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Our Good Friend, Dr. Dave Stoop

March 11, 2021

Dear New Life Family, Yesterday afternoon we lost a dear friend and co-laborer in Christ as Dr. Dave Stoop was called home to be with Jesus. In the days to come we'll speak of Dave and his legacy on radio, and I'll write a piece honoring Dave, his life, and his work. He was one of my closest friends and I will miss him more than I want to think about. It's comforting to know his deep faith is an assurance of his place in heaven with our Lord, and he's experiencing things right now that are above what we can think or imagine. Please say a prayer for Dave's wife, Jan, as she grieves her husband of more than 60 years, and for Dave and Jan's three sons, and their families. He struggled these past five months following two strokes in October, but as he had wished and spoke about, he finished well. I'm so happy that just before he suffered those strokes he finished writing his final book which carries the title, "Living Strong, Finishing Well". Dave did both! (His book should be out later this year.) If you'd like to send condolences to Jan and their sons, please send them to: Jan Stoop c/o New Life Ministries 23201 Lake Center Drive, Ste. 100 Lake Forest, CA 92630 Or use any of our preprinted return envelopes you may have. In lieu of flowers, the family has requested donations be sent in honor of Dave to New Life Ministries. Stephen Arterburn Founder New Life Ministries newlife.com

The HOPE After November 3 With Steve Arterburn

October 27, 2020 • Steve Arterburn

What is the hope and how can there be hope? Are you struggling with this election? You are not alone. I am not here to tell you how to vote, I want to share about the hope that extends beyond this election. New Life Ministries is here to help with resources that will help address fear, anxiety, anger, or any other emotional roadblock. We want to help in any way we can. Call 800-NEW-LIFE today.

A Heart of Discontent

March 25, 2020

Saul has often been studied and taught about as a ‘leader gone bad‘ example. Saul had so much going for him. Saul was the first king of Israel and had a reign of forty-two years. But early in his reign, something went terribly wrong. We see the weakness of Saul’s heart come into focus. In I Samuel 13, shortly after Saul took office as king, he found himself in a quandary. He was going into battle with the Philistines and Saul had agreed to wait for the Lord’s prophet, Samuel, to arrive to anoint the army for battle and to sacrifice the burnt offering prior to battle. Seems simple enough, wait for the Lord’s man to arrive before beginning the task at hand. And it seems logical enough from Saul’s perspective that when the guy doesn’t show up for a meeting on time you go on ahead without him with the task at hand. Besides, Saul was king and in charge. But Samuel was not any ordinary guy and this was not any ordinary task or arrangement. In Saul’s haste, fear, and discontent he decided to take matters into his own hands, and he disobeyed the Lord’s command. When Samuel arrives on the scene he asks Saul in verse 11, ‘What have you done?‘ Saul’s response resembles his fear and his thinking, ‘When I saw that the men were scattering and you did not show at the set time, and that the Philistines were assembling at Micmash, I thought, ‘Now the Philistines will come down against me at Gilgal, and I have not sought the Lord’s favor. So I felt compelled to offer the burnt offering” (I Samuel 13:11-12). Samuel replies, ‘You acted foolishly. You have not kept the command the Lord your God gave you‘ (v.13). Discontent often consists of two ingredients: impatience and self-centeredness. We see it with Saul’s decision to not wait for Samuel out of his concern for how his army would see him and his need to be in control and in charge. No matter what condition of the heart Saul struggled with, his discontentment led to some pretty impatient or immediate decisions to gratify his heart. A discontented heart is often soothed through immediate gratification. Do you ever feel like Saul? Trapped and feeling like there is no Samuel on the way or no help just around the corner. Or maybe you have often felt like you have waited long enough. Like Saul, time to go ahead and sacrifice the burnt offering. The pain and discomfort is too much. You might hear yourself saying something like, ‘Why must I continue to always take the high road?‘ Out of our discontent we have chosen too often the path of least resistance. The answer to this dilemma lies in the waiting. We have got to learn to wait. What if Saul would have waited, trusted, and obeyed? ‘I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry‘ (Psalm 40:1). Written by Saul’s successor to the throne. The man after God’s own heart seemed to know something about waiting. My dear brothers, when you feel the weight of discontent on your heart, wait and take refuge in the Lord. He will hear your cry and turn to you.

Anxiety & Coping with Fears

March 25, 2020

What are you worried about? What are afraid of? Anxiety is nervousness, being worried or stressed. When anxiety becomes more panic, we tend to develop a reaction to things that make us anxious, and our world becomes smaller. For example, if you’re anxious about big crowds – you’ll begin to eliminate situations that include large crowds from your life. It helps initially, but the anxiety may not go away, so you’re probably going to find yourself eliminating more and more because you haven’t really gotten to the root of the anxiety. You’ve just tried to eliminate where the symptoms occur. For many, the issue of control is at the root of anxiety. Known fears are often expressed in areas we can control. Interestingly enough, what’s underneath it all usually is a fear of something we cannot control. If we don’t search for what is under the fear or anxiety it will continue and may get bigger. We may be afraid that we will be humiliated or shamed in some way, and all of that gets translated into these symptoms. Oftentimes, anxiety that comes as a result of unresolved issues in our childhood will emerge later on in our adult years when we can no longer keep a lid on things. In addition, a lot of people have a predisposition towards being anxious. They stay busy, but when their lives begin to shift and they don’t have the same structure, the anxiety emerges. The funny thing about fear is that the more you fear it, the more powerful it becomes. After a while, we become afraid of feeling afraid, and so we try to conduct our lives in such a way that we don’t have experiences that make us feel the anxiety. But that’s when we get into trouble. We are unable to avoid all the things that create the anxiety and will be living in a state of reaction. It can be very helpful to talk with someone about what you are afraid of- it can be a professional counselor or a trusted friend. It takes some of the strength out of the anxiety just to give voice to what you are dealing with internally. Sometimes we need some medical help, like an anti-anxiety medication, to help our brain begin to heal. There are so many options to deal with anxiety and fear- you don’t have to suffer alone. “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you” (1 Peter 5:7) is a great next step. Begin to address the anxiety in your life today.

Discipline or Discipleship

March 25, 2020

The more you study God’s Word and engage in conversations with Him, the more you’ll realize how deeply passionate He is about your devotion to Him. He wants (and deserves) every part of you to be in total submission and surrender to Him. He desires this, not only because He is deserving of it, but because He understands the benefits that such devotion will bring to your life and relationships. Having a single-minded focus on God produces the fruit of an abundant life. A shift in focus must occur if you are going to experience this abundant life Jesus spoke of. This shift must move you from seeing discipline as the end-all of your Christian faith, to embracing discipleship as the process for becoming what God has designed you to be. Discipleship focuses on God in the context of relationship — first with Him, then with others. This is a forever changing, forever growing, forever exploring adventure. Discipline alone will tend to draw your focus toward the task of relationship, rather than simply interacting with God and others. How can such a shift in focus affect your struggle with temptation? Shouldn’t you be more focused on discipline so you can resist each temptation you face? When you lock in too intently on discipline alone as the answer for resisting temptation, you actually end up feeling more frustrated and defeated. Discipline can deceive you into thinking that resisting temptation has something to do with your own power or strength. The truth is that only God can defeat the temptations in your life. Therefore, it is through discipleship that you are truly set free to live a daily life of purity. One final significant difference that must be mentioned between discipline and discipleship is that discipline can often be pursued in isolation, whereas discipleship requires relationship. This is key to understanding the value of becoming a disciple of Christ. You were never designed to live in isolation from God or others. This is where discipleship takes you out of your comfort zone, but this is ultimately for your own good. In fact, God has mysteriously designed your relationships with others to act as a hedge of protection to help you fight the battle against sin. Discipleship relationships form a sort of ‘purity team’ that aids in strengthening the fight for purity. Godly teammates are needed in order to win the ongoing battle. Take a look at your relationships and see if there are some individuals with whom you can go deeper. Invite them to be part of your team. Also, evaluate your relationship with God, and ask Him to show you how to grow in your intimacy with Him. By God’s grace, pray to become the faithful disciple He desires you to be.

Fear Happens!

March 25, 2020

Fear is a basic human emotion — an emotional response to threats and danger; a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of pain. Fear is different from anxiety, which typically occurs without any perceived external threat. When we are afraid, we often want to escape and avoid. Whereas when we are anxious, we tend to perceive the threats as uncontrollable or unavoidable. For various reasons, some of us are more aware of our fears than others. Many of us have been taught to ignore our feelings, all in the name of being good managers of our emotions! We are admired when we can pretend we aren’t afraid! However, when we ignore or repress fear, our bodies and our emotions still keep score! We develop many physical, as well as psychological, symptoms and diseases because we ignore or mismanage our fears and anxieties. As an individual emotional state, fear can also affect the unconscious mind, where it can become manifested in the form of nightmares or night terrors. Fear may also be experienced within a larger group or social network. In this way, personal fears that are compounded by social influence may become mass hysteria. In faith communities, we are often admonished when we are experiencing fear because we do not have enough faith. I suggest that it is much more compassionate to respond to someone who is struggling with fear by first listening to what they are saying, and then tenderly helping them explore the details of the fear so they have a better understanding of the situation. God’s ultimate plan is for each of us to recognize our need for Him; and we also need a supportive network of other people who will help carry us through difficult times. A scriptural model for this is the man who was lowered through the roof to where Jesus was teaching so he could be healed. (Luke 5:17-20) His dedicated friends tirelessly supported him physically (and I’m sure emotionally) in order to get him help. We might be more in line with God’s plan by becoming a ‘perfect lover‘ to someone: simply hearing them share their fears without trying to fix them or giving them scriptures or lists of things to do to cover or smother their fears. When we jump too soon to a solution, we are not communicating love! So 1 Corinthians 13:1 might classify us as a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. We would do well to follow the formula in James 1:19 and “…speak little and listen much…..“

5 Fear Factors to Set You Free

March 25, 2020

Knowing the symptoms and some of the body’s reactions will help you become more realistic about your fears. In addition, you may need to take some important specific steps to subdue any fears of being out of control. When you recognize the icy fingers of fear digging into your shoulder, here are five practical strategies you can consider. *Face Your Fear* – You need to open your locked closet and let the sunlight in. You can’t get well unless you confront the facts. The fear of your fear can sometimes be the biggest problem you face. There are many different approaches to getting honest with yourself about your feelings. Taking a peek into your dark attic can be one of your most important steps toward sound mental health. *Set Boundaries* – Learn to say no! Drs. John Townsend and Henry Cloud’s book entitled, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, revolutionized practical Christianity. Their Boundaries series (Boundaries in Dating, Boundaries with Kids, Boundaries in Marriage, Boundaries with Teens) has helped millions of people both directly and indirectly. In this series, Drs. Townsend and Cloud make the point that everyone needs to set parameters. Creating limits keeps us out of the places where destructiveness happens. Learning to say no is one of the most important boundaries that will keep us out of harm’s way. Many people find this change to be a particularly difficult step because they have become conditioned to saying “yes” to every request. Refusing feels inconsiderate or impertinent. Consequently these victims go from problem to problem without realizing that they keep opening the door to their own difficulties. And the fear of disappointing someone controls them. Being unable to say know may be a symptom of a deeper fear that needs to be uncovered and dealt with. *Consider Insight-Oriented Therapy* – We must learn to face and resolve old losses and stresses. Often we need help in working through these unresolved issues. Don’t feel weak for needing help. Feel strong and courageous for asking for it. Scripture reminds us: Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed (Proverbs 15:22 NIV). Professional help can make all the difference in getting to the bottom of our fears and taking the steps needs to freedom. Consider Medication – In the right combinations, medications work nearly 100 percent of the time. While most of the people who seek professional help are able to overcome their fears through counseling alone, many times panic-stricken patients need a physiological chemical change that will enable them to resolve their fear-related issues. Spiritual issues often lie behind the cause of apprehension, and patients must deal with these in conjunction with medication if they are going to become totally whole. It is wise to see a good Christian counselor to look at the root of our fear, and not just expect a quick fix from taken a pill. *Connect* – We need to be connected to God and His people. Spending time with loving, grace-filled servants of God can soothe anyone’s fear. Unconditional love is healing and will help us maintain perspective. New hope and direction can come from establishing positive relationships with people to whom we can confess our fears. Find a healthy church and join a small group where you can share your burdens, be encouraged, and be an encouragement to others. You can find comfort and healing in community with others. Sometimes we have missed the reasons why we feel so disconnected and alienated. You may need to spend time looking at what destroyed your past relationships. Exploring the strained relationships of the past can be painful, but can help us to severe these unhealthy ties that control us. Most important of all is to come into a new, intimate relationship with our Heavenly Father. He’s the one who has the capacity and potential to restore our lives and is waiting to do so. A revived relationship with Jesus Christ can add the power and opportunity needed to reconnect with people and God-and to face fear. Spending regular time with the Lord will help you to re-connect and change your perspective on life. Remember that God’s gifts are power, love, and self-control. But you won’t experience them unless you work through all the reasons you have become disconnected from the Father. He is the ultimate, healing connection.

Love of the Unfamiliar, Fear of the Unknown

March 25, 2020

Never underestimate the power of the familiar. It has kept countless people from change, even when change would save their lives. The familiar may be unhealthy, but at least we know it. We relate to it. And we’re all too prone to cling to familiar territory. When that familiar territory is sexual activity, it becomes perversely dear to us. Even though we admit it’s wrong, we also come to see it as an old friend. It’s reliable, and it works. It eases our pain and temporarily satisfies us. To repent of habitual sexual behavior is like abandoning a trustworthy buddy. Compare this to drug addiction. A person doesn’t just fall into it. Somewhere along the line they discover satisfaction through a chemical. It temporarily eases pain, helps them forget troubles, and provides comfort. It is an anesthetic, deadening anxieties like a nurturing parent. Of course there are other ways to deal with problems, but the drug is familiar and has a good track record. Why give up something that works? Look at the Jewish people’s journey out of Egypt. They lived in bondage and prayed for deliverance, and God intervened. He brought them out of Egypt miraculously. But when faced with difficult situations in the wilderness, they were prone to long for the familiarity of Egypt and to dread the unknown Promised Land. Think about the power the familiar held for them! They had been treated worse than animals in Egypt, yet at times they would remember it fondly, saying, “At least we were fed regularly!” The unknown frightened them, making them turn toward the bondage that they could at least relate to. And when they finally approached the Promised Land, the terror of its giant inhabitants overshadowed all the benefits that would go along with their new location. In Egypt at least they had survived. How could they be sure they would fare as well in new territory? You may also wonder how you’ll fare in new territory. It’s tough at times, to be sure; but it also opens up a way of freedom, new relationships, and peace of mind. What will it be? Cling to the old, destructive, and familiar? Or, move into freedom and the unknown? Are you going to cling to familiar, destructive ways simply because you can relate to them? Or, are you willing to abandon them in favor of a new way of living which is better, even though it is scary?

Your Stress Remedy

March 25, 2020

Many people initially see a counselor because of job stress . . . either from the work itself or from the stress of dealing with difficult people at work. But stress really needs to be dealt with in the beginning stages, before it becomes destructive. Many advocates of positive mental health have long emphasized the need to lighten up — and humor is one of the best ways to do that! We feel good when we laugh. In fact, it’s almost impossible to feel bad when we laugh. Research shows that humor and laughter can even help us recover from the extreme distress of life-changing losses. When a researcher at the University of California at Berkeley studied widows and widowers whose spouses had died six months before, he found that those who were able to laugh within weeks of their loved one’s passing displayed less stress and many more positive emotions two to four years later. Incorporating humor and laughter into the many stresses of everyday life can help us to not only survive, but also thrive and be better able to handle whatever comes our way. Laughter elevates natural mood-enhancing endorphins and releases the feel-good brain chemical dopamine. At the same time, laughter turns down our stress hormone spigot. Studies show it also significantly lowers the chemical cortisol, which is associated with negative stress. After exposure to humor, there is a general increase in our immune system activity. Scripture lists joy as the second fruit of the Spirit and states: “a merry heart does good like medicine” Proverbs 17:22; and John 15:11 says: Christ wanted His “joy to be full in them“. Joy and happiness can be increased and stress levels lowered by learning to see the bright side; increasing exposure to humorous videos, books, and magazines; sharing humor with fellow workers; being around lighthearted people; and most important, praying for more of the joy of the Lord! Other helpful hints to reduce stress are to get a good night’s sleep, have quality nutrition, participate in daily exercise, learn to manage difficult people, have a daily dose of play, and take life one day at a time! Bringing in lots of joy and laughter at work and at home can go a long way towards preventing personal distress, depression, and general malaise. And those around us will be encouraged and refreshed by our cheerful attitude. As Nehemiah 8:10 says, “The joy of the Lord is our strength!“

COVID-19 and Times of Uncertainty

March 19, 2020 • Dr. Jill Hubbard, Steve Arterburn

Welcome to my Facebook LIVE Q & A video with Dr. Jill Hubbard! We will be discussing Covid-19 and how we can live in faith amidst this time of uncertainty. This is a pre-recording. If you or a loved one need help, please call 800-NEW-LIFE.

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