The Need to Get Even

THE UNITY CENTER

The Need to Get Even

Series: Seven Spiritual Sticking Points

October 21, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

This week, Rev. Wendy talks about The Need to Get Even. Rev. Wendy shares examples of how anger and frustrations can arise from everyday interactions, and offers insights into how we can show up differently in those challenging situations.

READINGS:
“Let go of your ego’s need to be right. When you’re in the middle of an argument, ask yourself: Do I want to be right or be happy? When you choose the joyous, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intention is strengthened.” Dr. Way Der

“When you are right, you have no need to be angry. When you are wrong you have no right to be angry.” Mahatma Gandhi

“The need to be right all the time is the biggest bar to new ideas. It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong than to be always right by having no ideas at all.” Edward de Bono

“To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times, what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a special heart that listens.” F. Scott Fitzgerald

“When my need to appear right is greater than my desire to display God’s love, I will inevitably treat people with judgment, disrespect and harshness.” Unknown

“We need to be open with or beliefs if we want to find the truth.” Unknown

More from SERIES: 7 Spiritual Sticking Points

The Need to Control

November 18, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

In this last lesson of the series, Wendy discusses “The Need to Control”. What is the difference between being ‘in control’ and being ‘controlling’? Where does our need to control come from? READINGS: “You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” Wayne Dyer “I let go of my need to control and allow the Universe to do her thing.” Gabrielle Bernstein “Real strength isn’t control. It’s knowing when to let go.” Christopher Barzak “Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.” Rumi “Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” Kahlil Gibran “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what yo do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” Steve Maraboli “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl “Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.” Unknown “Everything I ever let go of had claw marks on it.” Unknown

The Need to Keep Score

November 11, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

READINGS: The minute you start keeping score, you’re destroying the relationship. Tony Robbins Keeping score is for games, not relationships. John Maxwell Relationships are about give and take; not tit-for-tat. If you’re keeping score, you’ll lose at your own game. Faydra D. Fields. You cannot go around and keep score. If you keep score on the good things and the bad things, you’ll find out that you’re a very miserable person. God gave man the ability to forget, which is one of the greatest attributes you have. Because if you remember everything that’s happened to you, you generally remember that which is the mot unfortunate. Hubert Humphrey Always render more and better service than is expected of you, no matter your task may be. Og Mandino If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do. Forgiveness is not about keeping score. Forgiveness is about losing count. Unknown

The Need to Judge

November 4, 2018 • Rev. Wendy Craig-Purcell

READINGS: “Be curious, not judgmental.” Walt Whitman “Just remember that sometimes the way you think about a person isn’t the way they actually are.” John Green “The more you look into and understand yourself, the less judgmental you become towards others.” Tariq Ramadan “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Mother Teresa “Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.” Carl C. Jung “Once you awaken, you all have no interest in judging those who sleep.” James Blanchard “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Albert Einstein “Do not judge my story by the chapter you walked in on.” Unknown