#2: Accept what the other person has to say

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#2: Accept what the other person has to say

As Christ’s witnesses our perspective on life has been transformed by Christ’s rule in our hearts and informed by his Word, but those who do not yet know Christ, or whose faith is weak or troubled, naturally look at life from the viewpoint of the world. So we should expect to see these differences in our conversations and relationships. Nothing will close down a discussion about Christ more quickly than a Christian saying, “I’m right, and you’re wrong!” Instead see each conversation as an opportunity to build a bridge to the lost.

And in order to build a bridge you have to know both where you are coming from and where you are going so they can meet. That means putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and seeking to understand their objections and opinions. This doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with them, it only means keeping the lines of communication open so that the gospel can be shared. You might say: "I'm sure a lot of people feel that way..." or “I used to think that way, too…” or “That’s an interesting observation…”

It’s hard to argue with anyone who cares enough to acknowledge your point of view and respects your feelings.

#6 Feel...Felt...Found

In the past weeks we’ve considered https://subsplash.com/u/ascensionlutheranchurch/media/d/2cvf66r-5-set-the-issue-aside to make the most of the witnessing opportunities that God gives us: show you really care by being a careful listener; acknowledge others’ opinions; try to get down to the personal level of our sin and God’s grace; stick to the unchanging truth of God’s Word; and if needed set objections and questions aside and come back to them later with a better Biblical answer. An easy way to incorporate these five principles into your witnessing is by remembering FEEL… FELT… FOUND. Whenever someone has an objection to God’s Word (and because of our sinful condition we sinners will naturally object or seek exceptions to God’s will), answer by saying: “I can see how you might FEEL that way...” “I know others have FELT the same way...” (or “I’ve FELT that way myself….”) “But what I've FOUND in God’s Word is…” Framing the conversation in these terms shows that you care, that you acknowledge their opinion, and naturally leads back to God’s Word without imposing our beliefs on others.

#5 Set the Issue Aside

Have you ever heard of the term “a red herring”? It’s something meant to divert attention from the real matter at hand. Understandably it’s uncomfortable for anyone, especially an unbeliever, to have a heart-to-heart conversation about guilt and grace and God’s Savior. So, without even realizing it, they may try to sidetrack the conversation by bringing up a topic or question that turns the spotlight from the real issue—their relationship with God. Love for another person requires that we respectfully hear them out (#1 & 2), gently respond as we are able, but keep returning to the main issue—sin and grace (#3). People throw out the red herrings of money or hypocrisy in the visible church, politics, science, social issues etc. We’ll talk about how to handle some of these in the future, but in the meantime it’s best to set those peripheral issues aside by: 1.) Answering it in a sincere and simple way. 2.) If needed, promise to return with a better biblical answer (which keeps the spiritual conversation going). 3.) Encouraging a visit with the pastor and attendance at your church's Bible class. In any case, always remember that you don’t have to be able to answer every question or objection for the Holy Spirit to work, nor do you have to handle every objection on the spot. Take your time. Use the resources God has given you: the Bible, your pastor, your Christian friends, and perhaps most importantly of all continue to show genuine love and concern for the soul God has brought to you.

#4 Get Back to Biblical Ground

In the Great Commission Jesus told his followers, “Go and make disciples of all nations by baptizing them … and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.” Jesus says sinners are made disciples by the converting power of his Word and sacraments, not by our persuasive power of our arguments. By faith we need to resist that temptation and continually come back to the Bible as the basis of what we say and believe. Without the all-powerful uncompromising truth of God’s Word on our side, our conversations about Jesus will inevitably devolve into one person’s opinion against another’s. With such arguments God is not pleased; Christ is not glorified; and no one wins. So when you’re having a spiritual conversation with someone you love and the conversation turns towards the slippery slope of personal opinion, pray that God gives you the wisdom to bring things back into perspective, back to Biblical ground. It’s only God’s Word that creates faith in the heart, and without faith no one can peer into the deep mysteries of God.