SE 71: Sex Drive: Are you speeding along or out of gas?

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SE 71: Sex Drive: Are you speeding along or out of gas?

March 5, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question:

My husband seems to have the same sexual appetite he had in his 20’s. My sexual appetite, on the other hand, has completely died. What’s wrong with me?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What were you taught about sex while you were growing up? Can you relate to Christine’s “good girl” complex?

2. How does sexual shame lock so many women up today? What practical steps of can we take that move us in the direction of freedom? What’s one you could take today?

3. How do you think outside stressors impact the intimacy and emotional bonding of couples? List the top five stressors you see in relationships.

4. If you’re married, what stressors are you experiencing in this season of life? How might you prioritize stress reduction and erotic playfulness?

Soul Challenge:

If you want to go deeper in your faith, take a look at how Jesus treated the woman at the well in John chapter 6. How did Jesus treat her, challenge her, and what did He call her to do? What does this divine encounter tell us about Jesus’ thoughts and emotions towards women?

Resources:

Esther Perel’s TED Talk – The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship

Desire Talk

The Gottman Institute, Dr. John Gotman – Making Marriage Work

Watch on You Tube

Have a questions for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/

Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://www.christineruth.com/

Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies

SE 81: Heroine's Journey Part 9: At The Crossroads, Is It Worth The Risk?

May 14, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m a single woman now. My husband died five years ago from cancer. I’ve always had a dream of doing mission work and recently found out I could be a nurse with Doctor’s Without Borders. I’ve never had the courage to change my life so dramatically. Do I follow my dream or stay in my comfort zone and continue to do what’s practical? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When have you stood at a cross road and had to make a risky choice? What dreams and fears collided at that choice point? 2. Who do you identify as an ancient of days heroine? How can see model for you? 3. When have you taken a radical risk to pursue a dream or desire? What did you learn about yourself in the process? 4. If you choose to live a bold, brave, or risky life, who will you be influencing? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler – https://www.amazon.com/finding-meaning-sixth-stage-grief/dp/1501192744/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3vbng5w5ruobv&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kc45mujderglgsipvj0x5kjletkfvcogozcmpmdytlhbpkl9umpdvs8xcqq5qbmjhul5vloap9mcc0yenpptshvbtgfvbr_civgbyivqsxsf5a6voi0tr96rivqid2mlmqssadijo45jdorevjsp-ryopz-3vwaaoapgkzpdubgzjahrtn8k1_b0ojguolltgnaflngkyco4c3yoyzqzdfsa-zd1awkiaan9jxsfdoy.v7kge-h1qgowdpqwuomlcaujjced9zefagizgxnhwdw&dib_tag=se&keywords=finding+meaning+david+kessler&qid=1715461120&sprefix=finding+meaning%2caps%2c177&sr=8-1 The Heroine’s Journey Workbook by Maureen Murdock – https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-workbook-every-womans/dp/1611808316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=xvwpyrkuxia6&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kjazea_n6tkojypzzgbavuctejbn0ntwwu6zzjtmii8twelqmvpokdo7hx3eq1ysk8eijeadhbxxznmle5n5ayqfwekgf2yrtz8q5gfuw3hzcb_pvyj4r5plkjgkclxixrngkfjiw9xaz2kqeyij7qvf2antvcdo6z8khpk3zemobgrius9svzfuj8g-xi7cezmzph9gwgqnromv1rocpdfj_ps6ybdyk4aqp_k66lu.ro5iflz0wo16mwbo-ou_2u8f9lnzo6ns9-ffpjtgbyw&dib_tag=se&keywords=heroine%27s+journey+workbook&qid=1715461230&sprefix=heroine%27s+journey+%2caps%2c153&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 80: Heroine's Journey Part 8: Courage to Promote Myself

May 6, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: At work, I’m the director of my department. I really like my job but I want a promotion, a new position of greater responsibility and authority. How can I find the courage to self-promote and apply for new positions? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. How do you get sabotaged by your inner critic? What does is often say? 2. Can you think of a time when you waited for someone to rescue or validate you? Share your story. 3. When have you criticized a man in your life for something you needed to activate in your life? 4. Where do you need to self-promote? What holds you back? How can you take the next step of courage? 5. Stand in a warrior position (yoga or make up your own). How can your body claim more authority in your life? What would that look like? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Your Body Language My Shape Who You Are – TED Talk by Amy Cudy – https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?language=en The Confidence Gap – https://zengerfolkman.com/articles/the-confidence-gap-in-men-and-women-how-to-overcome-it/#:~:text=considering%20the%20confidence%20gap%2c%20gender,differ%20in%20quality%20or%20quantity. Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 79: Heroine's Journey Part 7: Healing the Mother-Daughter Split

April 30, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: How can I empower my adult children to turn to God and trust their relationship with Him without me (Mom) as constant intermediary? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What is the nature of your “mother wound”? Was your mother more likely to be intrusive, controlling, rejecting, neglectful or somewhere in between? 2. How have your mother’s limitations played out in your life? 3. What would it look like to forgive your mother for her limitations? If you have forgiven her already, describe your journey. 4. When you think of your own limitations, what would it look like to forgive yourself? 5. If you are a mother, in what ways can you share with your childhood that they have everything they need within themselves to make decisions and /or move forward? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 How to Raise an Adult: Break Free from the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julia Lythcott-Haims https://www.amazon.com/how-raise-adult-overparenting-prepare/dp/1250093635/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2rk4kqiqubmyh&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.q-msp_rmq5cs1wjcltvwocawqgjatonchwiawq2mq0lku8ce5sxqxk-pzopohubmhx3z6apr-kvvoayqvc6zg1mur8cah_bq8zkdxe3olgrvajkddabsosewkrpghke2ao6tsezu7ogss3h8kxhxxkh2skxnznwrhpibwujlklmt1irkarfvdj_humalvsfqrrccg-c77lg1dcdetbijggsagvntkykmi-u_u9yx9y8.quav9gwau1r_ftztpvogzutiecjojtsj3zi0d9zanvg&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+raise+an+adult&qid=1714241290&sprefix=how+to+raise+an+adult%2caps%2c265&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/