Married With Benefits

Secret 6: Factual Fantasies: How to Get Yours

July 18, 2024 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn

Not all fantasies are created equally, in fact, one kind is the leading cause of unhappiness in marriage. But how do you avoid pitfalls and pursue contentment with your spouse? Tune in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn continue discussing the fifth secret of highly happy couples!

Secret 5: On Getting Bossy (with Your Expectations in Marriage)

July 11, 2024 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn

Expectations in marriage can be a bear. Add in parenting...and you may want to roar at your spouse. How can you avoid expectations mauling your marriage?

Secret 4: On Keeping Score

July 4, 2024 • Shaunti Feldhahn, Brian Goins

You've probably heard the marriage advice: don't try to keep score. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn suggest there's one tally that might actually be good to track in Christian marriage—find out what it is!

Secret 3: On Going to Bed Mad, with Jen Goins

June 27, 2024 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn

Going to bed angry or not: if someone's giving you advice for marriage, they likely have an opinion. And doesn't the Bible take a stance? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a fresh take on how to deal with anger in marriage — a normal part of the human experience — at bedtime and beyond. You'll leave this episode with perhaps a fresh perspective, as well as practical tips on handling conflict, communication, and, yes, anger.

Secret 2: 5 Little Ways to Grow Happiness In Marriage

June 20, 2024 • Shaunti Feldhahn, Brian Goins

Looking for some happy vibes in your marriage? Learn about the 'fantastic five' small but mighty try-now practices to grow happiness in your marriage.

The First Secret of Highly Happy Marriages

June 13, 2024 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn

You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational mindset shift can help you move from frustration to affection and from grumpy to gracious.

The Highly Happy Marriage: Is That a Thing?

June 6, 2024 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn

"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Change—even "good" change and growth—can be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of.

Is Marriage Past its Prime? Dr. Brad Wilcox

May 23, 2024 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn

Long Description Font Salesforce Sans Font Size 12 Choose a color. Current color: #000000 Bold Italic Underline Strikethrough Bulleted list Numbered list Indent Outdent Left align text Center align text Right align text Link Image Remove formatting Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research. Dr. Wilcox is a Professor of Sociology and Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, as well as the Future of Freedom Fellow at the Institute for Family Studies. Join us for this conversation exploring why more and more people are doubting marriage's value and what the research actually says. You'll also learn data-backed practical advice for building a happy marriage and family -- for yourself or for a friend!

8. Is Your Sex Life Missing the Point?

March 28, 2023 • Shaunti Feldhahn, Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma

Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything. Show Notes and Resources https://www.familylife.com/app/ to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit https://shaunti.com/. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: https://shop.familylife.com/p-6352-secrets-of-sex-and-marriage.aspx.

7. When Sex is Boring

March 21, 2023 • Shaunti Feldhahn, Michael Sytsma, Brian Goins

Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma’s got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom. Show Notes and Resources https://www.familylife.com/app/ to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit https://shaunti.com/. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: https://shop.familylife.com/p-6352-secrets-of-sex-and-marriage.aspx.

6. When Sex is Painful: Dr. Michael Sytsma

March 14, 2023 • Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn, Michael Sytsma

Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness.

5. Not Tonight? Why Good Signals Make Sexual Sparks Fly: Dr. Michael Sytsma

March 7, 2023

Initiating or declining sex: It’s tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.” Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit https://shaunti.com/. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: https://shop.familylife.com/p-6352-secrets-of-sex-and-marriage.aspx.

4. When Your Married Sex Life Hits a Snag

February 28, 2023 • Shaunti Feldhahn, Michael Sytsma, Brian Goins

Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling—or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot.

Sexual Desire: What to Do When You're Not on the Same Page

February 21, 2023 • Shaunti Feldhahn, Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma

Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.

BONUS: Is Withholding Intimacy Ever Okay?

February 14, 2023

Listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover this question.

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