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True Love

Romans 12:14-21

November 6, 2022 • Shane Sikkema • Romans 12:14–21

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God, every good gift comes from Your hand and we thank You for allowing us to partner with You in the work that you are doing. We thank You for the way that You oftentimes bless the work of our hands. And we thank You that there are also times where You just flex, where You do miracles, where You do the impossible right before our eyes. You take our fish and our loaves and You miraculously multiply them, our efforts, our energy, our resources, in order to do more than we could ask or even imagine. That is the God that You are. And God we pray that Your sovereign will would be done in this situation and that by Your grace, we would just continue to be used by You as Your church, as Your witnesses here in the city.

 

God, we also pray right now for the preaching of Your Word. Our word today is a word that feels good in theory and yet feels impossible in practice and in and of ourselves that is calling us to do the impossible. But as Your word says, Lord, that what is impossible for man is possible with God because with You all things are possible. And so Lord, we pray that You would give us the faith to do the impossible, to believe and to help us overcome our unbelief. Help us to trust and obey all that Your word calls us to today. In Christ's name. Amen.

 

All right, well if you have done any kind of public speaking before, you know how important it is to kind of kick things off by saying something intriguing, a good story, a joke or sharing some interesting facts to kind of grab people's attention and help them listen more intently. I'm not going to do that today. I'm just going to read the first five words from our text, because these are some of the most intriguing words that we've read so far in Paul's letter to the Romans.

 

In Romans 12, Paul begins to tell us how we ought to live in light of God's mercy, to live as living sacrifices, to love one another, to be the body of Christ to one another. And then all of a sudden, without warning, without any transition, without any smooth segue, we get to verse 14 and he says, "Oh yeah, and by the way." This is Romans 12:14, "Also, you need to bless those who persecute you." Which sounds so crazy, right? What are you talking about, Paul?

 

There's this story in the gospels, where a young religious expert in the law comes and kind of has the same reaction to some things that Jesus was teaching. We see this in Luke 10:25. It says, "Behold, a lawyer stood up to put him to the test, saying, 'Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?' And he said to him, 'What's written in the law. How do you read it?' And he answered, 'You shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, with all of your soul, and with all of your strength and with all of your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.' And he said to him, 'You've answered correctly. Do this and you will live.' But he, desiring to justify himself, said to Jesus, 'And who is my neighbor?" And that's really the question before us today, who is my neighbor? How far am I expected to extend this command to love my neighbor as my myself?

 

We're going to come back and see Jesus' answer to that question in a little bit. But if you have your Bibles, open up to Romans 12, we're going to be looking at verse 14 through 21, and we're going to begin by looking at the rest of what Paul has to say first. As we work through our texts today, there's going to be three big ideas that I want us to consider. Point number one, we're going to be talking about the litmus of love. What is the litmus test of love? What is true love? Two, what are the limits of love? And then number three, what is the latency? What is the unseen potential of this love that Jesus, that Paul are calling us to?

 

So if you have our Bibles, look at Romans 12. If not, you can follow along up here on the screen. We're beginning in verse 14 and the Apostle Paul writes this. He says, "Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay,' says the Lord. To the contrary, if your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him something to drink, for by so doing, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

 

This is the reading of God's Word for us today. Point number one today, the litmus of love. If you remember back to your high school chemistry class, you probably got to play with those little strips of paper that magically would change color in a solution. If they turned red, it was like acidic. If it turned blue, it was base. And the question is, what is the litmus test for love? What is true love? And if you've been paying attention, our culture has been struggling hard to answer this question. And it feels sometimes like we are just barreling downhill on a bus with no breaks, about to drive ourselves right off a cliff. The harder we try to answer this question, the further we get from the truth. And here's the problem, if we don't look for the answer to this question in scripture, well then our adversary Satan is more than happy to come along, to step in and to supply us with some answers of his own.

 

Last week, this section began with the Apostle Paul telling us to let our love be genuine, to be true, to be without hypocrisy. Now, one of Satan's favorite stratagems is to step in to persuade us to buy into a counterfeit, to buy into a fake, a hypocritical substitute for true love. He is a liar. He is a con artist. He is a master of propaganda. Scripture tells us, that he goes about, he masquerades as an angel of life. In other words, he's very skilled at packaging evil ideas and lies, in ways that seem plausible in good. He's got a great marketing department and he puts out slogans. He puts out messages into the air, things we're familiar with, things that we've heard, things like this. You need to follow your heart. You need to be true to yourself. He says things like, love is love. Takes a grain of truth, stretches it around a dark rotten pit of lies and goes about selling his fruit of deception.

 

So how do we expose this for what it is? What is the litmus test for love? Scripture tells us that the Word of God is like a lamp to our feet, like a light to our path. That which we need to avoid the snares, to avoid the trips and the pitfalls along the way, to see things for what they really are. So that even Christ when Satan comes to tempt Him in the wilderness, what is Christ's defense? Well, his defense is the Word of God. He quotes scripture as His defense against the devil's attacks. And so real quick, let's shine the light of scripture onto some of these popular slogans that are floating around in our culture today.

 

We hear things like follow your heart. Now, what does scripture say? Jeremiah 17:9 says that, "The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick. Who can understand it?" David in Psalm 51, he cries out to God. He says, "God, I need you to create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from your presence and take not your Holy Spirit from me." And God promises his people in Ezekiel 36:26, He says, "Listen, I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh."

 

Be very careful about following your heart. You know who is really good at following their heart? People like Hitler, just a guy out there living his truth, right? We need to be cautious about following our hearts. Our hearts can be deceived and they can deceive us. Following your heart is great, but only in as much as your heart is filled and led by the Holy Spirit of God and submitting to His Word.

 

We hear things like, be true to yourself. Well, what does scripture say? Jesus says in Luke 9. He doesn't say, be true to yourself. He says, "If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life, for my sake will save it." And then finally, perhaps most diabolically recently has become this phrase, Love is love. Well, let's put that under the interrogation light of God's Word. The Apostle John tells us in 1 John 4, that God is love. Before doing this, though he first tells us to do what I'm kind of trying to do right now, which is he tells us to put the spirits to the test, test the spirits. In other words, test the messages, the narratives, the slogans, the ideologies, the popular ideas that are being preached by our world, knowing that we live in a world that is deceived and is that full of deception.

 

So this is what he says in 1 John 4. He says, "Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this, you know the Spirit of God, every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the anti-Christ, which you heard was coming and is now in the world already. Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. They are from the world." Look what he says. "Therefore, they speak from the world and the world listens to them. We are from God. Whoever knows God listens to us. Whoever is not from God, does not listen to us. And by this we know the Spirit of truth and the spirit of error."

 

So we test the spirit. Love is love. Isn't that true? Yeah, it's true, but it's true in the same sense of saying lamp is lamp or floor is floor. The statement is true, but if you bring it into the light, what do you really see? What you see is that, behind this phrase is an ideology. And at the heart of this slogan, love is love, is really a wanton declaration that God is not. God is not love. Love is not defined by God. It is not accountable to God. Love is accountable to me, right? Love is what I decide in my heart to make it. I define love for myself. I am love for myself. I am God for myself. And this deception, this is the reason that a world that is so obsessed with the idea about love in theory, seems so incapable of actually extending true love to anyone in particular, to put it into practice.

 

We have been duped into buying a counterfeit. It's a self-centered, self-serving, self-righteous, self-absorbed love. And it's no wonder that we're so miserable. If we want to know what love is, we're not going to find it within ourselves. We can't look inward to ourselves. We have to look upward to God. That's what John is telling us, that that's the only place where we're going to find the answer to this question. And so when we look to God and when we look to scripture, well what does scripture tell us?

 

1 Corinthians 13 tells us that, "Love is patient and kind. Love does not your boast. It's not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own ways. It's not irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things endures all things. Love never ends." And after telling us to test the spirits, John then goes on to give us what is the most profound and true definition of what love really is. In 1 John 4, continuing in verse seven, he says this, "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God." It's not from us. It starts with God. It flows from God. "And whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins." It's actually a selfless, sacrificial, undeserved love that God extends to us.

 

We see that there is no love apart from God, that God is love. And John says, that God's love was made manifest to us in sending his Son Jesus Christ, to come to take on flesh, to die on the cross in our place, so that the propitiation for our sins could be made so that we could be reconciled to God. And then he says, "And those who love are born of God." You need to be born again. You need a new heart with new desires from God, so that the love of God that's been manifest from you can fill up your life and then begin to overflow to others.

 

Now with this understanding in mind, now we can go back to our text today and see what Paul does, because he's given us some really practical applications for what it looks like to manifest the love of God in real life. And so in verse 14, one example he gives is this. He says, "Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty but associate with the lowly."

 

Do you ever wonder why Jesus wept at the tomb of Lazarus? It seems kind of strange. Jesus knew that he was going to die and Jesus knew that in just a few moments, he was going to bring him back to life. And so, what was Jesus doing? Was he just playing the crowd? Trying to keep up the act, make sure nobody was on to what he was about to do? No. So why does he weep? He knows this is easy for Him. He's going to undo this and in a few minutes from now, Lazarus is going to be alive again. Well, he weeps because he loves. And when you love someone, you are willing to enter into their pain and to weep with those who weep. And he sees his friends weeping at the tomb of Lazarus, then his heart breaks with theirs.

 

Now, I would submit to you that this is actually not that hard. Perhaps some of you are sympathetic criers and you just can't even help yourself. It just happens naturally. Even if not though, I think most of us have enough sympathy and compassion, even in our flesh to honor the grief of someone who has suffered a great loss. Weeping with those who weep, that's one thing. I think the first half of that sentence though is actually the part that is much harder. I think it's fair to say that, a much greater test of genuine love is not just can you weep with those who weep, but can you truly, authentically, genuinely rejoice with those who rejoice? And we live in a bit of a cutthroat city, right? People are clamoring for status, success, achievement, image, accolades. You feel the competition.

 

Now honestly, how do you feel when you see the people around you, your neighbors win? When a coworker gets recognized for their work on a big project? Or maybe they get a huge promotion before you? How do you feel when you're driving through your neighborhood and you see that neighbor with a big beautiful house, putting on a big beautiful addition to their big beautiful house, and they've got the perfect lawn and the picket fence and the yappy little dog that's got a better haircut than you do? I used to walk on my way to the gym through a neighborhood with a lot of those big, old, beautiful homes. And every day I'd walk by and one of them had this big window. And up in the window every day, I'd see this dog sitting on this cushy cushion. And I'd walk by the house and I'd look up at the dog and he would look down on me. And I'd just like, "This dog is judging me. He knows he's got it better than I do."

 

So when others win, when others are blessed, when they succeed, is your first impulse to think about yourself? Is it to maybe feel envy or maybe even anger? Maybe even bitterness? Or can you say that you are genuinely happy for them without hypocrisy, without a tinge of jealousy over their success? See, I think anyone who has experienced loss, can weep with those in similar circumstances. But it is only a soul that is fully satisfied in the love of Jesus Christ, that can freely, truly, authentically rejoice with those who rejoice and be happy for their success.

 

So Paul goes on, "Rejoice with those who rejoice. Weep with those who weep." And then he says, "Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly." Associating with the lowly, it carries this idea of either people or things, lowly people or lowly things, and what's a servant hearted-ness. It's a humility where you're not too proud to give yourself to menial tasks, menial labor, and you're not too proud to associate with people of humble means. This is Jesus washing the disciples' feet, right?"To live in harmony with one another." It's translated more literally in the NASB, the New American Standard Bible. It translated it like this, "Be of the same mind toward one another." And this is the same phrase that Paul uses in Philippians 2, when he's talking about the love and the unity of the Church. He says, "If there's any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interest of others, having this mind among yourselves."

 

Now how do we have it? What is it that he's talking about? He tells us this, "Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but he emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant and being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even the most excruciating, painful, humiliating death on a cross." And this is the litmus of true love. It's humble, it's sacrificial. It desires what is best for others and is also willing and as much as it is able to seek what is best for others, even when that comes at a personal sacrificial cost to self.

 

This is not something we can muster up from within ourselves. This is something we can only have, as Paul says, in Christ Jesus. It begins with the generosity of the Father, who gives his only beloved Son, and is manifest in Jesus Christ who takes on flesh and goes to that cross in our place. And when we experience that love, scripture says, that the Holy Spirit pours the love of God into our hearts, so that then it can begin to overflow out of our lives and into those of the people around us. We start here, and maybe so far this feels great.

 

I can say that I am a very, very, very long way off from living this perfectly, but I think I can say that I desire to live this way. I want to live this way. I can definitely say, I would love it if everyone else lived this way. It sounds good on paper, but the problem is that as soon as you try to put this into practice, you realize how impossible it is. And if it doesn't feel impossible just yet, we're going to keep going and talk about point two, which is the limits of love.

 

This is the kind of love that we're called to. And now we're going to see just how far we're called to extend it, because Paul told us in verse 14 and he's quoting Jesus. We'll come to that in a little bit to see where he gets this from. He's quoting Jesus from the Sermon of the Mount, and he says, "Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do not curse them." In verse 17, he says, "Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you live peaceably with all."

 

Since Pastor Jan was gone this week, I decided to include some Russian literature for us this morning. And there's a famous quote you've probably heard from Fyodor Dostoevsky's, Brothers Karamazov. The father is recalling a conversation he had with a doctor. And in it, the doctor told him this. He said, "The more that I love humanity in general, the less I love man in particular. In my dreams, I can often make plans for the service of humanity, and perhaps I might actually face crucifixion if it were suddenly necessary. And yet, I am incapable of living in the same room with anyone for two days together." This guy had some roommates in Boston.

 

He says, "I know from experience, as soon as anyone is near me, his personality disturbs me and restricts my freedom. In twenty-four hours, I begin to hate the best of men. One because he's too long over his dinner, another because he has a cold and keeps on blowing his nose. I become hostile to people the moment they come close to me. But it has always happened that the more I hate men individually, the more I love humanity." It's like, I love humanity. You love humanity. We all love humanity. It's just, it's people that we can't stand. That's what he's getting at. We love the commandment to love thy neighbor as thyself in theory. But as soon as we begin thinking about applying that to real people with names, faces, personalities, problems, well all of a sudden, we find out that we are the lawyer going to test Jesus. We are the one asking, "Who exactly is my neighbor?"

 

so let's go back and see how Jesus answered that question. Going back to Luke 10:29 says that, "He desiring to justify himself, said to Jesus, 'And who is my neighbor?" And Jesus replies with a story. He tells him this parable. He says, "A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and he fell among robbers who stripped him and beat him and departed, leaving him half dead. Now by chance, a priest was going down the road, and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side. So likewise a Levite, when he came to the place, saw him and pass by on the other side. But a Samaritan, as he journeyed, came to where he was and when he saw him, he had compassion." "He went to him and he bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. He set him on his own animal and brought him to an inn and he took care of him. And the next day, he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper saying, 'Take care of him and whatever more you spend, I will repay when I come back. Now, which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell among the robbers?' He said, 'The one who showed him mercy.' And Jesus said to him, 'You go and do likewise."

 

So the guy asks, 'Who is my neighbor?' And Jesus answers and the big idea of this parable is, well you need to be a good neighbor. And to be a good neighbor, you have to have compassion for people, even your enemies, and be willing to show them mercy. And I always thought it was strange that Jesus doesn't really answer the question, who is my neighbor? And I was thinking about it some more this week, and I think that he actually does answer the question. He doesn't answer it directly, but he answers it and he does it in a really clever way, and this is what I mean.

 

If you really allow the parable to do what it is intended to do, well it's intended to bring you to this place where you do begin to see that every human being, every human soul really is a neighbor, in the sense that we all have the same condition, we all have the same need, we're all in the same boat. And so, how does the parable do this? Well, Jesus does it by reversing our expectations of who the good guys and the bad guys should be in the story. And so Jesus makes the good guys, the priest and the Levites do the wrong thing. And then, He makes this despised Samaritan come along, the bad guy who actually in the end ends up doing the right thing.

 

Now the purpose of this, we need to be clear. Jesus' purpose here is not to try to imply that religious people or Jewish people are bad and that Samaritans are good. That's not the point. The purpose is that by making the person we expect to do the wrong thing, the hero of the story, Jesus forces us to humble ourselves. He humbles us as the listener, while humanizing our enemies at the same time. He forces us to not listen to this parable with the assumption that we're the good Samaritan. And this instead forces us to try to figure out, "Well okay, well then which character am I?"

 

Now here's the train of thought. We all, if we're honest, come to Jesus and want to ask the question, who is my neighbor? And that kind of shows us right off the bat that we're not the good Samaritan. Actually, we are the Levite or the priest. We're the ones doing the wrong thing in the story, which is meant to humble us. And it's meant to humble us, so that eventually we come to accept that actually we're not the Levite or the priest. It's worse than that. We are the pathetic, half dead, naked, broke man beaten on the side of the road. That's who we are.

 

Jesus was very good at flattering his audience. Like, once upon a time, there was this pathetic loser who gets beat up and stripped left for dead on the side of the road. And oh yeah, by the way, that's you in the story. Brutal, but it's meant to humiliate us. It's meant to humble us. It's meant to bring us down to see that we are the despicable one. We are the one in desperate need of mercy. Because until we see that, we cannot appreciate what it means that Christ is the one who has come as our good Samaritan.

 

He is the one who saw us in our pathetic, weak state and had compassion. He's the one who showed us mercy, not because we deserved it. He showed us mercy even when we were His enemy. And once we get that, it is only once that finally sinks in, that we can begin to make sense of why we need to go and do likewise, of why we are called to show mercy to our enemies as well, because this is what Jesus has done for us. And apart from that, apart from the mercy and the grace of God, we would still be lying half naked, half dead, broke in the gutter of our sin.

 

Romans 5:6 says that, "While we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person, though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die. But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since therefore, we've now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life." We have to begin with this foundation, because before we have this, what Paul tells us doesn't make sense. To bless those who persecute you and those who curse you?

 

As I said earlier, Paul didn't come up with this on his own. He's actually quoting Jesus from the gospels. In gospel of Matthew 5, Jesus is preaching the Sermon of the Mount and he tells his disciples. He says, "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. For he causes his sun to rise on the evil and on the good. He sends his rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even the Gentiles do that?" He says, "You therefore must be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect."

 

Now, the problem that the lawyer, the teacher of the law had, is the text tells us, is that he came to Jesus to test Him and to justify Himself. And if you come before Jesus to test Him, if you come to stand over Him in judgment, proud, self-righteous, with a cynical heart thinking that you know better. If that is how you come to Christ, then when He tells you to go and do likewise, that's going to make no sense. It's going to seem impossible. It's going to seem absurd. It's probably even going to seem repulsive, because apart from Christ, it is. If you want to figure this all out, we need to stop trying to come to Jesus to test Him. We need to start coming to Jesus to thank Him and to trust Him, but this requires faith and we have to trust that Jesus is right.

 

We have to trust that by his power, this is possible. And we have to trust that Jesus had a good purpose in sacrificing and extending His mercy toward us. And we need to trust that, when He calls us to do the same, when He calls us to love like this, that when we do, when we deny ourselves, when we extend mercy, when we sacrificially love others, that are sacrifice will not be in vain either. There is a purpose, there's a greater potential at work. And this brings us to point number three, the latency of love.

 

In verse 17, Paul says, "Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you live peaceably with all. Beloved, to never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine. I will repay, says the Lord. 'To the contrary, if your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he's thirsty, give him something to drink, for by so doing, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good."

 

Now this idea of latency, familiar with it maybe in computing terms as that delay in a process between the input, the output. A more classical definition though, it has to do with something as unseen power, unseen potential. And that's what's going on here. That on the surface, this command to love our enemies, it seems irrational. It doesn't really make sense. But by faith, we're trusting that there is this latent unseen power at work, when we obey Christ's commands. We get a glimpse of this when Paul tells us in verse 20 and 21, "To the contrary, if your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he's thirsty, give him something to drink, for by so doing." This is what he says, "You will keep burning coals on his head."

 

Now what is he talking about? Burning coals? "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good?" Paul is actually quoting Proverbs here. And Proverbs 25:21-22, tell us, "If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat. If he's thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head and the Lord will reward you." So this is a very strange phrase. What's going on here? There is three primary ways that this proverb could be interpreted. First of all, this could be talking about judgment. That when you bless those who curse you, you are increasing your innocence, your obedience for which you will eventually be rewarded. Paul does say, "Don't take vengeance, but leave it to the wrath of God, that God is going to settle things and bring about justice. And if you are obedient, you should will be rewarded. And at the same time as you do this, you are increasing your enemy's guilt for which sooner or later, they will one day be punished."

 

Now the problem here is, that doesn't really seem to fit the tone of what Paul is saying. It definitely doesn't fit the tone of what Jesus was saying in the Sermon of the Mount. It doesn't really seem to reflect the heart of God in this matter. Ezekiel 33:10 says, "As I live declares the Lord, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that the wicked turns from his way and live. Turn back, turn back from your evil ways. Why will you die?" Likewise in 2 Peter 3:9, it tells us that, "The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient towards you because he's not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach a repentance."

 

So it is true that we will be rewarded for our obedience and that the wicked will be punished, should they not repent, but we also see that the heart of God is that they would repent. So it could be talking about judgment. Second, this could be talking about shame, that by doing good to your enemies, by refusing to retaliate with an eye for an eye, with a tooth for a tooth, as Jesus says in the Sermon of Mount. And by choosing to extend mercy, instead in that process, you're heaping shame upon your enemy, that hopefully they begin to feel how wrong they are, that it wakes them up, that they come to their senses and feel shameful about their actions, and perhaps that that could even lead them to repentance. And then thirdly, this could just be talking more directly about repentance.

 

There was an ancient Near Eastern practice that seems to have originated in Egypt, where people would walk around with bowls of burning coals on their heads, and they would do it as a public demonstration of their repentance. And so it's hard to tell exactly what Paul is getting at in our text today, exactly what the Proverbs is talking about. But we do know from scripture, that all three of these things are true. That God will reward our obedience to this commandment, and that He will punish those who persecute us, should they not repent. And yet at the same time, it's also true that God's desire is that the wicked would not perish, but that they would come to repentance, that they would turn from their evil ways and be saved.

 

Then it is also often the case that, by refusing to take vengeance into our own hands and choosing to show mercy instead, that we will oftentimes cause a person to feel shame for their actions, which could in turn lead them to repentance, which could turn an enemy into a friend. This is the latent power of love that it's a love that demands justice because true love does require justice. But it's also willing to delay justice in order to leave room for mercy, so that evil may be overcome by good.

 

Now, I doubt that there is anyone who understood and appreciated this more than the Apostle Paul himself, because who was he? Well, he was a persecutor of the Church. That before Christ, the Apostle Paul, Saul, hunted Christians down and had them put to death. This is who he was. But by the mercy of God, he was transformed from a persecutor of the Church into an apostle to the church, an apostle to the Gentile, a man who was now willing to sacrifice and live and even die for the very people that he once sought to destroy. Now this is the power that we see, the potential that we see here.

 

Now, we need to be clear that loving our neighbor as ourselves, loving our enemies, this doesn't mean that we approve of what they do. It doesn't mean that what they're doing is not evil. It does not mean that we need to tolerate or enable bad behavior. It doesn't mean that their actions won't at times have consequences. And it doesn't mean that we should just allow them to walk all over us, walk all over the people we love. This doesn't mean that we allow the unrighteous, the unjust to trample the innocent. That's not what this means. But it does mean in a very real way that we have a true desire to see what is best for them come to reality, for them to find mercy and to be redeemed. And at times, that's going to require us to relate to them in a very generous and sacrificial way.

 

In a few moments, we're going to move into communion together. But before we do, I want to close by reading an excerpt from C.S. Lewis' Mere Christianity. It's a talk that he gave, which eventually became the book that we're most of us are pretty familiar with. But in one of his sections, he is addressing the difficulty of forgiving one's enemies. And he's talking about fairly severe, like enemies of war, people who have done treacherous things and how difficult and even repulsive it is to think about forgiving them, and how could Christ call us to do this. And in that section of his talk, he says this.

 

He says, "We might make it easier by trying to understand exactly what loving your neighbor as yourself means. I am to love him as I love myself. Well, how exactly do I love myself? Now that I come to think of it, I don't exactly have feeling of fondness for myself. So apparently, 'Love your neighbor,' does not mean feel fond of him. I ought to have seen that before, because of course you cannot feel fond of a person by trying. Do I think well of myself, think myself a nice chap? Well, I'm afraid sometimes I do and those are no doubt my worst moments, but that's not why I love myself. In fact, it is the other way round. My self-love makes me think myself nice, but thinking myself nice is not why I love myself. So loving your enemy does not apparently mean thinking them nice either. That is an enormous relief." "For a good many people imagine that forgiving your enemies means making out that they are really not such bad fellows after all, when it is quite plain that they are. Go a step further. In my most clear sighted moments, not only do I not think myself a nice man, but I know that I am a very nasty one. I can look at some of the things I have done with horror and loathing. So apparently, I am allowed to loa and hate some of the things my enemies do. Now that I come to think of it, I remember Christian teachers telling me long ago that I must hate a bad person's actions, but not hate the bad person, or as they would say, hate the sin but not the sinner. And for a long time, I used to think this is a silly, straw-splitting distinction. How could you hate what a person did and not hate the person? But years later, it occurred to me that there was one man to whom I had been doing this all my life, namely myself." "However much I might dislike my own cowardice or conceit or greed, I went on loving myself. In fact, the very reason why I hated the things was that I love the person. Consequently, Christianity does not want us to reduce by one atom, the hatred we feel for cruelty and treachery. We ought to hate them, but it does want us to hate them in the same way in which we hate things in ourselves, being sorry that the person should have done such things, and hoping, if it is any way possible, that somehow, sometime, somewhere they can be cured." And in a world that is increasingly filled with hatred and rage and where it seems day by day that good is being overcome by evil, that we as the Church, as followers of Christ have an incredible opportunity before us to live lives of mercy, to follow in the footsteps of Jesus and to overcome evil with good.

 

If you are here today and you're not a Christian, I would implore you on behalf of Christ to be reconciled to God, to no longer live as an enemy of God, to consider that you have sinned against the Holy Righteous Creator of all things, and that God is just and His justice demands that His wrath be poured out on you for your rebellion, your lawlessness. And I would also implore you to consider this just holy God is being patient toward you. That He loves you and He has loved us to such an extent, that rather than pouring His wrath out on us as we deserved, He instead sent His Beloved Son to offer peace through His blood shed on the cross. Jesus came, He took the righteous anger, the wrath of God upon Himself, so that for all who repent and put their faith in Him, the love, the mercy, the grace of God could be poured out on us instead.

 

You can receive that grace right now. You just cry out to God. Surrender, repent, confess to God. I know that I am sinner. I know that I have lived as Your enemies, and I'm throwing myself upon the mercy of Christ, that I need Your grace. And I trust that Jesus Christ truly has paid the penalty for me to be forgiven and reconciled to You.