Lessons on Life & Business
Hebrews 3:1 (10/29/20)
Brain Science • October 29, 2020 • Benham Brothers
The warfare for your soul takes place on the battleground of your mind. • If you want to win in life then you have to wage war in your mind. • The writer of Hebrews wrote to encourage believers not to slip back into Judaism to avoid persecution. • Chaps 1-2 show how ossum Jesus is, and how He was sent from God and is above all others. • Vs 3:1 - In light of that, we have to FIX OUR THOUGHTS on Him. • How? • Unlock the RAS! • It’s your brain filter that determines what makes it from your subconscious to your consciousness. • I bought Allie a Ford Focus - I fixed my thoughts on that car. • I started seeing them everywhere! • Our thoughts are fixed by: • 1) What we believe to be true. • 2) What we truly desire. • 3) What we focus on. • EX: the color yellow.
Psalms 119:1-72 (10/29/20)
Bible-based Business • October 29, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* All of our businesses were built on the principles of the Bible. * King David was the most successful man in his generation. * Vs 1-4 - we’re blessed when we HEED the Bible. * Vs 9-10 - a young person can also be a newby in business - how can a person who comes into success make sure it doesn’t turn them into something they never were? By living according to God’s Word. * Purity and Power are linked - the more of one the more of the other. * Vs 11a - we’re blessed when we HIDE the Word inside us. * When we hide something we see it’s value and take it for ourselves (like a gun). * Vs 11b - it then protects us when we need it most. * Vs 14 - the result of following God’s Word - you value what He values. * What we all ultimately want is peace and fulfillment - not bundles of money. * Vs 72 - value the Bible over riches. * Living within God’s boundaries give us that. * Vs 44-45 - Boundaries bring blessing.
Psalms 118:5 (10/22/20)
Purpose Through Pain • October 22, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* Your purpose is only found through the valley of pain. * God uses pain to prepare you for your purpose. * Backstory - Jews sand Psalm 118 every Passover. * Jesus probably sang it the night He was betrayed. * Vs 5 - He knew the pain was coming. * “When I was distressed…” Distressed means “tight spot.” * David was in a tight spot but God brought him into a spacious place. * The tight spot prepared him for the spacious place. * EX: birth. * Genesis 14:13-14 - God put His descendants in a tight spot to prepare them for a spacious place. * EX: diff between endorphins and adrenaline. * Adrenaline - happens quick, fight or flight. * Endorphins - takes time, only comes after pain (runner’s high). * EX: Joseph. * We have to go through PAIN to find and fulfill our PURPOSE.
2 Timothy 1:4-5 (10/22/20)
The Best Job of All • October 22, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* The best job of all is raising up kids who love Jesus. * Nobody can do that job for your kids better than you. * Anyone can replace you at a meeting, but nobody can at the ballgame. * Paul was Timothy’s mentor, but the spark of Tim’s faith came from his mom and grandma. * Vs 4-5 - they didn’t have a book or blog or on the speaking circuit, but they were faithful to raise a young boy who would turn the world upside down for Christ. * A river touches places its source knows nothing of. * Tim’s mom was faithful when nobody was watching. * Much like the mom who packed the lunch for the kid who’s lunch Jesus used to feed the 5,000. * My mom did the same thing. * Anyone could’ve spoken at a conference or written a book I read, but only one person could’ve walked my lunch up to me at school - and she was faithful to do just that. * As a parent, what do you do? * Run at the pace of your people. * Whatever the pace is in your kids’ lives, wrap your life around that.
2 Timothy 4:14 (10/22/20)
Forgiveness • October 22, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* We’re developing a course for business owners called: * Hosed: how to make it through deal gone wrong without killing someone or jumping off a bridge. * Our basis will be on the proper way to forgive “as God forgives,” and using Jesus as the example. * QUESTION - does God forgive an unrepentant sinner? * Jesus had to power to forgive sins. What did He do? * 1) With the paralytic - He granted forgiveness. * 2) At the cross - He didn’t grant forgiveness. * He was always “ready to forgive,” but only those who asked got it. * An unforgiving spirit is about not being willing to forgive (not ready). * If you have this spirit you can have no fellowship with God. * DANGER - if we blindly forgive we trample God’s justice. * Something deep inside won’t sit right. * We must forgive “as God forgives.” (As Jesus forgave) * So what do we do when someone does us wrong? * If they repent, we do what Jesus did with the paralytic - we grant them forgiveness. * If they don’t repent, we do what Jesus did at the cross - we give the situation to God. * In this way we’ll be walking in forgiveness because we’re “ready” to grant it to them. * Vs 14 - Paul did what Jesus did on the cross.
1 Timothy 3:1-7 (10/15/20)
Leadership 101 • October 15, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* What does it take to be a good leader? * Paul shares with Timothy the qualifications of a person who could run a church. * The same qualifications needed to run a non-profit are what are needed to run a for-profit. * Vs 1-7 - Paul splits his advice into what the leaders SHOULD BE and what they SHOULDN’T BE. * Here’s what they need to be (vs 2, 4, 5, 7): * 1) Above reproach (vs 2) - he’s blameless, without having anything in his life that could bring shame to the church. (Like a businessman meeting a woman for biz lunch alone) * 2) Faithful to his wife (vs 2) - literal translation, “a one-woman man.” His marriage shows you the kind of person he is. * 3) Temperate (vs 2) - he’s even-keeled. He doesn’t get out of sorts when poop hits the fan. Keeps a cool head (like the gazelle running from a cheetah - it’s brain stays cooler than the cheetah, so he can outrun it). * 4) Self-controlled (vs 2) - he’s in charge of his Emotions and Appetites. He manages what he feels and controls what he wants. * 5) Disciplined (vs 2) - the NIV says “respectable,” but the Passion Version says “living a disciplined life.” Discipline leads to delight. * 6) Hospitable (vs 2) - he likes people and is willing to share what he has with others. Hospital people allow others full access to themselves. They consider their thing your thing. * 7) Able to Teach (vs 2) - he is able to divulge what he digests. A teacher does the mental heavy lifting for you to process more easily (like Tori pureeing food for our kids). * 8) Manage his family well (vs 4-5) - your ability as a parent shows more about you than anything else. Your kids obey from the heart, not out of being controlled. * 9) Worthy of respect (vs 7) - needs a good reputation. He needs to live a life that others admire, even if they don’t agree with him. They respect his stand. * Here’s what he can’t be (vs 3, 6): * 1) Given to drunkenness (vs 3) - he’s gotta be able to control his appetite, especially for things that can intoxicate. * 2) Violent (vs 3) - he’s got to be gentle, not easily riled-up and explosive with his words and deeds. Prov 16:32 - One who is slow to anger is better than the mighty… (Samson) * 3) Quarrelsome (vs 3) - he can’t be easily agitated, always ready to fight. He must operate out of a position of confidence, not insecurity. * 4) A lover of money (vs 3) - money can’t have a grip on him. He’s got to be able to see people as people, not dollar signs. He finds his security in God. * 5) Not a recent convert (vs 6) - he can’t be someone who wants too much influence too fast. He’s gotta be patient to grow slow.
1 Thessalonians 3:1-4 (10/8/20)
Great Expectations • October 8, 2020 • Benham Brothers
God is calling you to faithfulness in the marketplace. • And you should EXPECT to be rewarded for it. • Prov 22:29 - faithfulness in your work leads to promotion. • Be good at what you do and your level of customer and client increases. • Matt 5:11 - faithfulness in your walk leads to persecution. • Your job isn’t to get a promotion or receive persecution - your job is faithfulness. • God will take care of the rest. • The same thing that got us fired by HGTV is what got us hired. • Expect promotion AND persecution! • Disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality. • So what do we do? • In our work - Expect promotion by EXCEEDING expectations. • When expectation is high, people buy. • People pay for your what, but they stay for your way. • In our walk - Expect persecution by MANAGING expectations. • EX: When we were first hired by HGTV we knew the battle would come. • 1 Thes 3:2-4 - Paul sent Timothy to the Thessalonians to manage their expectations!
2 Thessalonians 3:6-13 (10/8/20)
Move Forward • October 8, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* When our work is worship we are consistently moving forward. * When work lacks meaning, we coast. * Backstory - some of the believers thought that Jesus was coming back in their day, so they stopped working and started coasting. * Because of that, the church was feeding these people and it became a financial burden on the church. * Paul rebuked them, telling them 1) Don’t be idle, 2) Don’t hang out with those who are. * Idleness will rob you of rest (only a working man can truly rest). * A car in idle has power but isn’t using it to move. * Vs 6 - What teaching? Vs 10 - No work, no food! * Hunger makes people want to shift from neutral into drive. * Vs 7-8 - when you work: * You’re not a burden to anyone. * You’re not beholden to anyone. * You can bless everyone. * Vs 9 - Paul gave up his rights for his responsibility. * Vs 11 - Idle people aren’t busy, they are busybodies - they’re bored. * A busy person thinks about what they are doing. * A busybody thinks about what others are doing. * Vs 12 - Principle - EARN WHAT YOU EAT! * If you don’t you won’t be satisfied by what you put in your mouth. * Vs 13 - “doing right” in this context is not growing tired of doing honest work as unto the Lord. * It doesn’t matter what the job is, we can make our work worship. * Don’t ever stop - just keep moving forward.
Colossians 1:17 (10/8/20)
Jesus, Entrepreneur • October 8, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* An entrepreneur is an intercessor - someone who intervenes on someone’s behalf. * They “stand in the gap” between a person and a problem - they bring a solution. * God calls all of us to stand in the gap and bring connection between God and people. * Jesus was the ultimate gap-stander. * Vs 17 - laminar is a cell adhesion molecule that acts like glue to hold cells together. * Without it we literally fall apart. * It’s like the re-bar inside of concrete. * Google “laminen” and see what shape it’s in. * It’s in the shape of the cross!
Psalms 106:23 (10/1/20)
Entrepreneur / Intercessor • October 1, 2020 • Benham Brothers
God is calling up a new type of gap-stander today. • A person who stands on behalf of others to connect them with God • Ezek 22:30 - A gap-stander is an intercessor.. • Ps 106:23 - God liked what Moses did - it benefited both parties, himself and the people he interceded for. • When my son gets in trouble and his brother stands up for him, my heart is endeared toward both. • Here’s the beauty - the word “entrepreneur” means the same thing. • “Entre” comes from the Latin term that means “enter into.” • “Preneur” comes from the French word “preened” and means “to undertake.” • In the marketplace there are people with problems. • An entrepreneur slides in between both and brings a solution. • He is a “gap-stander” by calling. • On this foundation, if his solution meets their tangible need then he can bring a solution to their intangible need. • “If you meet the need the customer is paying you for you may get an open door to meet the need they’re not paying you for - their spiritual need.” • EX: William Merrill Vorhies - an architect God called to start a firm in Japan. • Missionary to Japan - used his biz to disciple people. • He became concerned about all the earthquakes, so he prayed and God gave him a dream about spacers placed strategically in foundation walls. • He invented the Earthquake-Proof building. • He had another dream that led him to invent Menthaladium, the vapor rub for chest colds. • Vorhies saw himself as an entrepreneur/intercessor who bridged the gap between God and the people who were disconnected from Him. • An entrepreneur is a gap-stander who brings a solution to peoples’ problems for eternal reward.
Ephesians 6:7-8 (10/1/20)
Working For a Reward • October 1, 2020 • Benham Brothers
* Work loses its meaning if you don’t do it for a reward. * Vs 7-8 - God is a rewarder and He made us to want reward. * Philippians 4:17 - “…I want you to receive a reward for your kindness.” * Colossians 3:23-24 - “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord…you will receive…a reward.” * Don’t believe the lie that we should be willing to do things for the Lord without a hope for reward. * When you work “as unto the Lord” you are making Him your boss. * What would we say about a boss who didn’t reward his employees? * An entrepreneur is someone who sees a person with a problem and slides in between to bring a solution “FOR A REWARD.” * Satan knows this - it’s why he doesn’t want us to treat our work as worship. * When we work for tangible reward only we lose out on the intangible. * When we work for both we get both. * We’ll get fulfillment attached to finances. * Significance attached to success. * Meaning attached to money. * Impact attached to income. * Without the hope of a tangible reward we won’t have a context to evangelize and disciple. * Our workplace defines the context for discipleship and evangelism.