Trauma wants to be seen. Trauma creates a deep need to be felt and understood, while at the same time, a desire to hide in fear, shame and embarrassment.
The Liturgy of Lament
January 15, 2023 • Paul A. Berthiaume
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It is easy to feel forgotten. Trauma can cause us to create a narrative that God and everyone else has forsaken us. At those times, we can feel conflicted because we want to hide and be seen simultaneously. A lament allows us to express these feelings and tell ourselves a better story.
Ashes, Salt and Bitterroot
February 5, 2023 • Paul A. Berthiaume
There are three metaphors for Lament: Ashes – Loss, Salt – Tears, and Wormwood (bitter root) – Bitterness. When we Lament, we enter a deep grief that expresses loss, pain, bitterness, and often regret. Grief is acknowledging what has been lost and what we had hoped for that we will not receive. The contrast between where we were and where we had hoped to be contrasted with where we find ourselves needs to be acknowledged before it can be accepted.