SE 83: Negative Thoughts In My Head

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SE 83: Negative Thoughts In My Head

May 28, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question:

I’ve been a person of faith along time AND I still wrestle with negative talk in my head. How do I stop all the negative chatter?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. Draw a map of your mind and label different areas with thoughts that often repeat. Which ones do you think are negative (-) thoughts, which ones are positive (+) thoughts? You can label or color code them.

2. Look at each thought you recorded, who’s voice is in your mind? It’s common to have more than one voice competing for your attention.

3. How did some of these voices protect you as a child or lead you to become the person you are today?

4. What would it look like to befriend or be curious about each voice you labelled?

5. Laura shared these insights from her neurobiology class. What gets our attention, focuses our thoughts’ direction, builds new neuro connections, and leads to personal transformation. How does knowing this encourage you to intentionally choose what you pay attention to? Give an example where you’ve seen this play out in your life.

Resources:

Becoming Aware by Daniel Seigel – Book

The Artist’s Way By Julia Cameron – Book

I.F.S Therapy – 8 C’s calm, clarity, compassion, connection, confidence, courage, creativity, curiosity

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – HERE

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

SE 95: A House Divided - Navigating Thanksgiving's Family Challenges

November 12, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: Thanksgiving is in two weeks. I really don’t want to host my extended family because we’re divided on several key topics. How do I navigate family division and still enjoy the holidays? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When you think about Thanksgiving this year, what feelings and thoughts come up for you? 2. Think of a time when you had “gridlock” with a partner or family member. How have you learned to love in the midst of conflict or disagreements? 3. In what ways could you practice self-care and self-compassion in this post-election and pre-holiday season? 4. Why do you think it’s important to H.A.L.T. (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) a conversation until you can take care of yourself? 5. Where are your safe spaces that you can express your genuine feelings and be present for others to express theirs? Resources: Laura is hosting 3 free classes during the holidays to help prepare you for all the big emotions that come up this time of year. To register – https://www.griefandhope.org/event-list To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ To ask Laura to speak at your event – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 94: When You're Lost in the Middle

October 29, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m in a really uncomfortable space. I used to be in breadwinner for our family. Now my husband and I switched places. He’s going to work and I’m staying home with the kids. I feel lost, without direction, in this new role. How do I motivate myself in this weird space? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What uncomfortable transition or liminal space do you find yourself in? 2. What different emotions are you noticing in your current space? 3. How can you create “sacred space” in this season of your life? What needs to shift in order to do so? 4. Laura and Christine talked about slowing down, honoring your emotions, reflecting, and trusting the process. Which it the hardest for you to do? Why do you think so? 5. What’s your one take away from this podcast you want to remember and apply in your life? Resources: In Midlife by Murray Stein – https://www.amazon.com/midlife-jungian-perspective-murray-stein/dp/1630510890/ref=sr_1_1?crid=9zretnfyq0mj&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.nftp6i4yg7jbqlbmylrvdeyusbup5rd77gomankhl0ujfv08tc993mvauqcjdim2khzgiq8d509gqqhc7zr9qglo6s--9ggfpgl-yj0bswfp5ouqeg0b8y1fbj5cn4jxpbuvfu4mwghirzvioptbye3y_ms_gy8e1ia8xxfexy0heupceorati2edukj7pvr.aio9o5fymae1ttnt_4arfknmce58wmdcpaqsozuvq4q&dib_tag=se&keywords=murray+stein+midlife&qid=1730140967&sprefix=in+midlife++murra%2caps%2c247&sr=8-1 To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 93: I'm Boiling Mad. Turn Up the Heat!

October 14, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: I grew up in a house where it was wrong to express your anger so I learned to suppress it. Now I’m conflicted because anger feels like a natural response when you’ve been wronged. What do you think? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What were you taught about anger when you were growing up? 2. Think of a situation that got your angry. What need was not being met? What boundary was being violated? How did you respond? 3. How has anger inspired you to make positive changes in your life? 4. When have you seen others create positive impact in the world because they were angry about something? 5. Where do you need to “turn up the heat” and express your anger in order to bring about greater intimacy, truth, or growth? Make a plan and go for it! Resources: To sign up for one-on-one grief support with Laura, visit http://www.griefandhope.org/ Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/