For the past two Sundays, we’ve examined the concept of God’s vengeance to better understand His character and what this reveals about His nature. John emphasized how this understanding should deepen our appreciation of the cross and the work of Jesus Christ on our behalf. Hopefully, we’ve glimpsed God’s nature more fully—His justice, love, and righteousness in a way that brings the cross to life.
Having looked at the nature of God’s vengeance, we now turn to how humans, particularly as fallen men and women, have historically practiced vengeance. What is our relationship to this concept, and how has it affected us over time?
Let's start with examples from Scripture and the cultural narratives we consume—stories like Gladiator and John Wick—where vengeance is depicted as a right. The goal is to understand what human vengeance looks like both historically and biblically, beyond the cinematic idealization of "just revenge."
Biblical Examples of Vengeance
Genesis 4 – Lamech’s Vengeance The first recorded instance of human vengeance is seen in Lamech, a descendant of Cain. Lamech took two wives and wrote the first recorded poem of Scripture. In it, he declared, “I have killed a man for wounding me, a young man for striking me. If Cain’s revenge is sevenfold, then Lamech’s is seventy-sevenfold.” His response far exceeded the injury he suffered, exemplifying humanity’s tendency to respond disproportionately to insults and injuries.
Genesis 34 – Simeon and Levi’s Retaliation In Genesis 34, we encounter Simeon and Levi’s response to the violation of their sister, Dinah. When Shechem, the son of a local prince, defiles her, they trick the men of Shechem’s city into circumcision. When the men are weakened, Simeon and Levi kill every male in the city. Their reaction escalates beyond what justice would require, reflecting a vengeance driven by pride and family honor.
1 Samuel 18 – Saul’s Jealousy Toward David King Saul’s animosity toward David, born out of jealousy, shows how perceived threats to personal reputation can drive vengeance. After David’s victory over Goliath, Saul hears the people’s chant, “Saul has slain his thousands, and David his ten thousands.” Feeling his honor threatened, Saul attempts repeatedly to kill David, consumed by envy.
Esther 3 – Haman’s Wrath Against the Jews In Esther 3, Haman’s pride leads him to seek the destruction of the entire Jewish population. Mordecai’s refusal to bow before Haman infuriates him, and his response is to annihilate all Jews in the kingdom. Haman’s vengeance is extreme, showing how personal affronts, when combined with pride, can lead to devastating outcomes.
1 Samuel 25 – David and Nabal In 1 Samuel 25, David expects a reward from Nabal for protecting his property and men. When Nabal dismisses David’s request, David plans to kill all the males in Nabal’s household in response. However, Abigail, Nabal’s wife, intervenes, reminding David of God’s justice and sparing him from committing unnecessary bloodshed.
The Common Practice of Vengeance
Human vengeance often stems from pride and perceived threats to personal dignity. Here are some common scenarios of “everyday vengeance”:
Physical Insults – Someone accidentally bumps into us, and we retaliate, escalating a minor incident into a confrontation.
Insults and Disrespect – Someone says something offensive, and we stew over it, often slandering them in our hearts or to others.
Driving – A common temptation is to retaliate when another driver cuts us off, perhaps by speeding ahead or honking excessively.
Marital Frustrations – Disappointments in marriage can lead to spiteful actions, whether through passive aggression or intentional harm.
Church Conflicts – Feeling overlooked or underappreciated can lead us to withdraw or leave, hoping others will notice our absence.
Workplace Resentments – Being offended by a boss or a coworker may lead to actions like slacking off or seeking revenge.
Each of these situations reflects a subtle form of vengeance, one that betrays our struggle with pride and self-focus.
The Christian Response: Avoiding Vengeance
Romans 12:19 offers a different approach: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’” As followers of Christ, our response must be to trust in God’s justice rather than seeking our own. Here are principles to help:
Be Loved by God
Recognize that you are beloved by God. This identity should remind us of our worth, not from others’ opinions, but from God’s love. Reflecting on God’s love should prevent us from lashing out in pride or insecurity.
Entrust Yourself to God’s Justice
Jesus exemplified this on the cross, when He did not retaliate against His persecutors but entrusted Himself to God’s judgment. In our conflicts, we are called to do the same, trusting that God sees all and will judge justly in the end.
Practice Love Toward Your Enemy
Romans 12:20 instructs us, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.” This goes against every instinct of our sinful nature, yet it models Christ’s love, who gave Himself for us while we were yet His enemies.
Living Out These Truths
Vengeance is the way of the common man. Paul exhorts us to be uncommon, to be “constrained by the love of Christ” (2 Corinthians 5:14). In daily life, we must be vigilant against the seeds of bitterness and retaliation, committing ourselves instead to the love and justice of God.
Questions for Reflection:
Are there areas in my life where I seek vengeance, whether through actions, words, or thoughts?
How does my understanding of God’s love influence my reactions to offenses?
Am I meditating on offenses, or am I considering God’s love and promises?
The way of Christ calls us to a higher standard: to be peacemakers, sons and daughters of God, loved by Him. As we practice this, we show the world a glimpse of His glory, overcoming evil with good.