The Elephant in the Family Room
Family is so important that we need all the help we can to make it good.
Every family’s got em. Those things that everyone knows about, but no one talks about. We all have a family issue (or two…or seven) that tends to make a mess of things. It’s like there’s this giant elephant in the family room that nobody wants to acknowledge. Is this just the way things are or is there something better?
One Family Member Too Many
May 19, 2019 • Rusty Coram
Ignoring, hiding or pretending that a problem doesn’t exist doesn’t change the reality of it. In fact, it makes it worse. There are elephants in our homes that have been around so long they’ve become like a member of the family. But elephants aren’t good in our homes. They trample all over things, they make a mess, and they smell bad.
On the Same Wavelength
May 26, 2019 • Rusty Coram
Research and life experience tell us that family problems are made significantly worse by poor and unhealthy communication. In some cases it’s a lack of talking, while in others it’s only a one-way transmission. The good news is we can learn new habits to help us tune into the same frequency.
Ditch the Ledger
June 2, 2019 • Rusty Coram
The longer we know others, the more we learn. Along the way we gather data about them we can use to justify our defensiveness, anger and worse. This can create a filter of dissatisfaction that skews our view and can harm our relationships. It’s time to stop keeping score.