SE 70: Relationships Take Work

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SE 70: Relationships Take Work

February 27, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

Yes. You read that right. I don’t remember this class being offered in school.

This Week’s Listener Question:

I heard your last episode (Soul Enchilada #69). I’d like to go deeper. What do you do when you’re in the third stage of marriage and your partner is resigned. It feels like he’s completely given up on making our marriage better.

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. Think of your most significant relationship, what stage you are currently in?

Stage 1 – Romantic / Infatuation

Stage 2 – Disillusionment / Distraction

Stage 3 – Contentment / Radical Acceptance

2. How did your parents navigate the different stages of marriage? How did that impact you?

3. How would you describe radical acceptance in marriage or key relationships?

4. What’s one step or one way you can move from blame or criticism to expressing your needs or sharing invitations with your partner or in a key relationship?

Resources:

It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse―and How You Can, Too by Winifred M. Reilly Book

Have a questions for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/

Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://www.christineruth.com/

Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies

SE 81: Heroine's Journey Part 9: At The Crossroads, Is It Worth The Risk?

May 14, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: I’m a single woman now. My husband died five years ago from cancer. I’ve always had a dream of doing mission work and recently found out I could be a nurse with Doctor’s Without Borders. I’ve never had the courage to change my life so dramatically. Do I follow my dream or stay in my comfort zone and continue to do what’s practical? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. When have you stood at a cross road and had to make a risky choice? What dreams and fears collided at that choice point? 2. Who do you identify as an ancient of days heroine? How can see model for you? 3. When have you taken a radical risk to pursue a dream or desire? What did you learn about yourself in the process? 4. If you choose to live a bold, brave, or risky life, who will you be influencing? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler – https://www.amazon.com/finding-meaning-sixth-stage-grief/dp/1501192744/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3vbng5w5ruobv&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kc45mujderglgsipvj0x5kjletkfvcogozcmpmdytlhbpkl9umpdvs8xcqq5qbmjhul5vloap9mcc0yenpptshvbtgfvbr_civgbyivqsxsf5a6voi0tr96rivqid2mlmqssadijo45jdorevjsp-ryopz-3vwaaoapgkzpdubgzjahrtn8k1_b0ojguolltgnaflngkyco4c3yoyzqzdfsa-zd1awkiaan9jxsfdoy.v7kge-h1qgowdpqwuomlcaujjced9zefagizgxnhwdw&dib_tag=se&keywords=finding+meaning+david+kessler&qid=1715461120&sprefix=finding+meaning%2caps%2c177&sr=8-1 The Heroine’s Journey Workbook by Maureen Murdock – https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-workbook-every-womans/dp/1611808316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=xvwpyrkuxia6&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.kjazea_n6tkojypzzgbavuctejbn0ntwwu6zzjtmii8twelqmvpokdo7hx3eq1ysk8eijeadhbxxznmle5n5ayqfwekgf2yrtz8q5gfuw3hzcb_pvyj4r5plkjgkclxixrngkfjiw9xaz2kqeyij7qvf2antvcdo6z8khpk3zemobgrius9svzfuj8g-xi7cezmzph9gwgqnromv1rocpdfj_ps6ybdyk4aqp_k66lu.ro5iflz0wo16mwbo-ou_2u8f9lnzo6ns9-ffpjtgbyw&dib_tag=se&keywords=heroine%27s+journey+workbook&qid=1715461230&sprefix=heroine%27s+journey+%2caps%2c153&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 80: Heroine's Journey Part 8: Courage to Promote Myself

May 6, 2024 • Laura Busse and Christine Ruth

This Week’s Listener Question: At work, I’m the director of my department. I really like my job but I want a promotion, a new position of greater responsibility and authority. How can I find the courage to self-promote and apply for new positions? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. How do you get sabotaged by your inner critic? What does is often say? 2. Can you think of a time when you waited for someone to rescue or validate you? Share your story. 3. When have you criticized a man in your life for something you needed to activate in your life? 4. Where do you need to self-promote? What holds you back? How can you take the next step of courage? 5. Stand in a warrior position (yoga or make up your own). How can your body claim more authority in your life? What would that look like? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: Your Body Language My Shape Who You Are – TED Talk by Amy Cudy – https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?language=en The Confidence Gap – https://zengerfolkman.com/articles/the-confidence-gap-in-men-and-women-how-to-overcome-it/#:~:text=considering%20the%20confidence%20gap%2c%20gender,differ%20in%20quality%20or%20quantity. Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/

SE 79: Heroine's Journey Part 7: Healing the Mother-Daughter Split

April 30, 2024

This Week’s Listener Question: How can I empower my adult children to turn to God and trust their relationship with Him without me (Mom) as constant intermediary? SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions. 1. What is the nature of your “mother wound”? Was your mother more likely to be intrusive, controlling, rejecting, neglectful or somewhere in between? 2. How have your mother’s limitations played out in your life? 3. What would it look like to forgive your mother for her limitations? If you have forgiven her already, describe your journey. 4. When you think of your own limitations, what would it look like to forgive yourself? 5. If you are a mother, in what ways can you share with your childhood that they have everything they need within themselves to make decisions and /or move forward? Soul Challenge: Christine and Laura are unpacking the Heroine’s Journey. What questions are arising for you? Please submit them at http://www.soulenchilada.com Resources: The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness by Maureen Murdock https://www.amazon.com/heroines-journey-womans-quest-wholeness/dp/1611808308/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1vulj0q8rhav3&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.0fh3uzbwgyflp7pt7csvyaeuni-0aozi0z8ezuztmoiwekh7gwizbpmmvq8j0jnzt4jsi0tr-fmxxm7knjam6tuppmxt82q_ouyjry3zofkk4jtmw6dfpnyc1bnqmeipe5jqp8vt9qzeeac8zdkibszuyen-tyujl8bfnrfsow4xh_y2-trymgxghcwp0u1mi-jqst-vdpa2ljxphcpuyy_t0luk5aoa9jpsky0v3no.pzyk5psnd_dtxoyq7d3io30kko287i6u_xix3rmgwlg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+heroine%27s+journey&qid=1710950068&sprefix=the+heroin%2caps%2c451&sr=8-1 How to Raise an Adult: Break Free from the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julia Lythcott-Haims https://www.amazon.com/how-raise-adult-overparenting-prepare/dp/1250093635/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2rk4kqiqubmyh&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.q-msp_rmq5cs1wjcltvwocawqgjatonchwiawq2mq0lku8ce5sxqxk-pzopohubmhx3z6apr-kvvoayqvc6zg1mur8cah_bq8zkdxe3olgrvajkddabsosewkrpghke2ao6tsezu7ogss3h8kxhxxkh2skxnznwrhpibwujlklmt1irkarfvdj_humalvsfqrrccg-c77lg1dcdetbijggsagvntkykmi-u_u9yx9y8.quav9gwau1r_ftztpvogzutiecjojtsj3zi0d9zanvg&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+raise+an+adult&qid=1714241290&sprefix=how+to+raise+an+adult%2caps%2c265&sr=8-1 Have a question for us? Send it to mailto:questions@soulenchilada.com Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – https://www.laurabusse.com/ Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – http://www.christineruth.com/