Relational Mythbusters

The “Love” Myth

November 27, 2016 • Pastor Bill West

The “Love” Myth says that love is a feeling that happens to you-you fall into love. You have no control over it. And just as you fall into love, you can also fall out of love. It just happens-it’s no one’s fault. Part of the problem comes from the fact that we define love as an emotion-you fall “in love” and when you fall out of love it’s over. It’s just not your fault, in fact it’s no one’s fault. We must change the definition that we have of love and begin to make different choices in our relationships if we are to experience the love God intended for our marriages. But, God’s word teaches that love is far more than an emotion, love is a verb, a choice that we make and that can grow in both in our marriage and in all of our relationships as well. Paul gives a detailed definition of what love is. When we understand what love looks like and begin to choose to live that way we will experience deeper and closer relationships. The emotions will follow the choices that we make.

The “Porn” Myth

November 20, 2016 • Pastor Bill West

The “Porn” Myth says that pornography hurts no one-it celebrates the human body and expands our sexual experience. But the truth is that sex sells in our world. It does so, because men set the pace for our culture and relationships. Women are dealt with as commodities in our world today to be used without forming any attachments. Porn tells us that all women are to be used for our enjoyment and it had a huge impact on the self-worth of women. What we are taught by the “school of porn is so different from what the NT teaches about sex, love and how to treat people. Men need to grow up and begin to treat women the way that God created them to be treated. Because of the internet and all of the portable digital devices, everyone can access pornography anytime and anywhere and it is having an impact on almost every person in America from the very young to seniors as well and the effects are staggering. We are beginning to see porn addictions that are running lives and destroying relationships-we will seek to address how to deal with this issue from God’s perspective to help us change our view to see that it hurts us far more than we can fully understand.

The “Sex” Myth

November 13, 2016 • Pastor Bill West

The “Sex” Myth says that sex is simply physical and I can choose when, where and with whom I will have. As long as we are consenting adults who are safe then everything else is permitted. If you love someone, you have sex with them. If you don't, you can still have sex with them because it's only physical. But we all know that sex is not just a physical act. Just think about the long term effects of sexual abuse. Sex goes more than just the physical and touches the deepest parts of who we really are. We will look at how our attitudes about sex impact our relationships and we will talk about how God's view really is the only one that can lead to a growing, healthy and satisfying marriages. We will look at God’s design for sex which actually meets the deep longings of who we are.

The “Right Person” Myth

November 6, 2016 • Pastor Bill West

The right person myth says: “If I find and marry the right person, everything will be all right.” In a “Bachelor and Bachelorette” World, we spend a lot of time looking for the right person, Mr. or Mrs. Right. If we can just find that one person we’re meant to be with then everything else will work out just fine. we work hard to try to find the right person, believing there is that one person out there who can meet my needs, fulfill my fantasies and cause me to fall in love like no human being ever has. But this never really happens-we spend too much time trying to find the right person instead of working on becoming the right person. The problem is that most people who are looking for the right person are not working on becoming the right person. We never stop to ask Am I the right person for the right person I am looking for? We talk about the fact that good healthy relationships will come when we focus on becoming the right person instead of looking for the right person.