Episode 108 - How the Reactive Cycle Affects Your Marriage

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Episode 108 - How the Reactive Cycle Affects Your Marriage

More Than Roommates

December 10, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Philippians 4:8, Proverbs 15:1, Romans 12:2

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the reactive cycle couples often get into with each other when their expectations aren’t met. We often fall into harmful patterns that can lead us to negative reactions in our marriage. What is this cycle and how do we get out of it?

Scriptures:

PR 15:1

Rom 12:2

Phil 4:8

Resources:

Hope Restored Marriage Intensive (from Focus on the Family)

The Reactive Cycle “Test” – through this brief assessment you can learn your marriage triggers and responses.

Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage, by Gary Thomas

Seven Primal Questions: Take Control Of The Hidden Forces That Drive You, by Mike Foster

Questions to Discuss:

1. What triggers your reactive cycle?

2. How can you increase the gap between a negative trigger and your response?

3. How can we avoid spiraling down into the reactive cycle?

Episode 109 - Marriage Myth: We Think We're Healthy Because We Don't Fight (feat. Greg and Erin Smal

December 17, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Matthew 7:3–5, 1 Peter 5:5, 1 Corinthians 7:28, James 4:1, Ephesians 4:29

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott interview Greg and Erin Smalley about conflict and the myth that an absence of conflict means a couple must be healthy. We discuss what the Bible says about conflict and how healthy conflict repair can help us to be fully known and fully loved. Questions to Discuss: 1. Do you believe that quarrels and conflict can help couples truly know each other better? 2. Are there areas of your marriage where you have avoided tough conversations and swept any issues under the rug? 3. How are the two of you different from one another when it comes to conflict? 4. How can you develop a posture of humility in your marriage? Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7:28 James 4:1 1 Cor 13:6 Eph 4:29 Phil 2:3-4 Rom 12:18 MT 7:3-5 MT 18:15-17 1 Peter 5:5 Resources: Greg and Erin’s Podcast - https://podcasts.focusonthefamily.com/show/crazy-little-thing-called-marriage/ Website - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/

Episode 107 - Memorable Ways to Celebrate Your Wedding Anniversary

December 3, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Ephesians 5:31–32, 1 Peter 3:7

It only comes one time every year, but it’s worth celebrating! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to celebrate your wedding anniversary in a memorable and significant way. Resources: Blog Post – https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/30-unique-ways-to-celebrate-your-anniversary Scripture: Ephesians 5:31-32 1 Peter 3:7 Questions to Discuss: 1. What’s your favorite party you’ve ever been to? 2. What are your expectations for your anniversary? Make sure you discuss what each of your expectations are for celebrating your anniversary. 3. Why is it important to celebrate your anniversary? Do you realize your marriage is intended to be a picture of God’s triune love? 4. Where do we want to be in our marriage on our 50th anniversary?

Episode 106 - When Do I Overlook An Offense?

November 26, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 19:11, Romans 12:18, 1 Corinthians 13:4–7

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about what it means to overlook a small offense in marriage. When is it okay to overlook it and when do you need to address and discuss it? Scriptures: Proverbs 19:11 Romans 12:18 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Resources: Harris Creek https://static1.squarespace.com/static/609bed88cd0cfe24d393144f/t/636972fea15e31674657be77/1667855104130/harriscreek-conflictguide.pdf Harris Creek https://static1.squarespace.com/static/609bed88cd0cfe24d393144f/t/6369730324946a1ba5999848/1667855107629/peacemakerguide-3.0.pdf More Than Roommates – Episode 44 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000629181158 Questions to Discuss: 1. What is your favorite Disney song? 2. How do you know whether you can overlook an offense from your spouse? 3. Why do we give more grace or more easily overlook an offense from a stranger than we do for our spouse? 4. Are you a peace faker, a peace breaker, or a peace maker?