How can I empower my adult children to turn to God and trust their relationship with Him without me (Mom) as constant intermediary? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What is the nature of your “mother wound”? Was your mother more likely to be intrusive, controlling, rejecting, neglectful or somewhere in between? 2. How have your mother’s limitations played out in your life? 3. What would it look like to forgive your mother for her limitations? If you have forgiven her already, describe your journey. 4. When you think of your own limitations, what would it look like to forgive yourself? 5. If you are a mother, in what ways can you share with your childhood that they have everything they need within themselves to make decisions and /or move forward? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 How to Raise an Adult: Break Free from the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julia Lythcott-Haims https://www.amazon.com/how-raise-adult-overparenting-prepare/dp/1250093635/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2rk4kqiqubmyh&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.q-msp_rmq5cs1wjcltvwocawqgjatonchwiawq2mq0lku8ce5sxqxk-pzopohubmhx3z6apr-kvvoayqvc6zg1mur8cah_bq8zkdxe3olgrvajkddabsosewkrpghke2ao6tsezu7ogss3h8kxhxxkh2skxnznwrhpibwujlklmt1irkarfvdj_humalvsfqrrccg-c77lg1dcdetbijggsagvntkykmi-u_u9yx9y8.quav9gwau1r_ftztpvogzutiecjojtsj3zi0d9zanvg&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+raise+an+adult&qid=1714241290&sprefix=how+to+raise+an+adult%2caps%2c265&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/