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Honor VI - "Dating and Relationships"

5/20/18

Honor VI _*Honor VI “Dating and Relationships”*_ Intro: Paul is trying to help us understand that we are in a season that required uires devotion to the Lord to overcome the evils of this world. Dangers in Dating 1. *Value in the wrong place* 1Co 7:25 Now concerning the betrothed, I have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord'smercy is trustworthy. 1Co 7:26 I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he is. 1Co 7:27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 1Co 7:28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that.1Co 7:29 This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, 1Co 7:30 and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, 1Co 7:31 and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away. Lies about value: Lie #1- If someone loves me, only then am I worthy to be loved Lie #2- If I am with someone i will have significance to others Lie #3- If have someone, life can begin to have purpose *2. Filling a void only God can fill* 1Co 7:32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 1Co 7:33 But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 1Co 7:34 and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. 1Co 7:35 I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your *undivided devotion to the Lord.* 1. There is a tension in life that we all fight 2. What to do while you wait on someone 3. The two shall become one *3. Temptation through emotional ties* 1Co 7:36 If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry—it is no sin. 1Co 7:37 But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. 1. You are not dating who you will marry 2. Don’t date who you would not marry 3. You need to be attracted in all areas 4. You need to court not date; there is a difference *Conclusion:* Honor God not the culture Questions: 1. What did you glean from this week’s message? 2. What part of this message would have saved you heartbreak in your past? 3. If you could advise a person who is dating one thing, what would it be? 4. Do you feel our need for acceptance through relationships is a spiritual thing? if so why? 5. In what ways can we as a church help protect someone who is dating?

FollowVI - Emotions Conclusion

February 16, 2020 • Paul Barnard

Emotions are guiding by outside influencers Deu 1:19 “Then we set out from Horeb and went through all that great and terrifying wilderness that you saw, on the way to the hill country of the Amorites, as the LORD our God commanded us. And we came to Kadesh-barnea. Deu 1:20 And I said to you, ‘You have come to the hill country of the Amorites, which the LORD our God is giving us. Deu 1:21 See, the LORD your God has set the land before you. Go up, take possession, as the LORD, the God of your fathers, has told you. Do not fear or be dismayed.’ Deu 1:22 Then all of you came near me and said, ‘Let us send men before us, that they may explore the land for us and bring us word again of the way by which we must go up and the cities into which we shall come.’ Deu 1:23 The thing seemed good to me, and I took twelve men from you, one man from each tribe. Deu 1:24 And they turned and went up into the hill country, and came to the Valley of Eshcol and spied it out. Deu 1:25 And they took in their hands some of the fruit of the land and brought it down to us, and brought us word again and said, ‘It is a good land that the LORD our God is giving us.’ Deu 1:26 “Yet you would not go up, but rebelled against the command of the LORD your God. Deu 1:27 And you murmured in your tents and said, ‘Because the LORD hated us he has brought us out of the land of Egypt, to give us into the hand of the Amorites, to destroy us. Deu 1:28 Where are we going up? Our brothers have made our hearts melt, saying, “The people are greater and taller than we. The cities are great and fortified up to heaven. And besides, we have seen the sons of the Anakim there.”’ Deu 1:29 Then I said to you, ‘Do not be in dread or afraid of them. Deu 1:30 The LORD your God who goes before you will himself fight for you, just as he did for you in Egypt before your eyes, Deu 1:31 and in the wilderness, where you have seen how the LORD your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way that you went until you came to this place.’ Deu 1:32 Yet in spite of this word you did not believe the LORD your God, Deu 1:33 who went before you in the way to seek you out a place to pitch your tents, in fire by night and in the cloud by day, to show you by what way you should go. *Foundations for negative emotions:* * Fear Deu 1:28 Where are we going up? Our brothers have made our hearts melt, saying, “The people are greater and taller than we. The cities are great and fortified up to heaven. And besides, we have seen the sons of the Anakim there.”’ Deu 1:29 Then I said to you, ‘Do not be in dread or afraid of them. * Lies Deu 1:31 and in the wilderness, where you have seen how the LORD your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way that you went until you came to this place.’ Deu 1:32 Yet in spite of this word you did not believe the LORD your God, *Fuel for negative emotions:* * Reactions Deu 1:26 “Yet you would not go up, but rebelled against the command of the LORD your God. Deu 1:27 And you murmured in your tents and said, ‘Because the LORD hated us he has brought us out of the land of Egypt, to give us into the hand of the Amorites, to destroy us. * Resets Deu 1:27 And you murmured in your tents and said, ‘Because the LORD hated us he has brought us out of the land of Egypt, to give us into the hand of the Amorites, to destroy us. *Emotional tolls-* Poor decisions Becoming a slave *Breaking free-* Break from emotional triggers Draw near to God and find identity in Him. Sabbatical Questions: What negative emotions do you struggle with and why? In what ways do reactions to these emotions hinder God’s plan for you? Can you identify “resets” in your life? Give an example. How can drawing closer to God, help to control reaction to emotion? What specific steps can you make this week to identify emotional slavery in your life?

Follow V - Anger

02/09/20 • February 9, 2020 • Paul Barnard

Follow V “Emotions: Anger” Follow V “Emotions: Anger” Anger is sticky * Eph 4:26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, * Ecc 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools Anger is the flesh personified- * Jas 1:19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; Jas 1:20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Anger control is a discipline Eph 4:31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. This goes against the thought process of “Its just who I am” What controlling anger does- Increase in effective relationships * Pro 15:18 A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. Decision making becomes wise not haphazard * Pro 14:29 Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. How do you stop Anger? Find the root Don’t react Obedience

Follow IV - Rejection

02/02/20 • February 2, 2020 • Paul Barnard

Follow IV “Emotions- Rejection” Follow IV “Emotions: Rejection” Gen 37:3 Now Israel loved Joseph more than any other of his sons, because he was the son of his old age. And he made him a robe of many colors. Gen 37:4 But when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and could not speak peacefully to him. Gen 37:5 Now Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers they hated him even more. Gen 37:18 They saw him from afar, and before he came near to them they conspired against him to kill him. Gen 37:27 Come, let us sell him to the Ishmaelites, and let not our hand be upon him, for he is our brother, our own flesh.” Gen 39:2 The LORD was with Joseph, and he became a successful man, and he was in the house of his Egyptian master Gen 39:8 But he refused and said to his master's wife, “Behold, because of me my master has no concern about anything in the house, and he has put everything that he has in my charge. Gen 39:9 He is not greater in this house than I am, nor has he kept back anything from me except you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” Gen 39:10 And as she spoke to Joseph day after day, he would not listen to her, to lie beside her or to be with her Gen 39:20 And Joseph's master took him and put him into the prison, the place where the king's prisoners were confined, and he was there in prison. Gen 39:21 But the LORD was with Joseph and showed him steadfast love and gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison. Gen 39:22 And the keeper of the prison put Joseph in charge of all the prisoners who were in the prison. Whatever was done there, he was the one who did it. Gen 39:23 The keeper of the prison paid no attention to anything that was in Joseph's charge, because the LORD was with him. And whatever he did, the LORD made it succeed. Gen 40:23 Yet the chief cupbearer did not remember Joseph, but forgot him. Gen 41:40 You shall be over my house, and all my people shall order themselves as you command. Only as regards the throne will I be greater than you.” Gen 41:41 And Pharaoh said to Joseph, “See, I have set you over all the land of Egypt.” Gen 50:20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. Questions: 1. How does rejection make you feel about yourself? 2. How does it change who you become if you let it? 3. How does God’s plan change our aspect on rejection? 4. If we deal with rejection why is it so dangerous that people know the real us?