Beyond Compatibility

Week 4 • August 18, 2019 • Chris and Rebecca Hamlin

Our culture embraces many illusions in relationships. One of the biggest is called Compatibility. It is viewed as the THE way to ensure a successful marriage. In contrast, God seems to have a different opinion. To build and maintain a fulfilling marriage requires us (individually) to become more and more like Jesus, by allowing the Holy Spirit to rule our lives. The mystery revealed of a beautiful marriage is found in the overflow of 2 hearts fully surrendered (united with) to Christ. Our compatibility doesn’t exist in our personality profile, but rather in our individual/personal connection to the Creator.

Love And Respect

Week 3 • August 12, 2018 • Glen Elliott

God created marriage to be this mystery of two separate different people coming together to become one. But how does this mystery of two become one happen? The Bible says that there are two keys – love and respect. Everyone needs and wants both love and respect. However, wives deeply value being loved while husbands deeply value being respected. And God knew that so he instructs us to love and respect our spouse. There’s lots of misunderstanding about both of those keys. In this message, we’ll unpack what love and respect are and how they create oneness.

Should I Stay Or Should I Go

Week 2 • August 5, 2018 • Roger Blumenthal

God’s plan in marriage is that two separate individuals will become one. But we’ve traded oneness to see marriage as a transaction. What we want is friendship, care, sex, security, and a family. We trade this to get that. I’ll put up with __ (fill in the blank) to get __ (fill in the blank). So we end up creating an unwritten contract. But the problem is that every spouse will fail to keep their end of the contract at some time and in some way. The problem isn’t that we are imperfect, the problem is that we’ve seen marriage as a contract rather than a covenant. Marriage as covenant means that we are making a choice to reflect the character of God by being committed to love and honor our imperfect partner as God loves us. We commit to an imperfect person in a lifetime of learning to love like God to become one.

Everyone Marries The Wrong Person

Week 1 • July 29, 2018 • Glen Elliott

The fact is if we are or will get married, we will marry the wrong person. What we mean is that we’ll never marry the perfect person. Every couple, to some extent, is a union of very different people. We are not compatible. Marriage is hard and it takes work. We are tempted to focus on why we married the wrong person and their hurts, hang-ups, habits, and issues that make them wrong. But if we are going to learn to love like Jesus and learn to stay in love, we need to start with ourselves. Part of the mystery of marriage isn’t about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person.