Discipleship/Friendship: Lessons from David and Jonathan

Be Fruitful & Multiply Series

Taught by Pastor Josh

Introduction: In the life of David and Jonathan, as recorded in 1 Samuel, we find more than a story of friendship; we see a model for discipleship. Their covenant relationship reveals how we can support, empower, and encourage those we disciple. True discipleship goes beyond knowledge transfer—it involves walking alongside others, lifting them when they are down, and helping them step into the fullness of their calling in Christ.

I. Covenant Love and Generosity

1 Samuel 18:3-4 – “And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. Jonathan took off the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his tunic, and even his sword, his bow, and his belt.”

Jonathan's covenant with David represents covenant love, which is sacrificial and empowering. Jonathan's giving David his royal garments and weapons symbolizes friendship and a willingness to help David fulfill his God-given destiny, even at personal cost. True discipleship seeks the growth and success of others, not out of obligation but out of love. Are we willing to give of ourselves—our time, resources, and opportunities—to those we disciple? Just as Jonathan empowered David, we too must desire those we disciple to go further than we ever could.

II. Standing in the Gap

1 Samuel 19:4 – “Jonathan spoke well of David to Saul, his father, and said to him, ‘Let not the king do wrong to his servant David; he has not wronged you, and what he has done has benefited you greatly.’”

Jonathan interceded for David when Saul sought to harm him, risking his own position and safety. In discipleship, we often stand in the gap for those we lead, defending them when they are vulnerable or under attack. Disciple-makers are called to provide spiritual protection and advocacy, just as Jonathan shielded David from harm. Are we willing to stand up for those we disciple, especially when they cannot defend themselves? Discipleship requires us to step into the gap and protect those in our care, ensuring their well-being as they grow.

III. Loyalty in Adversity

1 Samuel 20:42 – “Jonathan said to David, ‘Go in peace, for we have sworn friendship with each other in the name of the Lord...’”

Loyalty is a cornerstone of discipleship. When David’s life was in danger, Jonathan remained committed to him. Discipleship is tested in moments of adversity, and the true strength of a discipleship relationship is revealed when we remain faithful during difficult times. Are we loyal to those we disciple when challenges arise, or do we distance ourselves? In times of trial, our disciples need our unwavering support more than ever.

IV. The Power of Selflessness

1 Samuel 23:17 – “‘Don’t be afraid,’ he said. ‘My father Saul will not lay a hand on you. You will be king over Israel, and I will be second to you.’”

Jonathan, the rightful heir to the throne, selflessly acknowledged David’s future kingship. He did not let his ambitions hinder David’s calling. Humility is critical in discipleship. We must be willing to step aside, celebrate the successes of others, and help them rise, even if it means sacrificing our desires. Are we secure enough to celebrate the success of those we disciple, even if it means stepping into the background? Discipleship calls for humility, where we prioritize God’s will over our ambitions.

V. Encouragement in the Wilderness

1 Samuel 23:16 – “And Saul’s son Jonathan went to David at Horesh and helped him find strength in God.”

During David’s crisis, Jonathan did more than offer comfort; he helped David find strength in God. One of the most crucial aspects of discipleship is pointing people to God as their ultimate source of strength. We are not called to solve all their problems but to direct them back to the One who can. Are we encouraging those we disciple to rely on God, especially during their wilderness seasons? Discipleship isn’t about fixing problems but guiding others toward faith and trust in God.

VI. The Legacy of Discipleship

2 Samuel 9:7 – “‘Don’t be afraid,’ David said to him, ‘for I will surely show you kindness for the sake of your father Jonathan…’”

Even after Jonathan’s death, David honored their covenant by caring for Jonathan’s son, Mephibosheth. This reminds us that discipleship is about leaving a legacy. The seeds we plant in others’ lives today can bear fruit for generations, affecting our disciples, their families, and future generations. What kind of legacy are we leaving through our discipleship relationships? True discipleship extends beyond our lifetime, impacting those we disciple and those we will, in turn, influence.

VII. Faithfulness Beyond Circumstances

1 Samuel 20:13 – “‘May the Lord be with you as he has been with my father. But show me unfailing kindness like the Lord’s kindness…’”

Jonathan’s relationship with David was rooted in a covenant of faithfulness and kindness despite the complex dynamics with his father, Saul. Discipleship mirrors this steadfastness—it remains faithful regardless of external circumstances. Are we reflecting the faithfulness and kindness of the Lord in our discipleship relationships? True discipleship is grounded in covenant love, unwavering and unchanging, no matter what life brings.

Conclusion: David and Jonathan’s relationship teaches us profound lessons about discipleship: covenant love, generosity, advocacy, loyalty, humility, encouragement, legacy, and faithfulness. As we seek to disciple others, may we embody these qualities, helping those we lead step into their God-given calling. Let us pray for the strength to be faithful disciple-makers, leaving a lasting legacy of faith, love, and commitment to Christ.

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Praise Tabernacle

Dr. Joshua Kennedy, Pastor

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Egg Harbor Township, NJ 08234

pastorjosh@praisetabernacle.com

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