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God created sex - and it's a good thing. God created it to be within the confines of marriage. He never intended it to be done outside of marriage.


Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and embrace his wife. They become one flesh. - Genesis 2:24 MSG


Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine. - Song of Solomon 1:2 NLV


But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. - 1 Corinthians 7:9 ESV


Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. - Hebrews 13:4 ESV

Abuse

Some topics carry over and have many things in common with another, but some topics are unique on their own. I wanted to start this one out by explaining a few things in case you are coming from a standpoint of a new relationship with God and maybe even no relationship with Him at all, yet. Maybe you came across this page from an internet search. First, let me say – GOD LOVES YOU! Once sin entered the earth, by Adam’s free will, things began to happen that God never wanted to happen. God NEVER wanted you abused or hurt! It wasn’t His plan or His fault – and it wasn’t your fault!! I don’t care what the abuser may have said, IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! I don’t care what “well-meaning” friends or family may have told you – IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! God wants to heal you of all your pain. He wants to heal you of all your trauma. He wants you to be able to get to the point where you can forgive your abuser – that doesn’t mean to be reconciled back with your abuser. It simply means God doesn’t want unforgiveness and bitterness holding you back from the amazing things He has for you. For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. – Jeremiah 29:11 TLB Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. - Ephesians 5:25 MSG Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desires. – Psalm 37:4 NLT He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. – Psalm 147:3 NLT But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive you your sins too. – Mark 11:25 TLB Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors and gain an overwhelming victory through Him who loved us [so much that He died for us]. – Romans 8:37 AMP If you will only listen and obey the commandments of the Lord your God that I am giving you today, He will make you the head and not the tail, and you shall always have the upper hand. – Deuteronomy 28:13 TLB Say this prayer aloud: God, You see everything that happened to me. I was so angry – with You, with the abuser, with myself – and maybe I still am. Help me overcome my anger. Help me overcome my pain and hurt and torment. Help me overcome the fear that it will all happen again. Help me know and trust You, that You will take care of me as I follow You and follow Your guidance. Help me to breathe again. You say that the power of life and death is in my words. So, I speak now that I am free. I am free from my past. I am free from the fear of my past. I am free from all anger and guilt that has tormented me. I speak freedom to my mind. I receive Your healing. I declare my victory in overcoming my past just as You promise I will if I follow Your ways of living [Deuteronomy 28:13.] I love You and thank You for never giving up on me! In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Addiction

Christ has freed us so that we may enjoy the benefits of freedom. Therefore, be firm in this freedom, and don’t become slaves again. – Galatians 5:1 “Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke and put it on you, and learn from Me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest. – Matthew 11:28-29 GNT I have the strength to face all conditions by the power that Christ gives me. – Philippians 4:13 GNT For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. – 2 Timothy 1:7 NLT Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ—eternal and glorious plans they are!—will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, He does. – 1 Peter 5:8-10 MSG A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls. – Proverbs 25:28 NLT So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will flee from you. Come close to God and He will come close to you. [Recognize that you are] sinners, get your soiled hands clean; [realize that you have been disloyal] wavering individuals with divided interests, and purify your hearts [of your spiritual adultery]. [As you draw near to God] be deeply penitent and grieve, even weep [over your disloyalty]. Let your laughter be turned to grief and your mirth to dejection and heartfelt shame [for your sins]. Humble yourselves [feeling very insignificant] in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you [He will lift you up and make your lives significant]. – James 4:7-10 AMPC So there is now no condemnation awaiting those who belong to Christ Jesus. – Romans 8:1 TLB Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life]. – 2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP Say this aloud: Father God, I confess to You and repent of all the areas I have failed in. I thank You, that You are faithful and just to forgive me just as You promise in Your Word in 1 John 1:9. I thank You, for Your faithfulness. Thank You, that You are always with me. You love me with an everlasting love and nothing I have done has made You love me any less. Thank You, that nothing can separate me from Your love [Romans 8:38-39.] Thank You, for giving me a spirit of discipline. I walk in self-discipline every moment of every day. I walk in the strength You have given me. I give over to You, anything that is trying to tempt me back into my old life. I thank You, that Your mercies are new every morning. I don’t have to feel shameful over my past, for there is no condemnation for those who remain in You. Thank You, for helping me each day. Every day that I wake up, I am stronger and healthier. Every day, I exert self-control. I love You and I thank You, in Jesus’s name – Amen!

Alcohol

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. - 1 Corinthians 10:31 NIV I can hear you say, "For me, all things are permitted." But face the facts: all things are not beneficial. So you say, "For me, all things are permitted." Here is my response: I will not allow anything to control me. - 1 Corinthians 6:12 The Voice Translation Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit. - Ephesians 5:18 NLT  Wine makes you mean, beer makes you quarrelsome - a staggering drunk is not much fun. - Proverbs 20:1 MSG