•David had already killed Goliath & had just spared Saul’s life - he was operating by principle.
•But now he was operating emotional and was going to take matters into his own hands.
•vs 21-22 - “enemies of David???” Against Goliath he was more concerned about God.
•With Saul, David focused on honoring God. With Nabal he focused on avenging himself.
•WHY was he so mad? Because he was disrespected.
•God used a woman to get him to refocus on God and not himself.
•Notice three things Abigail did to get to David's heart:
•vs 23-24 - 1) She led with respect - she had him at “On!”
•You can say the right things but without the right posture it won’t get through.
•HOW do you respect? Psalms 100:4 - through Thanks and Praise.
•We thank Him for what He’s done and praise Him for Who He is.
•vs 28 - 2) She reminded him of who he was - he fights God’s battles, not these petty ones.
•Women need to remind their men who they are, because the devil can’t whip a man who knows who he is.
•vs 29-31 - 3) She reminded him of what God was doing - this got him to refocus on God.
•She didn’t try to get him to focus on her.
•If she could get him to focus on God then she would be taken care of.
•vs 32-35 - David’s focus was now on God.
•When David released his problem back to God, it gave God room to take over.
•vs 36-38 - God dealt with Nabal as He saw fit.
•They that “wait upon the Lord” - state of waiting (no ambition), service of waiting (focus on Him). •vs 39 - God rewarded the woman who got the man to focus on God!
•It was HER faith that increased David’s faith.
•Notice how she waited - she was in the state of waiting when she left David that day, not having a clue how God was going to work this all out.
•But then she was willing to remain in the service of waiting - she was willing to serve in whatever position God put her in.
A Great Woman
This is the type of woman who attracted the future king
May 7, 2017 • Benham Brothers
We Were Made For Relationship
January 4, 2018 • Benham Brothers
* God + Adam = not good. * God + Adam + Eve = good. * What was missing? Relationship! * This is why we have the ability to communicate - apart from others who are equal to us (human beings) we cannot relate as God relates in the Trinity. * In the beginning God created “adam” (awh-dahm), not the male but humankind. * “It is not good for “humankind” to be alone.” * vs 17-23 - “she was taken out of man.” * This is the “splitting of the adam,” so to speak. * Feminine was taken from masculine. * The two joined together creates the perfect picture of mankind made in God’s image. * vs 24 - this is why God wants men to “cleave” to their wife - to create the oneness required to give the full picture of God’s image. * Man alone is not God’s full image. Neither is woman alone. * It’s the man/woman bond that creates it. * This is why marriage is under attack today - Satan hates the image of God.
Relationships Thrive on Intimacy
January 8, 2014 • Benham Brothers
3 ordinances of God existed before the fall: 1) Sabbath 2) Work 3) Marriage (this was for intimacy) Two foundational truths: Spiritual truths have physical manifestations & Satan tries to mess up what God sets up 1) God created us for intimacy (to be fully known and fully accepted) - it was a desire of His and not a need 2) The PURPOSE for intimacy was LIFE! As we're intimate with God LIFE is birthed 3) God created a physical manifestation of intimacy when He created woman & Satan wants to thwart this intimacy 4) He made the act of intimacy PLEASUREABLE so we would want to do it often 5) Pleasure overtook Purpose (Gen 6:2) - it's like pornography: it seeks pleasure but not purpose, and the result is a lack of intimacy with the woman God gave to you, but maintaining a ravenous apetite for the act of it 6) When a man and woman are intimate LIFE is seeded 7) Children are a physical manifestation of the LIFE that's seeded in us when God comes into us. Our kids are a perfect mix of two different people and are a product of the LOVE that each person has for the other. Trae is a mix of Jason and Tori and his life proves my love for Tori. Spiritually it's the same - the fruit we bear is a product of the love we have for God and is a mix of God and us. 8) Satan hates this life, so going after the seed. He will: 1) Try to stop the life from taking seed in the first place by convincing men that sex is for pleasure 2) Try to kill the life if it's already taken seed by convincing women that the life that's seeded in them isn't really life. 9) Killing the baby is getting rid of the consequence of seeking pleasure over purpose 10) When you don't have consequences then your behavior will never stop 11) Broken Intimacy (Gen 3:7) - they no longer wanted to be fully known Two issues always manifest themselves when a nation kicks God out: Sexual promiscuity & Child sacrifice (killing kids) So now we see sexual promiscuity and abortion at an all time highs - why? Because we have forsaken our purpose - INTIMACY with God! Satan hates our intimacy with God because he knows it produces LIFE, and he hates our intimacy with our spouses because it does the same - the physical union of a man and woman bringing forth physical life is simply a physical manifestation of what takes place spiritually with human beings and God - LIFE explodes! The devil can't stand that so he not only tries to destroy life itself but he also tries to destroy the very process that brings life into being (sexuality).
The Power of Presence
January 14, 2016 • Benham Brothers
• Three times times in this chapter Abe uses the phrase “Here I am.” • When God called to him to sacrifice his son, when his son called to him, and when God called to him again not to kill his son. • He was so attuned to God’s voice he could here Him and he was ready for what God would say. • He was also attuned to his sons’ voice. • Wherever Abe was he was “all there.” • I struggle with being “all there” with my kids often times. • If Abe wasn’t “all there” he would have mistaken God’s voice for the devils’. • The secret to the great leader is being a great follower. • Abe followed God and therefore he was equipped to lead his family.