The objective of this series of lessons is to activate your faith to address tough conversations that have separated or prevented you from living in the freedom that Christ came for you and I to have that puts you in a place of perpetual freedom from SHADE and Offense! Because...
- You cannot live offended
- You cannot serve God and fear and be free
- You cannot have a fulfilled life having a "successful" relationship with anxiety
What is shade? "...shade is a subtle sneering expression of contempt or disgust with someone, acting in a casual or disrespectful manner towards someone/dissing a friend..."
Satan’s objective is to get us to believe that we have been offended so that he can get the advantage on us.
"Dealing with SHADE and offence is common to the human experience and must be confronted; otherwise many believers will be overtaken and live intimidated into avoidance and anxiety versus the courageous victorious life."
What do you do when they have offended you, threw shade on you - or don’t have the courage and maturity to communicate in a healthy manner to confront the issue because they cannot overcome anxiety’s grip to have a fruitful life and relationship?
"...what do you do when the person who won’t own their issue is you? When the enemy is kicking your butt with pride or guilt and shame, having you in the mindset, that all you want is to get past this!
-- Pride makes you minimize the other persons feelings and reasons and maximize yours – you got to own your issue.
-- Guilt causes you to apologize waaay too long and eventually you find yourself fading off into isolation. Once in isolation the enemy will then point out your innocence – we are not able to support being guilty long term – this is where you owned it, but you don’t get free, you are bound by the guilt – Jesus wasn’t enough…
-- Shame causes you to hide, hurt inside, fatigue in this area, will have you blame shifting, and build monumental scenarios to support your distance – but you got to own your issue!
"Owning it means - I humble myself to the reality that my actions (intentional or unintentional) caused pain and or brought offense to another…when my goal is not selfish, I have compassion on the other person, humble myself and consider them…"
