* Studies show that one of the key qualities that leads to success in life and business is delayed gratification. * You say “no” today so you can say “yes” tomorrow. * You put off today so you can have something better in the future. * As a believer, “I let go of what’s in my hand so I can have what’s in God’s hand.” * Delayed Gratification isn’t always a matter of sin - sometimes it’s choosing between good and great. (It’s not just about temptation) * Marshmallow experiment - test done at Stanford in 1972. * Backstory - God told the Israelites the spoils of Jericho were off limits. * Achan took some for himself: * 1) He saw it * 2) He wanted it * 3) He took it * 4) He hid it * He and his whole family died as a result. * Now, it was time to take down Ai. * Vs 1-2 - God told them they could have the spoils. * This was just a few days after they defeated Jericho. * Can you imagine what people thought of Achan? “If he’d only waited!” * ** Achan would’ve gotten so much more than he stole from Jericho. * How can you operate by delayed gratification? * Four steps (they are the opposite of what Achan did): * 1) We see - you can’t control everything you see, but what you can control, do it. (Ex: Tori’s ranger cookie dough - I can’t “see” it) * * When you see it, look away. How?… * 2) We want - don’t think short term, think about what you want in the long term. * Desire is stirred up by two things - imagination & emotion. * ** You imagine it. * ** You feel it. * Emotion is an impulse to act, so you have to drum up the right emotions. * When you see something, think about what you “really” want. * You want peace and joy and love and security - all things you get by saying “yes” to the long term and “no” to the short term. * EX: think of yourself as a loving husband and dad on vacation with the family - no secrets between you and your wife and nothing to confess… * 3) We take - don’t take the thing you’re looking at, take your thoughts captive! * Don’t give them control - lock them up and stay in authority. * ** You take something else in its place (like peppermint gum in place of ice cream). * 4) We hide - hide truth in your heart so you can be like Jesus did in the wilderness. * We remind ourself what God’s Word says. * Result - we get what we ultimately want, what God wants for us to experience.
Joshua 8:1-2 (4/1/21)
The Power of Delayed Gratification
April 1, 2021
Acts 13:49-50 (4/17/24)
April 17, 2024 • Benham Brothers • Acts 13:49–50
* God uses people to accomplish His will on the earth. * He uses both good and bad people. * Satan uses people to accomplish his will on the earth. * He uses both good and bad people. * Backstory - Jesus was off the scenes and now the growth of the church was the responsibility of the apostles. * Paul and Barnabas were preaching like crazy! * Jews and Gentiles were getting saved by the droves. * vs 49 - “The word of the Lord spread through the whole region.” * Through their witness the kingdom of heaven was advancing forcefully against the kingdom of hell. * Then something happened: * vs 50 - “But the Jewish leaders incited the God-fearing women of high standing and the leading men of the city. They stirred up persecution against Paul and Barnabas, and expelled them from their region.” * A “God-fearing” person who’s a “leader” is a Christian Influencer! * The Christian Influencers of the day were now on the wrong side of God’s Kingdom expansion! * We need to always remember the four spiritual players at work here. * Revelation 17 shows us: * Dragon - Satan himself. * Beast - Antichrist spirit (any idea that stands against God). * Babylon - (PEC) Political, Economic, Cultural system of the Beast. * The goal of Babylon is to turn people away from God. * Harlot - Religious system of Babylon that gives credence to the Beast. * The only way people will desire Satan’s way more than God’s way is if there is a religious system that legitimizes it. * That’s what happened here in Acts 13. * Satan needed good-hearted Godly people to buy into his lies and hinder God’s work. * Note - These influencers were first convinced by the “religious” leaders. * “…the Jewish leaders incited the God-fearing women…” * What are our pastors teaching us today? * How do we make sure we don’t get used by Satan? * 1) Wrap knowledge around our zeal. * These influencers certainly had a zeal for the Lord, but they didn’t have knowledge. * They needed a Biblical worldview to filter the lies being spoken into their ears. * We need to “study” Scripture to be intimately familiar with the truth. * We need to study it through the lense of a battle. * 2) Look and listen for the spirit behind what’s being said or done. * EX: Jesus with Peter. * EX: Stanley - teaching Christians to stay out of the “hot topic” issues. * “If you need an enemy to prop up your leadership, you’re not leading.” * People clapped - but the Bible is a book about God’s enemy. * 3) Ask God what He thinks. * Then pause and listen. * 4) Sit under leaders with a “Fatherly” spirit (and Motherly). * They’re willing to talk about all things. * They teach about boundaries.
Psalms 119:44-45 (4/17/24)
April 17, 2024 • Benham Brothers • Psalm 119:44–45
* You might have heard it said that rules without relationship lead to rebellion. * It’s true, for the most part. * But relationship without rules leads to rejection! * Love is “compassion with standards.” * If we don’t operate by the standards, we don’t have love. * It’s our commitment to following the rules that shows our surrender to the rule-giver. * God’s fences (boundaries) are not to keep you from good things, but to keep bad things from you! * Look at what David says about rules in these verses: * vs 44-45 - “So I will keep Your law continually, Forever and ever. And I will walk at liberty, For I seek Your precepts.” * David loved God’s rules because he saw how God’s blessings were found inside of them. * Why rules? * His boundaries bring freedom! * Freedom is the greatest blessing you can have. * EX: One boundary in the Garden - don’t eat the fruit. * If they obeyed, they were free forever. * If they disobeyed, they were enslaved forever. * EX: Doctor Dobson playground experiment. * Without properly defined boundaries we don't have freedom. * When boundaries are clearly defined we can move about freely and not be scared. * EX: Balcony with no railings. * Boundaries bring freedom, and God's boundaries are the answer to our fear. * Like a kite held by the boundary of the string, so we are free to fly so long as we don't let go of God's boundaries found in His Word. * If we want true freedom, then we need to operate within God’s boundaries.
Jeremiah 4:19 (4/10/24)
April 10, 2024 • Benham Brothers • Jeremiah 4:19
- When you draw near to God, He gives you eyes to see and ears to hear. - You will see & hear the spirit. - When Jesus returns, we’ll see Him and hear Him physically. - But we can do it now if we focus our spiritual eyes and tune our spiritual ears. - We won’t just see and hear God, we’ll see and hear the enemy. - EX: Jesus calling Peter “Satan.” - All through Christ’s ministry, He talked about those who don’t see or hear. - Jeremiah shows us what it looks like. - His culture was going to hell in a hatbasket, but everyone was having a great time. - They were building their churches and having their conferences and enjoying themselves. - All while the culture was going down the tube straight to hell! - vs 19 - “Oh, my anguish, my anguish! I writhe in pain. Oh, the agony of my heart! My heart pounds within me; I cannot keep silent. For I have heard the sound of the trumpet; I have heard the battle cry.” - Jeremiah heard something nobody else did. - He heard it because his ears were tuned into God. - He saw it because his eyes were focused on the Lord. - We must do the same. - When we see God moving and hear Him whispering, we can prepare for what lies ahead. - EX: David and I speaking at a men’s event and charging the men to be bold. - Some of the staff might not say anything - maybe even distance from us. - But other men flock to us and are ready to fight! - They heard the battle cry! - But Jeremiah didn’t simply hear the battle cry, he also heard something else: - vs 31 - “I hear a cry as of a woman in labor, a groan as of one bearing her first child— the cry of Daughter Zion gasping for breath…” - He was soft-hearted toward people and hard-headed toward principle! - How do you tune your ears to hear God and focus your eyes to see God? - See like a Soldier - recognize that we’re in a spiritual battle. - Soldiers are always on the lookout. - They are surrendered to authority. - Process like a Parent - your role is to provide and protect. - So you speak truth in love. - Your provide boundaries for their blessing. - Study like a Scribe - devour the Scripture. - Don’t just read, but “study.” - 2 Timothy 2:15 - “Study to show yourself approved.”