SE 79: Heroine's Journey Part 7: Healing the Mother-Daughter Split

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SE 79: Heroine's Journey Part 7: Healing the Mother-Daughter Split

April 30, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question:

How can I empower my adult children to turn to God and trust their relationship with Him without me (Mom) as constant intermediary?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What is the nature of your “mother wound”? Was your mother more likely to be intrusive, controlling, rejecting, neglectful or somewhere in between?

2. How have your mother’s limitations played out in your life?

3. What would it look like to forgive your mother for her limitations? If you have forgiven her already, describe your journey.

4. When you think of your own limitations, what would it look like to forgive yourself?

5. If you are a mother, in what ways can you share with your childhood that they have everything they need within themselves to make decisions and /or move forward?

Soul Challenge:

Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at www.soulenchilada.com

Resources:

The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock Book

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free from the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julia Lythcott-Haims Book

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – HERE

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

SE 83: Negative Thoughts In My Head

May 28, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: I’ve been a person of faith along time AND I still wrestle with negative talk in my head. How do I stop all the negative chatter? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. Draw a map of your mind and label different areas with thoughts that often repeat. Which ones do you think are negative (-) thoughts, which ones are positive (+) thoughts? You can label or color code them. 2. Look at each thought you recorded, who’s voice is in your mind? It’s common to have more than one voice competing for your attention. 3. How did some of these voices protect you as a child or lead you to become the person you are today? 4. What would it look like to befriend or be curious about each voice you labelled? 5. Laura shared these insights from her neurobiology class. What gets our attention, focuses our thoughts’ direction, builds new neuro connections, and leads to personal transformation. How does knowing this encourage you to intentionally choose what you pay attention to? Give an example where you’ve seen this play out in your life. Resources: Becoming Aware by Daniel Seigel – https://www.amazon.com/becoming-aware-mindfulness-reducing-cultivating/dp/0143111817/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3fpjo576cvmbs&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.y5maycqaxokhm6gxmkaehkxqfoadwzhrhn2ac1x5edvvqeh4414ovjgau2_n8zrhrux9llw5ybuzy3dwoedjjw._otxgtota0prtfe1dzqpjsjnpzzhbycisyrlckko0me&dib_tag=se&keywords=dan+siegel+becoming+aware&qid=1716818191&sprefix=dan+seigel+becoming+aware%2caps%2c219&sr=8-1 The Artist’s Way By Julia Cameron – https://www.amazon.com/artists-way-25th-anniversary/dp/0143129252/ref=sr_1_1?crid=zusleswb32dj&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.j2bnwhjkonpfltx6-onenxmvz_m8sdrq-gezlzk27scxdku4aam5_pbawb_z2nt_yywcxv1xsgd3zj-_k8cqtzuuef0l2oxefzlt7jyhfdv5tsfs83aavbxzsbjnvxq1dgckzhorcfgfkyis1h-ocezpleglw0uenpq-qs1i_vi_bojyo8xnvtiylava8twolmz29b2mt8begxyyx494vzeqdc_2kqnjrpo11x8ueuc.aybpz1tcj5xm2trkz-hkjuwop41vyjtrhwips9gmklo&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+art%27s+way+julia+cameron&qid=1716818321&sprefix=the+art%27s+way+julia+cameron%2caps%2c173&sr=8-1 I.F.S Therapy – 8 C’s calm, clarity, compassion, connection, confidence, courage, creativity, curiosity Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 82: Lonely and Looking For Love

May 21, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m really lonely. I wish I could find a life partner. I’ve always wanted to get married. It’s really hard on the weekends. I don’t trust dating apps. How do I learn to be content with being alone? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When do you often feel lonely? How can you relate to this woman’s question? 2. Where do you find external community and a sense of belonging? 3. In what ways can you develop inner self-love or radical acceptance? 4. What vows can you make to yourself? Brainstorm several then pick your top 3-5. Soul Challenge: Write 3-5 personal vows you pledge to yourself. Post them somewhere you’ll see often. Resources: The Heroine’s Journey Workbook by Maureen Murdock – https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-workbook-every-womans/dp/1611808316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=xvwpyrkuxia6&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kjazea_n6tkojypzzgbavuctejbn0ntwwu6zzjtmii8twelqmvpokdo7hx3eq1ysk8eijeadhbxxznmle5n5ayqfwekgf2yrtz8q5gfuw3hzcb_pvyj4r5plkjgkclxixrngkfjiw9xaz2kqeyij7qvf2antvcdo6z8khpk3zemobgrius9svzfuj8g-xi7cezmzph9gwgqnromv1rocpdfj_ps6ybdyk4aqp_k66lu.ro5iflz0wo16mwbo-ou_2u8f9lnzo6ns9-ffpjtgbyw&dib_tag=se&keywords=heroine%27s+journey+workbook&qid=1715461230&sprefix=heroine%27s+journey+%2caps%2c153&sr=8-1 God, Sex, and Musical Theatre by Kristin Hanggi https://www.amazon.com/s?k=god+sex+and+musical+theatre&crid=1kb8mwk87rus7&sprefix=god+sex+and+musical+theatre%2caps%2c141&ref=nb_sb_noss_2 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 81: Heroine's Journey Part 9: At The Crossroads, Is It Worth The Risk?

May 14, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m a single woman now. My husband died five years ago from cancer. I’ve always had a dream of doing mission work and recently found out I could be a nurse with Doctor’s Without Borders. I’ve never had the courage to change my life so dramatically. Do I follow my dream or stay in my comfort zone and continue to do what’s practical? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When have you stood at a cross road and had to make a risky choice? What dreams and fears collided at that choice point? 2. Who do you identify as an ancient of days heroine? How can see model for you? 3. When have you taken a radical risk to pursue a dream or desire? What did you learn about yourself in the process? 4. If you choose to live a bold, brave, or risky life, who will you be influencing? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler – https://www.amazon.com/finding-meaning-sixth-stage-grief/dp/1501192744/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3vbng5w5ruobv&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kc45mujderglgsipvj0x5kjletkfvcogozcmpmdytlhbpkl9umpdvs8xcqq5qbmjhul5vloap9mcc0yenpptshvbtgfvbr_civgbyivqsxsf5a6voi0tr96rivqid2mlmqssadijo45jdorevjsp-ryopz-3vwaaoapgkzpdubgzjahrtn8k1_b0ojguolltgnaflngkyco4c3yoyzqzdfsa-zd1awkiaan9jxsfdoy.v7kge-h1qgowdpqwuomlcaujjced9zefagizgxnhwdw&dib_tag=se&keywords=finding+meaning+david+kessler&qid=1715461120&sprefix=finding+meaning%2caps%2c177&sr=8-1 The Heroine’s Journey Workbook by Maureen Murdock – https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-workbook-every-womans/dp/1611808316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=xvwpyrkuxia6&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kjazea_n6tkojypzzgbavuctejbn0ntwwu6zzjtmii8twelqmvpokdo7hx3eq1ysk8eijeadhbxxznmle5n5ayqfwekgf2yrtz8q5gfuw3hzcb_pvyj4r5plkjgkclxixrngkfjiw9xaz2kqeyij7qvf2antvcdo6z8khpk3zemobgrius9svzfuj8g-xi7cezmzph9gwgqnromv1rocpdfj_ps6ybdyk4aqp_k66lu.ro5iflz0wo16mwbo-ou_2u8f9lnzo6ns9-ffpjtgbyw&dib_tag=se&keywords=heroine%27s+journey+workbook&qid=1715461230&sprefix=heroine%27s+journey+%2caps%2c153&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/