Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets

What's Love Got To Do with It?

Blended • February 7, 2021 • Bill Brunson

Read John 13:34-35 1) The first four questions we have studied: 'Am I being honest with myself...really?, 'What kind of story do I want my life to tell?', 'Is there a TENSION that needs my ATTENTION?' as we make decisions, and asking 'What is the wise thing to do?', are basically focused on ourselves. But today’s question, what does love require of me, is focused on others. Is this shift significant and if so, why? 2) When considering the question, 'what does love require of me?', there are three necessary components for it to be effective in your decision making process. You must ask, answer, and then act upon the question. Which of these three do you find the most challenging to integrate this question into your life? 3) In 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Paul gives us specific examples of what love requires of us. Read the passage and consider which of these attributes you would find to be the least demanding and the most challenging. Give examples. 4) In our passage, Jesus says “...as I have you, so you must love one another.” Jesus means for us to extend the same grace, love, mercy, and forgiveness that he gives to us. If you follow Jesus’ command, what difference might you see in your relationships as a spouse, a sibling, a parent, a boss, a coach, or any relationship in your life? 5) Jesus goes on to say: “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” This statement means love is now a verb, an identifier, and a game changer. What does that mean to you in your own faith journey?

Grow Up

Blended • January 31, 2021 • Bill Brunson

Read Ephesians 5:15-17 1) If time machines existed and you could go back in time, what decision/s would you change? Why? 2) Human beings often use the “one more” approach to life: one more drink, one more bite, one more business trip, or one more swipe of the card. When have you made decisions based on the “one more” approach, did it add or subtract from your life? 3) Name some specific decisions that can be “not wrong,” but still “not wise?” 4) In today’s passage, Paul tells us to: “be very careful how you live, not as unwise, but as wise.” Basically Paul is telling us to ask: What is the wise thing to do? Do you believe asking this question would result in better decisions and fewer regrets in your own life? If so, why? 5) Make of a list of where you want to be relationally, professionally, financially, in one year, five years, or ten years. What wise decisions do you need to make now to achieve these goals?

Always Let Your Conscience be Your Guide

Blended • January 24, 2021 • Bill Brunson

Read: 1 Samuel 24:1-7 In our current sermon series, "Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets," we have learned the path to better decisions is to ask questions. Today’s question is: The Conscience Question: Is there a TENSION that needs my ATTENTION? Have you ever had a decision, a choice, an option that for some reason just didn’t feel right to you? It gave you pause and you may not even know why you are hesitating. These are called “red flag” moments. 1) Think of some red flag moments in your life. Did you pause and pay attention to the red flag or did you ignore it? What was the end result? 2) Have you ever had a red flag moment when everyone seems to be in a hurry to make a decision and you are the only one who seems to have a problem with that choice? What happened? Did you allow fear of being judged or rejected influence your voice or did you stand your ground? Sometimes we think our decision is a slam dunk, but the people around us (spouse, parents, adult children, friends) see your decision as a red flag moment. 3) How do you react to those opinions? Do you listen or do you ignore them? 4) In our scripture passage, David, had the perfect opportunity to kill Saul and seize the throne for himself. After all, David had been anointed king as well. Yet David listened to his gut and allowed the king to go free. Did David make the right decision? What would you have done in David’s place? Many of you are wrestling with a decision right now. All of us need to be making good decisions in the world and nation in which we live. 5) Will you pause even when you cannot pinpoint the cause of your hesitation? Will you explore rather than ignore your conscience?

What Story Do I Want to Tell?

Blended • January 17, 2021 • Sherry Harris

Read Genesis 37:1-11 1) Have you ever thought of your life as a story written by you one decision at a time? Knowing the power of your daily choices and decisions, what chapters would you like to change in your story? 2) In our scripture story, what decisions that Joseph made resonated in you? Which of Joseph’s decisions would have been difficult for you to make? 3) Reflect on the stories of your life. How did the decisions made by previous generations shape your own life? How are your decisions shaping the lives of your children or grandchildren? 4) The fog of emotion can get our decisions off track. When in your life have you had to press pause - not play - and how did it impact that decision? 5) Last week, we were challenged to be honest with ourselves. This week you are challenged to a second decision. I will decide a story that I am proud to tell. I will not decide anything that makes me a liar for life. Will you accept the challenge and write a better story?

Why Am I... Really?

Blended • January 10, 2021 • Bill Brunson

Read II Chronicles 36:5-8, 11-14 1) Our past, our present, and our future are determined by our decisions and they affect others as well. What are the decisions you regret most in your life? 2) “The greatest challenge we face in making good decisions is the face we see in the mirror each day.” Do you agree or disagree with that statement? Why or why not? 3) Do you believe asking the question “Am I being honest with myself . . . really” will lead to better decisions and fewer regrets? If so, think of some examples in your own life. 4) The prophet, Jeremiah, said, “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” Do you believe Jeremiah’s words and if so, how will you manage your deceitful heart? 5) How can a deeper relationship with God help you make better decisions with fewer regrets?