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Should I Stay Or Should I Go

Week 2

August 5, 2018 • Roger Blumenthal

God’s plan in marriage is that two separate individuals will become one. But we’ve traded oneness to see marriage as a transaction. What we want is friendship, care, sex, security, and a family. We trade this to get that. I’ll put up with __ (fill in the blank) to get __ (fill in the blank). So we end up creating an unwritten contract. But the problem is that every spouse will fail to keep their end of the contract at some time and in some way. The problem isn’t that we are imperfect, the problem is that we’ve seen marriage as a contract rather than a covenant. Marriage as covenant means that we are making a choice to reflect the character of God by being committed to love and honor our imperfect partner as God loves us. We commit to an imperfect person in a lifetime of learning to love like God to become one.