Resolving EveryDay Conflict

Our vision for changing the world! ~ Pastor Steve Larson

February 27, 2022

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When your in conflict, look under the hood ~ Pastor Steve Larson

February 20, 2022

James 4:1-3 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. When you are in conflict with someone, look under the hood. And what you might find is: 1. Selfishness. 2. Pleasures 3. Coveting. 4. Pride. 5. Fear 6. Emotions James 4:2 You do not have because you do not ask God. Matthew 7:3-5 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

4 Things that can Ruin a Relationship ~ Pastor Steve Larson

February 13, 2022

The Love Bank: The 4 Things: Critical Spirit Galatians 5:15 "If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other." Gentle Start Up I felt _______________ when you _______________________. What I would like is _______________________ and I appreciate _____________________ about you. Defensiveness Genesis 3:12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” 2% Rule Stonewalling James 3:17-18 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and WILLING TO YIELD TO OTHERS. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. 18 And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness. Contempt Isaiah 65:5 Yet they say to each other, ‘Don’t come too close or you will defile me! I AM HOLIER THAN YOU!’ Built a Culture of honor! Exodus 20:12 "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you. 1 Peter 2:17 Honor all people. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king. 1 Timothy 5:17 Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in the word and doctrine. Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;

The Art of Active Listening: Seeking first to understand then to be understood ~ Sermon Only

January 30, 2022

Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. LEAD WITH LISTENING Proverbs 18:2 2 Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions. Proverbs 18:13 13 To answer before listening— that is folly and shame. James 1:19 19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry How to LISTEN effectively: Let go of your agenda Incarnate their world Surrender your “fix it” hat. Try to rephrase their content and feelings Express validation of their thoughts and feelings. No criticism, judgmentalism, defensiveness, control Dietrich Bonhoeffer: “Christians, especially ministers, so often think they must always contribute something when they are in the company of others, that this is the one service they have to render. THEY FORGET THAT LISTENING CAN BE A GREATER SERVICE THAN SPEAKING. Many people are looking for an ear that will listen. They do not find it among Christians, because these Christians are talking where they should be listening. BUT HE WHO CAN NO LONGER LISTEN TO HIS BROTHER WILL SOON BE NO LONGER LISTENING TO GOD EITHER; he will be doing nothing but prattle in the presence of God too. This is the beginning of the death of the spiritual life, and in the end there is nothing left but spiritual chatter.” ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ You can submit a prayer request here: https://www.ccc-kasson.org/forms Fill out a Welcome Card: https://www.ccc-kasson.org/forms You can give online here: https://www.ccc-kasson.org/give Website: https://www.ccc-kasson.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ccckasson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ccc.kasson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ccc_kasson

Fight less, Love more ~ What if love is the point? Sermon Only

Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. IT'S MORE IMPORTANT TO LOVE RIGHT, THEN BE RIGHT! 1 Corinthians 13:1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, BUT DO NOT HAVE LOVE, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 1 Corinthians 16:14 Do everything in love Matthew 5:44 44 "But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…”

7 Root causes of conflict

What is conflict? • Conflict is when you are at odds with another person over what you think, want or do. • The external issue is rarely the issue. It is just a symptom of a deeper issue. 7 Root causes of the Dandelion of Division! 1. Frustrated d___________ What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your DESIRES that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight… (James 4:1-2) 2. Pride “Pride only breeds quarrels…” (Proverbs 13:10). 3. Selfishness James 4:1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight… 4. Limited resources 5. Different values Acts 15:39 They had such a sharp disagreement that they parted company. 6. The root of d_____________ Variety is the spice of life; It is also the ______ of conflict. What percentage of conflict is perpetual or ongoing? a. 10% b. 30% c. 50% d. 70% 7. The root of ____________________ What is at the root of your present and past conflicts? Examine yourself and ask God to help you with these roots: Frustrated Desires 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Pride 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Selfishness 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Limited resources 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Different values 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Diversity 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Misunderstanding 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10