Leadership 101

Lessons from 1 Timothy 3

October 15, 2020 • Benham Brothers

* What does it take to be a good leader? * Paul shares with Timothy the qualifications of a person who could run a church. * The same qualifications needed to run a non-profit are what are needed to run a for-profit. * Vs 1-7 - Paul splits his advice into what the leaders SHOULD BE and what they SHOULDN’T BE. * Here’s what they need to be (vs 2, 4, 5, 7): * 1) Above reproach (vs 2) - he’s blameless, without having anything in his life that could bring shame to the church. (Like a businessman meeting a woman for biz lunch alone) * 2) Faithful to his wife (vs 2) - literal translation, “a one-woman man.” His marriage shows you the kind of person he is. * 3) Temperate (vs 2) - he’s even-keeled. He doesn’t get out of sorts when poop hits the fan. Keeps a cool head (like the gazelle running from a cheetah - it’s brain stays cooler than the cheetah, so he can outrun it). * 4) Self-controlled (vs 2) - he’s in charge of his Emotions and Appetites. He manages what he feels and controls what he wants. * 5) Disciplined (vs 2) - the NIV says “respectable,” but the Passion Version says “living a disciplined life.” Discipline leads to delight. * 6) Hospitable (vs 2) - he likes people and is willing to share what he has with others. Hospital people allow others full access to themselves. They consider their thing your thing. * 7) Able to Teach (vs 2) - he is able to divulge what he digests. A teacher does the mental heavy lifting for you to process more easily (like Tori pureeing food for our kids). * 8) Manage his family well (vs 4-5) - your ability as a parent shows more about you than anything else. Your kids obey from the heart, not out of being controlled. * 9) Worthy of respect (vs 7) - needs a good reputation. He needs to live a life that others admire, even if they don’t agree with him. They respect his stand. * Here’s what he can’t be (vs 3, 6): * 1) Given to drunkenness (vs 3) - he’s gotta be able to control his appetite, especially for things that can intoxicate. * 2) Violent (vs 3) - he’s got to be gentle, not easily riled-up and explosive with his words and deeds. Prov 16:32 - One who is slow to anger is better than the mighty… (Samson) * 3) Quarrelsome (vs 3) - he can’t be easily agitated, always ready to fight. He must operate out of a position of confidence, not insecurity. * 4) A lover of money (vs 3) - money can’t have a grip on him. He’s got to be able to see people as people, not dollar signs. He finds his security in God. * 5) Not a recent convert (vs 6) - he can’t be someone who wants too much influence too fast. He’s gotta be patient to grow slow.

Six Traits of a Good Leader

Lessons from Joshua • April 15, 2021 • Benham Brothers

* Good leadership is good followship. * You know a good leader by the one he is following. * Joshua was a good leader because he was a faithful follower - of God and Moses. * Backstory - the Israelites had just repented of their sin (Achan) and made it right. * Now it was time to fight again (use their mistake for their benefit). * This was the first battle that involved typical military strategy. * So how did Joshua lead them? Notice six things: * 1) He was with the people (vs 9) - Just like Jesus, he didn’t elevate himself above them (Judas w/the kiss). * God makes clear in Scripture that He is “with” us (the best thing you can say to someone). * 2) He was in the valley (vs 13) - if things were bad with the people then he’d be right there with him. * Psalms 23:4 - “Though I walk thru the valley of death I will fear no evil, for you are with me.” * 3) He listened for God (vs 18a) - he paid attention to God’s voice. * 4) He obeyed God (vs 18b & vs 29) - when he heard God’s command, he obeyed without question. * 5) He built an altar (vs 30) - he had an attitude of reverence to God, a heart of worship. * 6) He elevated Scripture (vs 34) - he elevated God’s Word above all and made sure everyone heard it. Specifically the blessings and curses of Deuteronomy 28 (George Washington).

Five Keys to a Godly Biz Leader

Five Keys to a Godly Biz Leader • November 5, 2020 • Benham Brothers

Psalms 119:57-63 1 - Be committed to God. 2 - Be self aware. 3 - Never procrastinate. 4 - Always be thankful. 5 - Choose wise friends.


How to set and accomplish your goals • January 2, 2019 • Benham Brothers

A dream written down is a goal. A goal broken down is a plan. A plan acted upon leads to profit (Proverbs 16:9). You cannot accomplish your goals apart from discipline and diligence. You cannot maintain discipline without knowing WHY you have the goal in the first place. Seven Keys to creating goals: 1) Establish Long Term and Short Term Goals - a long term goal is what you want to accomplish or become in 5 years, 10 years, lifetime. Short term goals are the ones that are measurable and include more of your day-to-day activities. 2) KISS - keep it simple stupid! When you start thinking of all the things you want to accomplish you'll end up writing a book. Refine this down to one or two points for each category. 3) Categorize - you can split them up however you want. Financial, Personal, Business, Spiritual, etc (you can have one or two sub-categories under these as well). It doesn't matter what categories you use - just do something that helps you keep track. 4) Write them down - that's what your Memo App is for! Put it on your PDA and carry them with you everywhere. 5) Measure them - every quarter take inventory and then write a date beside the ones you've accomplished. You have to put goals that can be measured - don't just put "Become a better husband." Instead, put "One date night a week" or something like that. 6) Refine - take inventory to see if you need to change a goal. There's nothing wrong with that. We plan our way but God determines our course, so sometimes you'll end up on a different course which makes your previous goal moot. 7) Pray over them daily - at the bottom of my goals list I put Proverbs 16:3 - "Commit your way to the Lord and your plans will succeed." The beauty of this is that when you're walking with the Lord He will give you the plans He wants you to follow - so just make a plan and stick to it. He'll change them when/if He sees fit. Either way, your/His plans will succeed.