The primary issue we all face in marriage is that marriage works best when a husband and wife are not seeking their own interests, but that of their spouse. Unfortunately, due to our sinful condition, we all have a tendency to do the exact opposite, at least from time to time. In this passage, Paul sets out a radically different approach to marriage than the norm with a radically different result.

Sermon Outline:

I. The Command to Wives.

II. The Command to Husbands.

III. The Gospel Mystery.

Sermon Discussion Questions:

1. The sermon encourages being “ruthlessly honest” during the dating process. What specific qualities or values should couples focus on during this stage to ensure they are making informed decisions about marriage? For those already married, how can we help our kids make good decisions in this area?

2. In the context of Ephesians 5, how does the call to both husbands and wives challenge current cultural assumptions or norms? How should married couples navigate disagreements in a way that honors the Lord and honors their spouse?

3. Husbands need to love their wives and wives need to respect their husbands. How might unmet needs for love or respect lead to conflict in a marriage? In what ways can couples actively demonstrate love and respect in their daily interactions?

4. A healthy marriage begins with “leaving and cleaving.” What practical steps can couples take to ensure they are prioritizing their marriage relationship over familial or external pressures? What practices or routines have you found helpful for “cleaving” as a couple?

5. How does the gospel provide the power for overcoming selfishness in marriage? Discuss ways in which reflecting on Christ’s unconditional love for us can transform our approach to loving and serving our spouse.