THE UNITY CENTER

SERIES: 7 Spiritual Sticking Points

Oct/Nov Series

The Need to Control

November 18, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

In this last lesson of the series, Wendy discusses “The Need to Control”. What is the difference between being ‘in control’ and being ‘controlling’? Where does our need to control come from? READINGS: “You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” Wayne Dyer “I let go of my need to control and allow the Universe to do her thing.” Gabrielle Bernstein “Real strength isn’t control. It’s knowing when to let go.” Christopher Barzak “Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.” Rumi “Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” Kahlil Gibran “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what yo do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” Steve Maraboli “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl “Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.” Unknown “Everything I ever let go of had claw marks on it.” Unknown

The Need to Keep Score

November 11, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

READINGS: The minute you start keeping score, you’re destroying the relationship. Tony Robbins Keeping score is for games, not relationships. John Maxwell Relationships are about give and take; not tit-for-tat. If you’re keeping score, you’ll lose at your own game. Faydra D. Fields. You cannot go around and keep score. If you keep score on the good things and the bad things, you’ll find out that you’re a very miserable person. God gave man the ability to forget, which is one of the greatest attributes you have. Because if you remember everything that’s happened to you, you generally remember that which is the mot unfortunate. Hubert Humphrey Always render more and better service than is expected of you, no matter your task may be. Og Mandino If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do. Forgiveness is not about keeping score. Forgiveness is about losing count. Unknown

The Need to Judge

November 4, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

READINGS: “Be curious, not judgmental.” Walt Whitman “Just remember that sometimes the way you think about a person isn’t the way they actually are.” John Green “The more you look into and understand yourself, the less judgmental you become towards others.” Tariq Ramadan “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Mother Teresa “Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.” Carl C. Jung “Once you awaken, you all have no interest in judging those who sleep.” James Blanchard “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Albert Einstein “Do not judge my story by the chapter you walked in on.” Unknown

The Need to Look Good

October 28, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

This week, Rev. Wendy talks about The Need to Look Good. Rev. Wendy discusses why the need to look good may hinder our true potential. READINGS And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. (Mat 6:5-6) You show your worth by what you seek. Rumi You yourself are your own obstacle, rise above yourself. Hafiz The soul has no secret that the behavior does not reveal. Lao Tzu If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be. Maya Angelou Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside. Unknown None are so empty as those who are full of themselves. Benjamin Whichcote One day you’ll look back and realize that you worried too much about things that don’t rally matter. Unknown

The Need to Get Even

October 21, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

This week, Rev. Wendy talks about The Need to Get Even. Rev. Wendy shares examples of how anger and frustrations can arise from everyday interactions, and offers insights into how we can show up differently in those challenging situations. READINGS: “Let go of your ego’s need to be right. When you’re in the middle of an argument, ask yourself: Do I want to be right or be happy? When you choose the joyous, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intention is strengthened.” Dr. Way Der “When you are right, you have no need to be angry. When you are wrong you have no right to be angry.” Mahatma Gandhi “The need to be right all the time is the biggest bar to new ideas. It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong than to be always right by having no ideas at all.” Edward de Bono “To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times, what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a special heart that listens.” F. Scott Fitzgerald “When my need to appear right is greater than my desire to display God’s love, I will inevitably treat people with judgment, disrespect and harshness.” Unknown “We need to be open with or beliefs if we want to find the truth.” Unknown

The Need to Be Right

October 14, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

This week, Rev. Wendy continues her series, Seven Spiritual Sticking Points, with a talk titled, The Need to Be Right. Rev. Wendy explores the reason why we need to be right, and ways to move beyond our underlying fears. READINGS: “Let go of your ego’s need to be right. When you’re in the middle of an argument, ask yourself: Do I want to be right or be happy? When you choose the joyous, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intention is strengthened.” Dr. Way Der “When you are right, you have no need to be angry. When you are wrong you have no right to be angry.” Mahatma Gandhi “The need to be right all the time is the biggest bar to new ideas. It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong than to be always right by having no ideas at all.” Edward de Bono “To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times, what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a special heart that listens.” F. Scott Fitzgerald “When my need to appear right is greater than my desire to display God’s love, I will inevitably treat people with judgment, disrespect and harshness.” Unknown “We need to be open with or beliefs if we want to find the truth.” Unknown

The Need to Know

October 7, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

This week, Rev. Wendy begins a new series, Seven Spiritual Sticking Points, with a talk titled, The Need to Know. Rev. Wendy looks at the behaviors and attitudes that keep us from doing the deeper work we need to do. “Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.” Gilda Radner “Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you.” Eckhart Tolle “Trust the wait. Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible.” Mandy Hale “Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.” Bob Goff “The willingness to consider possibility requires a tolerance of uncertainty.” Rachel Naomi Remen “It is how we embrace the uncertainty in our lives that leads to the great transformations of our souls.” Brandon A. Pear