From the moment we are born, our first posture is to receive love. Our eyes and heart begin to search for love. We desperately seek the reassurance that we're valued and deemed worthy by someone else. If we fail to possess a reliable source of this love, we explore, manipulate, demand and attempt to take it from everything around us, including our connections with others. We are a chronic culture of takers which causes havoc in our relationships. Since our connections matter a great deal, we must pay attention to the way we approach them.
Make You Like Me: Part Three
Willing & Worthy
April 22, 2018 • Mike Ashcraft
Make Me Like You: Part Four
No More Demands • April 29, 2018 • Mike Ashcraft
Our hearts are like vacuums. When we feel less than, lacking love and acceptance or don't have a sense of security, we look to others to fill the void. We place demands on our relationships. These requests create a strain on the connections we have. The pressure to fill needs become too much to bear. Every deficiency we have will be demanded from others unless we know God. Knowing we are loved unconditionally by Christ, we are free to let go of our demands, even for those relationships where we might have been hurt or let down.
Make You Like Me: Part Two
So Simple, Yet So Hard • April 15, 2018 • Mike Ashcraft
The foundation of a relational framework is trust. Sadly, our capacity to trust without hesitation disappeared. Sin broke our nature to trust. As a result, we enter our connections with an agenda and instinctively fight to meet our own needs by any means necessary. No matter how hard we try, our "me first" approach to relationships fail to lead us to our desired goal. Instead, we just create more conflict, strife and the cycle of distrust continues. We don't become ourselves by advancing ourselves at the expense of another. We become ourselves by denying ourselves and embracing a way that is much different.
Make You Like Me: Part One
Relationships Are Simple • April 8, 2018 • Mike Ashcraft
“Make you like me.” No matter “how you say it,” (or hear it) there’s a tension that exists in every relationship. We want people to be like us and we want people to like us. The only problem is that everyone else has that same desire. Jesus understood how simple, yet at the same time incredibly complicated, our connections with others can be. The oneness of believers was such a part of His heart that it served as the focus of one of His final prayers. Relationships are the framework through which love gets expressed and experienced. The way we treat, care and love each other sends a message to the outside world. Our redemptive relationships should cause those around us to take notice. If this is the case, we have to get gut-level honest about our relationships and the job we are doing regarding living together.