Relatioinships 101

What is Love?

Part 2 • August 16, 2015 • Lee McKinney

Relationships 101: What is Love? 1 John 4 Many think there is NO Hope for your relationships! What you have not seen or experienced, you will not duplicate You cannot give what you do not have! Ephesians 5:33 We must receive love before we can truly give love! 1 John 4:7-19 Agape= unconditional or sacrificial 3 Principles for Love Relationships 101 #1 When we have profound experiences we want to share them! Salvation is a profound experience. Changes our past, present and future! #2 Those who abide in God's Love find that their love for others increase 1 John 4:16 Abide (hupomeno) "persevere" Love is not a feeling or a whim of emotion. It is something we Decide to DO! The more you know God, the better you love people. “God is love.” #3 God's Love eliminates Fear Romans 8:31-39 2 Challenges today: Receive God's Love today READ 1 Corinthians 13 this week then: Decide to love your spouse, family and friends with God's love this week!

Back to the Basics - Marriage

Part 3 • August 23, 2015 • Lee McKinney

Relationships 101: Back to the Basics “Marriage” (Heb. 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all) Matthew 19:3-6 ALL MARRIAGES GO THROUGH SEASONS.. 1. The Romance stage is like Summer! The Romance stage is a prank played on us by our otherwise rational minds to trick us into doing things that we would normally never consider. 2. The REALITY stage is like Fall. “Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away.” Choosing to love is what reality is all about. Reality clarifies what romance conceals. 3. The RESENTMENT stage is like the Winter!. During the resentment phase, the one who was once the object of our affection now becomes the target of our frustration. Col. 3:12-15 Eph. 5:25-27 1 Peter 2:24 4. Rebuilding stage is like the Spring! 3 SKILLS for REBUILDING!: REMEMBERING, ASKING, DECIDING 1st skill Remember we’re different and adapt accordingly! “its not wrong we’re just different” 2nd Rebuilding skill is ASKING AND GRANTING FORGIVENESS. Ephesians 4:32 3rd rebuilding skill is DECIDING TO LOVE AND KEEP ON LOVING. All marriages go through seasons! Hang in there! A New Day is Coming!

Foregiveness- Why Should I Forgive

Part 4 • August 30, 2015 • Lee McKinney

Relationships 101 Forgiveness Part 1: Why should we forgive? Forgiveness is a vital skill and action involved in successful relationships, friendships, and marriages. Forgiveness = is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Forgiveness is different from condoning, excusing, pardoning, forgetting, and reconciliation In certain contexts, forgiveness is a legal term for absolving or giving up all claims on account of debt, loan, obligation or other claims. Read Matthew 18:21-35 FORGIVE = aphiemi = pardon, remit, cancel, allow, set aside, tolerate, DO NOT KEEP SCORE Matt. 18:24 Servant owed an OUTRAGEOUS amount. 15 year’s wages x 10,000 = 150,000 yr. of debt. 54,750,000 days of wages! The King can be translated as GOD! 1 JOHN 1:9 ****Lamentations 3:22-23 God is FAITHFUL! WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE? 1. SATAN uses the products of Un Forgiveness to destroy love, joy, peace and hope! 2 Corinthians 2:10-11 NIV OUTWIT us!! Heb. 12:14-15 I Peter 5:8 2. ME. “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” Lewis B. Smedes 3. We ALL NEED Forgiveness! THIS INCLUDES your spouse, family and fiends!! Romans 3:23 Eph. 2:12-13 It is impossible to give what we do not have. 4. CHRIST FORGAVE YOU. Luke 23:34 As he hung on the cross singing a concert of forgiveness 1John 2:2 Price paid in full … Isaiah 59:1-2 John 1:12 You cannot give what you do not have!! Unless you experience perfect forgiveness you will never be able to forgive perfectly! NCF challenges you to determine who you need to forgive and then grant forgiveness! NCF challenges you to determine if you need to seek forgiveness and then ask for it!

Back to the Basics - Forgiveness

Part 5 • September 6, 2015 • Lee McKinney

Relationships 101: Back to the Basics - Forgiveness Forgiveness isn’t easy. Matthew 18:33-35 THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN MUST FORGIVE. Ephesians 4:32 Last Week - WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE? 1 SATAN uses of Un-Forgiveness to destroy love, joy, peace and hope! 2 Corinthians 2:10-11 I Peter 5:8 2 ME. 3. We ALL NEED Forgiveness! 4. CHRIST FORGAVE YOU. HOW DO I FORGIVE? 1. MAKE A DECISION TO FORGIVE. Phil. 2:3-5 2 Cor. 10:5 Galatians 2:20 2. Take Steps to Forgive! Even if the words are to your self. MATT 18:15-17 3. WHEN YOU FORGIVE, FORGIVE LIKE CHRIST FORGAVE YOU. Colossians 3:12-13 Romans 5:8 Psalm103:12 Micah 7:18-19 5. TO FORGIVE LIKE GOD; WE WILL HAVE TO FORGIVE REPEATEDLY. Lamentations 3:21-23 6.FORGIVENESS MUST BE GRANTED, TRUST MUST BE EARNED. HOSEA 6:4 2 Corinthians 7:10-11 Worldly Sorrow vs. Godly Sorrow Forgiveness always involves Trust! James 2:13 YOU CANNOT FORGIVE PERFECTLY; Until you have received Perfect Forgiveness!!!

Is There a Better Way to Love?

Part 6 • September 20, 2015 • Lee McKinney

Relationships 101: Is there a Better Way to Love? LOVE the most important skill in marriage,, not emotion skill… “What is LOVE? “ I can learn to LOVE better than this” Luke 5:12-14 Eros= sensual love, Phileo= relational love, Agape=sacrificial love, God’s love, Jesus has a Choice How to Love??!! Eros, Phileo or Agape EROS; sensual love, What Can I get out of This?? 1John 2:15-16 I get mine; all is well. Phileo; relational love What Can We get out of This?? Agape: sacrificial love What Can You get out of This? 1Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT Better Love Thinks about Others more than Self Better Love is Not Afraid to Reach Out to Another; make the first move. Better Loves is Willing to take Some Risks Better Love is always Accompanied by Forgiveness Luke 5:18-26 No one will get better at loving others better by accident 1 John 4:19

Men and Women are Different

Part 1 • August 9, 2015 • Lee Mckinney

Relationships 101: Men and Women ARE Different! Ephesians 5:21-33 The art of Submission is the key to marriage and our relationship with Christ! Relationship Principle #1 Husbands and Wives must learn to give up their rights for the other! Hebrews 12:2-3 Consider= analyze! Husband and Wives submit to one another! Men and Women do not! Submission is NOT about worth or value; Submission is about order. Ephesians 5:33 We are different! Relationship Principle #2 We must learn to celebrate that Men and Women are different! It's NOT wrong; It's just different!! Ephesians 5:32 Marriage is a Mystery! Relationship Principle #3 Marriage is a reflection of our relationship with Christ! Romans 5:8 Philippians 2:5-8 1 Peter 3:18 2 Corinthians 5:21 2 Corinthians 8:9