More than Roommates
Episode 73 - Strengthen Your Marriage Through Prayer (feat. Aaron Smith)
April 23, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Aaron Smith • Hebrews 4:15, 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18
On this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek and Scott have an authentic and honest conversation with Aaron Smith from the ministry Marriage After God. We discuss pornography, intimacy issues, and the challenges many couples face. Aaron and his wife Jennifer hope to inspire individuals to draw closer to God and their spouse as they chase boldly after God’s purpose for their life together. Scriptures: Hebrews 4:15 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Questions to Discuss: 1. How are you and your spouse doing at consistently praying together? 2. What’s one step you and your spouse can take to pray together on a more consistent basis? Resources: Aaron & Jennifer Smith’s Website – https://marriageaftergod.com/ The Smiths new book – https://amzn.to/3w4yc6c Aaron and Jennifer Smith’s Marriage Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-after-god/id1349500084
Episode 72 - Should Married Christians Have Celebrity Crushes?
April 16, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Romans 12:1–2, Romans 13:14, Proverbs 5:18–19, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Corinthians 6:18
In our culture, it’s extremely common for married people to have celebrity crushes—studies say 80% of married men and women have celebrity crushes. Does that make it okay for you or your spouse to have a celebrity crush? Should you have crushes on anyone besides your spouse? Scriptures: Proverbs 5:18-19 Romans 12:1-2, 13:14 Ephesians 5:3 1 Corinthians 6:18 Questions to Discuss: Who’s the most famous person you’ve ever met? Why do you think we obsess about celebrities? Why do you think people believe it’s acceptable to have a celebrity crush but not okay to have a crush on non-celebrities? Tell your spouse what you love about them and then go crush on them!
Episode 71 - What Are Some Lies We Believe About Our Marriages?
April 9, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 5:8, John 10:10, 1 Corinthians 13:5, Romans 5:8
We have an enemy who likes to feed us lies about marriage, temptation, and God’s design for relationships. The enemy actively tries to destroy our marriages, but as followers of Christ, the One we serve and follow is greater! We hope you’re encouraged by this new episode of More Than Roommates. Scriptures: 1 Peter 5:8 John 10:10 1 Corinthians 13:5 Romans 5:8 Resources: Book – https://amzn.to/3thrygj, by C.S. Lewis Questions to Discuss: 1. Did you and your spouse write letters to each other during dating and engagement? 2. What are some of the lies you believe about yourself and about marriage? 3. What are some things that your spouse does ‘right’—focus on keeping track of what they do right and not wrong/annoying. 4. What are the times when you tend to be the most susceptible to believing lies or engaging in conflict with your spouse?
Episode 70 - What’s the Deal (and the Dangers) With Polyamory?
April 2, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Isaiah 4:1, 1 Peter 5:8, John 10:10
While this may not be the story for most of our marriages, polyamorous relationships (multiple romantic relationships with the consent of all involved) are gaining traction in culture. What do you need to know about polyamory and how can you protect your marriage? Scriptures: Isaiah 4:1 1 Peter 5:8 John 10:10 Resources: Podcast – https://albertmohler.com/2024/02/15/briefing-2-15-24/ – February 15, 2024 Book – https://amzn.to/3te0muh, by Brad Wilcox Article – https://www.denisonforum.org/daily-article/couple-to-throuple-normalizes-polyamory/, by Jim Denison Questions to Discuss: 1. What are some ways you can “water your own garden” and pour into your own marriage? 2. Take a few moments to pray that God would protect your marriage from any polyamorous desires and pray the same for the marriages of your close friends and family. 3. Think about what you engage with in books, TV, and movies. How can these resources potentially fuel your desires in a harmful way? Discuss with your spouse.
Episode 69 - The Enneagram And Marriage (feat. Christa Hardin)
March 26, 2024 • Christa Hardin, Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 3:7
In this episode of More Than Roommates, we interview Counselor and Author Christa Hardin about her book and work with the enneagram. The enneagram is a helpful resource to help you learn more about yourself, your spouse, and your interactions in marriage and today we discuss how it can help you strengthen your marriage. Scripture: 1 Peter 3:7 Resources: Christa’s Book – https://amzn.to/3tllekt, by Christa Hardin Christa’s Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Christa’s Website – https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ and Follow Christa on https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/ Questions to Discuss: What is your enneagram number? Your spouse’s? How is the enneagram a helpful tool to help you understand yourself and your spouse in a deeper way? What’s one practical way you can serve and encourage your spouse today in their unique wiring?
Episode 68 - What Are You Currently Learning In Your Marriage?
March 19, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 1 Peter 3:7, James 1:22–25
In Part 2 of this series on being a learner in marriage, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss different ways we can all learn in marriage and what we're each learning in our own marriages currently. Scripture: 1 Peter 3:7 James 1:22-25 Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/do-you-and-your-spouse-have-teachable-and-humble-hearts-in-marriage Book – https://amzn.to/3prjayt, by Gary Chapman Questions to Discuss: 1. How do you learn? What kind of learner are you? 2. What is something you are learning in marriage right now? 3. What’s one way, today, you can choose to intentionally learn more about your spouse?
Episode 67 - What We Did And Didn't Learn in Premarital Counseling
March 12, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • James 1:19, Proverbs 18:2, 1 Corinthians 7:28
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what they did and didn’t learn in premarital counseling. Whether engaged or married for decades, we hope today’s new episode encourages and challenges you in your marriage. Scriptures: Proverbs 18:2 James 1:19 1 Corinthians 7:28 Resources: Book – Tim Keller, https://amzn.to/3t1x6ab Book – Scott Kedersha, https://amzn.to/3wbljhe Podcast – Episode 35 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000622253291 Podcast – Episode 12 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000604088360 Questions to Discuss: When’s the last time you were really unprepared for something? What are you glad you learned in premarital counseling? What do you wish you had learned in premarital counseling?
Episode 66 - Do You and Your Spouse Talk More Than The Average Couple?
March 5, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Colossians 3:12–14, Matthew 18:15–17, Ephesians 4:29
Multiple studies and articles show that the average couple talks to each other for only twenty minutes per week. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss practical ways to make time in your marriage to connect and communicate with each other. All healthy couples might intentionally fight for time together. Scriptures: Colossians 3:12-14 Matthew 18:15-17 Ephesians 4:29 Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/do-you-and-your-spouse-talk-more-than-the-average-married-couple Questions to Discuss: 1. Are you an internal or external processor? How about your spouse? 2. What are some ways you and your spouse can increase the amount of time you communicate with each other every week? 3. What consumes your thoughts right now? Discuss with your spouse.
Episode 65 - Being Real > Being Perfect (feat. Justin Davis)
February 27, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Justin Davis • Proverbs 28:13, Genesis 2:25
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott interviews his friend Justin Davis. With candor and transparency, Justin shares he and his wife’s powerful marriage testimony and we discuss the value of authenticity in helping couples be so much more than just roommates. Scriptures: Proverbs 28:13 Genesis 2:25 Questions to Discuss: Justin defined intimacy as being fully known emotionally, spiritually, and physically. How are you doing in marital intimacy? Who’s more authentic in your marriage—you or your spouse? How can you grow in authenticity? Resources: Justin’s New Book – https://amzn.to/49qmhp6 Justin & Trisha Davis’ Ministry – https://www.refineus.org/ Justin & Trisha’s Marriage Story – https://amzn.to/3soyoyj Justin & Trisha’s Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-get-real-with-justin-and-trisha-davis/id1550718949
Episode 64 - Questions To Ask Your Spouse Every Week
February 20, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 2 Corinthians 12:9, Ephesians 5:15–16, Genesis 2:25
One of the best ways you can grow your marriage is to set aside time every week to ask each other some intentional, specific questions. In this episode of More Than Roommates we discuss the weekly meeting and some questions you can ask each other every week. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 2 Corinthians 12:9 Ephesians 5:15-16 Questions to Discuss: What is God teaching you? How can I serve you better this upcoming week? How can I pray for you in the week ahead? How can we make sure we make time for each other? What's on our calendar in the next week? Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/weekly-meeting
Self-Control - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 9
February 13, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 25:28, Galatians 5:22–23
Today in part 9 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss self-control. Like a city whose walls are broken down, a marriage marked by a lack of self-control is often broken and in need of restoration. In this episode of More Than Roommates, we discuss why it matters to demonstrate the fruit of self-control in your marriage. Galatians 5:22-23 Proverbs 25:28 Questions to Discuss: 1. Who is more disciplined in your marriage—you or your spouse? 2, Where do you show self-control in marriage and where can you grow? 3. As we wrap-up this 9-part series, which of the 9 Fruit of the Spirit mark your life and marriage? Where is it lacking?
Gentleness - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 8
February 12, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Galatians 5:22–23, Proverbs 15:1, Matthew 11:28–30
Today in part 8 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss gentleness. In our relationships, we either escalate/exacerbate the challenges with anger or a lack of gentleness, or we demonstrate the fruit of spirit of gentleness and turn away wrath. Galatians 5:22-23 Proverbs 15:1 Matthew 11:28-30 https://amzn.to/3sokijj, by Dane Ortlund Questions to Discuss: 1. What’s a household task you’re not good at? 2. Would your spouse/others describe you as gentle/tender? 3. How does a lack of gentleness affect your relationships with your spouse/kids/others?
Faithfulness - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 7
February 11, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 2 Timothy 2:13, Galatians 5:22–23, Luke 16:10
Today in part 7 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss faithfulness. We all want to be faithful in every aspect of our lives and reflect God’s faithfulness. This plays out in many different ways in our marriages! Galatians 5:22-23 2 Timothy 2:13 Luke 16:10 Questions to Discuss: 1. Are there any teams/brands/artists that you are way too loyal to (i.e., they can do no wrong)? 2. Would you and your spouse say your marriage is marked by fidelity? Do you keep your promises and do what you say you’re going to do? 3. Trust is built in drops and lost in buckets. How can you build trust through your faithfulness?
Goodness - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 6
February 10, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Psalm 31:19, Acts 5:1–11, Galatians 5:22–23, Romans 3:10–12, Psalm 14:3
Today in part 6 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss ‘goodness’. What if our marriages were marked by integrity and goodness? We know God is good, and so how can we look more like Jesus in our marriage? Galatians 5:22-23 Romans 3:10-12 Psalm 14:3 Psalm 31:19 Acts 5:1-11 Questions to Discuss: 1. When did you most get in trouble for school (for cheating, or for other reasons)? 2. What are some ways you can grow in your integrity in your marriage? Discuss with each other. 3. Are there small areas in your life and marriage where you allow space for compromise? Ask your spouse if they see any areas of compromise in your life and marriage?
Kindness - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 5
February 9, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Ephesians 4:32, Galatians 5:22–23, Romans 2:4, Psalm 145:17, 1 Corinthians 13:4
Today in part 5 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss the importance of kindness. What if our marriages were marked by kindness? How different would we look than the rest of the world if husbands and wives were kind to one another? Galatians 5:22-23 Romans 2:4 Ephesians 4:32 Psalm 145:17 1 Corinthians 13:4 Questions to Discuss: 1. What were some TV shows you watched as a kid? 2. Who’s the kindest person you know? What does this person do that makes them kind? 3. What’s one tangible way you can show kindness to your spouse today?