Connectional: Slow to Hold Grudges, Quick to Forgive, Controls the Tongue
October 16, 2022 • Pastor Chris Pappenfus • Ephesians 4
One of our four values as First Covenant Church is that we are connectional. We recognize and desire to grow in our connection to God in Christ Jesus our LORD, and we want to reflect our LORD in the manner in which we are connected to one another. I have often heard people describe a church congregation as a family. I remember a conversation I was having with a leader of a previous congregation. As we were pondering how to help restore a broken relationship between two church members, the leader just sighed and muttered, “Ahhh, family.” Knowing that this wasn’t an expression of endearment I looked at him and signaled for some clarity, he simply smiled and added, “Dysfunctional, just like family.”
Well, maturing as connected followers of Jesus actually invites us to move beyond dysfunctional relationships and into relationships that reflect our Savior, Jesus Christ. In this regard, a mark of connectional maturity is that Christians are slow to hold grudges, quick to forgive, and they control their tongues. Our words are powerful (parents on Wednesday night family life groups learned that last Wednesday); and because we desire to grow as connectionally mature followers of Jesus, we use our words to build one another up - not to tear one another down. Connectionally mature Christians strive to be peacemakers and resolve conflict quickly. They refuse to let seeds of bitterness grow into hatred. When angry, they are careful not to stray into sin, which leaves destruction in its wake. Connectional maturity which embraces this is counter-cultural, the very opposite of our fallen human condition, and often very difficult to obtain. This week we will be exploring Paul’s teaching in Ephesians, Chapter 4.