* David’s men wanted to please him. * He foolishly voiced a desire that he should have kept quiet. * Leaders need to keep quiet about certain things - this shows prudence. * But when his men risked their lives to get him what he wanted David wisely refused to drink it. Why? * Because he didn’t want to give his men an example so others would risk their lives to simply please him. * This is what a good leader does - he refuses to indulge his own desire in order to protect those who follow him. * Good leaders recognize their people will: * 1) Do things “for” them - because they want to please them. * 2) Do things “like” them - because people naturally follow a strong leader. * David foolishly voiced his appetite, but then he wisely controlled it at the end.
A leader refuses to be led by his own appetite
June 14, 2018 • Benham Brothers
How to set and accomplish your goals • January 2, 2019 • Benham Brothers
A dream written down is a goal. A goal broken down is a plan. A plan acted upon leads to profit (Proverbs 16:9). You cannot accomplish your goals apart from discipline and diligence. You cannot maintain discipline without knowing WHY you have the goal in the first place. Seven Keys to creating goals: 1) Establish Long Term and Short Term Goals - a long term goal is what you want to accomplish or become in 5 years, 10 years, lifetime. Short term goals are the ones that are measurable and include more of your day-to-day activities. 2) KISS - keep it simple stupid! When you start thinking of all the things you want to accomplish you'll end up writing a book. Refine this down to one or two points for each category. 3) Categorize - you can split them up however you want. Financial, Personal, Business, Spiritual, etc (you can have one or two sub-categories under these as well). It doesn't matter what categories you use - just do something that helps you keep track. 4) Write them down - that's what your Memo App is for! Put it on your PDA and carry them with you everywhere. 5) Measure them - every quarter take inventory and then write a date beside the ones you've accomplished. You have to put goals that can be measured - don't just put "Become a better husband." Instead, put "One date night a week" or something like that. 6) Refine - take inventory to see if you need to change a goal. There's nothing wrong with that. We plan our way but God determines our course, so sometimes you'll end up on a different course which makes your previous goal moot. 7) Pray over them daily - at the bottom of my goals list I put Proverbs 16:3 - "Commit your way to the Lord and your plans will succeed." The beauty of this is that when you're walking with the Lord He will give you the plans He wants you to follow - so just make a plan and stick to it. He'll change them when/if He sees fit. Either way, your/His plans will succeed.
A Selfish Leader
How a leader's decisions affects everyone • January 18, 2018 • Benham Brothers
* These leaders show us what the phrase “blinded by selfishness” is all about. * They show us how stupid people can be when they’re led by selfish desires. * They were leaders, which meant they were considered wise by the people. * The minute they thought about what they wanted to “get” instead of “give” guess who it affected? * The whole city!!!!! All the men died. * Pay attention to the first thought that crosses your mind when you have to make a decision. * This will show you if you’re a selfish leader. * When you’re a selfish leader: * Opportunities become threats. * Teammates become competitors. * Employees become servants. * Money becomes security. * Your job becomes your identity. * Family becomes a nuisance. * Stuff becomes status. * You ultimately become your own god.
Leadership by Emotion
A picture of a bad leader • April 6, 2017 • Benham Brothers
* The people grumbled against the leaders when they saw the result of the leader’s decision. * They didn’t grumble against them before. * Imagine if Joshua would have turned these poor-looking Gibeonites away. * The people certainly would have grumbled against the leaders for being heartless. * Bad leaders avoid the grumbles at the beginning but always get them in the end. * A good leader welcomes grumbles at the beginning but rarely get them at the end. * Good leaders never base their decision off what people think - they base their decision off what is right.