Intro: Do you believe the Bible? Do you trust God? What about when… *1Pe 3:8 Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.* *1Pe 3:9 Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.* -This is extremely counter culture, then and now. Injustice. -Retaliation rarely gives what it promises. -Anger satisfies the flesh. Action satisfies the anger. Action in anger creates regret. Don’t do something you are going to regret. -Stop drop and roll Pro 25:21 - 22 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you. *1Pe 3:10 For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; 1Pe 3:11 let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.* -Good “loving life” days begin with your mouth. -Speaking deceit is saying things you don’t mean. -Seek peace (cant we all just get along)-but are you pursuing it? *1Pe 3:12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”* -God is looking on those who are walking in Him. -God’s protection is absent and His wrath is present in those who don’t *1Pe 3:13 Now who is there to harm you if you are zealous for what is good?* *1Pe 3:14 But even if you should suffer for righteousness' sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled, 1Pe 3:15 but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, 1Pe 3:16 having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.* -Stepping out in faith causes even good people to come against you. sometimes it is to justify inaction or wrong action. Mat 10:34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. Mat 10:35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-lawWho do you serve? no fear -When you are weird people will always ask why. -But don’t be arrogant or condescending -Slander and opposition will come. *Conclusion:* -How you see the world determines how you react to it. -When you reflect Christ teachings and His spirit of Love in you, then you will not act in anger because you know who has your back, -watch what you say when you are emotional -and Seek peace and do what it takes to ensure peace. _*Group Questions:*_ 1. Where does “revenge” thought processes come from and what are the negatives to it? 2. How should you react to injustice against you? 3. Why do we struggle with injustice? 4. What are some practical ways that you can control reaction? 5. What are some practical ways that you can be preemptive in controlling actions?
Hope V: "Attitude of Hope" (LIFE Groups/Family)
November 10, 2019 • Paul Barnard
FollowVI - Emotions Conclusion
February 16, 2020 • Paul Barnard
Emotions are guiding by outside influencers Deu 1:19 “Then we set out from Horeb and went through all that great and terrifying wilderness that you saw, on the way to the hill country of the Amorites, as the LORD our God commanded us. And we came to Kadesh-barnea. Deu 1:20 And I said to you, ‘You have come to the hill country of the Amorites, which the LORD our God is giving us. Deu 1:21 See, the LORD your God has set the land before you. Go up, take possession, as the LORD, the God of your fathers, has told you. Do not fear or be dismayed.’ Deu 1:22 Then all of you came near me and said, ‘Let us send men before us, that they may explore the land for us and bring us word again of the way by which we must go up and the cities into which we shall come.’ Deu 1:23 The thing seemed good to me, and I took twelve men from you, one man from each tribe. Deu 1:24 And they turned and went up into the hill country, and came to the Valley of Eshcol and spied it out. Deu 1:25 And they took in their hands some of the fruit of the land and brought it down to us, and brought us word again and said, ‘It is a good land that the LORD our God is giving us.’ Deu 1:26 “Yet you would not go up, but rebelled against the command of the LORD your God. Deu 1:27 And you murmured in your tents and said, ‘Because the LORD hated us he has brought us out of the land of Egypt, to give us into the hand of the Amorites, to destroy us. Deu 1:28 Where are we going up? Our brothers have made our hearts melt, saying, “The people are greater and taller than we. The cities are great and fortified up to heaven. And besides, we have seen the sons of the Anakim there.”’ Deu 1:29 Then I said to you, ‘Do not be in dread or afraid of them. Deu 1:30 The LORD your God who goes before you will himself fight for you, just as he did for you in Egypt before your eyes, Deu 1:31 and in the wilderness, where you have seen how the LORD your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way that you went until you came to this place.’ Deu 1:32 Yet in spite of this word you did not believe the LORD your God, Deu 1:33 who went before you in the way to seek you out a place to pitch your tents, in fire by night and in the cloud by day, to show you by what way you should go. *Foundations for negative emotions:* * Fear Deu 1:28 Where are we going up? Our brothers have made our hearts melt, saying, “The people are greater and taller than we. The cities are great and fortified up to heaven. And besides, we have seen the sons of the Anakim there.”’ Deu 1:29 Then I said to you, ‘Do not be in dread or afraid of them. * Lies Deu 1:31 and in the wilderness, where you have seen how the LORD your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way that you went until you came to this place.’ Deu 1:32 Yet in spite of this word you did not believe the LORD your God, *Fuel for negative emotions:* * Reactions Deu 1:26 “Yet you would not go up, but rebelled against the command of the LORD your God. Deu 1:27 And you murmured in your tents and said, ‘Because the LORD hated us he has brought us out of the land of Egypt, to give us into the hand of the Amorites, to destroy us. * Resets Deu 1:27 And you murmured in your tents and said, ‘Because the LORD hated us he has brought us out of the land of Egypt, to give us into the hand of the Amorites, to destroy us. *Emotional tolls-* Poor decisions Becoming a slave *Breaking free-* Break from emotional triggers Draw near to God and find identity in Him. Sabbatical Questions: What negative emotions do you struggle with and why? In what ways do reactions to these emotions hinder God’s plan for you? Can you identify “resets” in your life? Give an example. How can drawing closer to God, help to control reaction to emotion? What specific steps can you make this week to identify emotional slavery in your life?
Follow V - Anger
02/09/20 • February 9, 2020 • Paul Barnard
Follow V “Emotions: Anger” Follow V “Emotions: Anger” Anger is sticky * Eph 4:26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, * Ecc 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools Anger is the flesh personified- * Jas 1:19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; Jas 1:20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Anger control is a discipline Eph 4:31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. This goes against the thought process of “Its just who I am” What controlling anger does- Increase in effective relationships * Pro 15:18 A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. Decision making becomes wise not haphazard * Pro 14:29 Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. How do you stop Anger? Find the root Don’t react Obedience
Follow IV - Rejection
02/02/20 • February 2, 2020 • Paul Barnard
Follow IV “Emotions- Rejection” Follow IV “Emotions: Rejection” Gen 37:3 Now Israel loved Joseph more than any other of his sons, because he was the son of his old age. And he made him a robe of many colors. Gen 37:4 But when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and could not speak peacefully to him. Gen 37:5 Now Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers they hated him even more. Gen 37:18 They saw him from afar, and before he came near to them they conspired against him to kill him. Gen 37:27 Come, let us sell him to the Ishmaelites, and let not our hand be upon him, for he is our brother, our own flesh.” Gen 39:2 The LORD was with Joseph, and he became a successful man, and he was in the house of his Egyptian master Gen 39:8 But he refused and said to his master's wife, “Behold, because of me my master has no concern about anything in the house, and he has put everything that he has in my charge. Gen 39:9 He is not greater in this house than I am, nor has he kept back anything from me except you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” Gen 39:10 And as she spoke to Joseph day after day, he would not listen to her, to lie beside her or to be with her Gen 39:20 And Joseph's master took him and put him into the prison, the place where the king's prisoners were confined, and he was there in prison. Gen 39:21 But the LORD was with Joseph and showed him steadfast love and gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison. Gen 39:22 And the keeper of the prison put Joseph in charge of all the prisoners who were in the prison. Whatever was done there, he was the one who did it. Gen 39:23 The keeper of the prison paid no attention to anything that was in Joseph's charge, because the LORD was with him. And whatever he did, the LORD made it succeed. Gen 40:23 Yet the chief cupbearer did not remember Joseph, but forgot him. Gen 41:40 You shall be over my house, and all my people shall order themselves as you command. Only as regards the throne will I be greater than you.” Gen 41:41 And Pharaoh said to Joseph, “See, I have set you over all the land of Egypt.” Gen 50:20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. Questions: 1. How does rejection make you feel about yourself? 2. How does it change who you become if you let it? 3. How does God’s plan change our aspect on rejection? 4. If we deal with rejection why is it so dangerous that people know the real us?