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Atomic Habits by James Clear

March 17, 2021 • Pastor Arthur Jackson III

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ATOMIC HABITS
JAMES CLEAR
CHAPTER 9
THE ROLE OF FAMILY & FRIENDS IN
SHAPING YOUR HABITS

A Theory of Human Motivation by the American psychologist Abraham Maslow written in 1943, has become a highly referenced source of information for determining our needs. In the field of psychology, this paper explains the hierarchy of basic needs that need to be fulfilled in sequence to reach self-actualization. A part of those needs is BELONGINGNESS & LOVE NEEDS.

The need to belong is one of the deepest human desires. We want to fit in, we want to bond with others and to earn the respect and approval of our peers. NOTHING SUSTAINS MOTIVATION BETTER THAN BELONGING TO THE TRIBE. And this ancient preference exerts a powerful influence on our modern behavior.

 When it comes to habit formation it is a proven fact that We DON’T CHOOSE OUR EARLIEST HABITS…WE IMITATE THEM! We, more often than not, follow the script that has been handed down to us by our family and friends, our church or school, our local community and society at large.

 Each of these cultures and groups comes with its own set of expectations and standards. In many ways, they provide for us invisible rules that guide our behavior each day.

o How and where we choose to worship
o The political affiliations we align ourselves with
o The career paths we ultimately take
o Our views on the family structure (marriage, children, etc.)

WE IMITATE THE HABITS OF 3 GROUPS

1. THE CLOSE
2. THE MANY
3. THE POWERFUL

THE CLOSE

 Proximity Has A Powerful Effect on Our Behavior

Whether you realize it or not, we pick up habits from the people closest to us. As a general rule, the closer we are to someone, the more likely we are to imitate some of his or her habits. We copy the way our parents interacted with each other, we mimic the way our siblings behave, we model the way our co-workers perform on their job, we imitate the way our friends style themselves. In fact, when those closest to us pick up a habit…WE PICK UP THE HABIT AS WELL.

How Proximity Works with Habits

One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is join a culture where your desired behavior is the normal behavior! New habits seem more achievable when you see others doing them every day. If you are surrounded by fit people, then you’ll be more likely to consider working out to be a common habit.

 Your Culture Sets Your Expectation for What Is “Normal”

 Here is the takeaway – Surround yourself with people who have the habits you want to have.

THE MANY

It’s interesting that whenever we are unsure how to act, what most of us do is just look to the group (The Many) to guide our behavior.

 We look at “Trip Advisor”
 We check “Yelp”
 We go “Google Review”
 We go to “Open Table”

What’s so powerful about this behavioral tendency is, the normal behavior of the tribe (The Many) often overpowers the desired behavior of the individual! Who wants to eat at the restaurant that everyone says it horrible? Who wants to travel to the resort that Trip Advisor has placed travel warnings on? Who wants to use the Contractor that Yelp gave thumbs down to?

The truth of the matter is, the reward of being accepted is often greater than the reward of winning an argument, looking smart, or finding truth. Most days, people would rather be wrong with the crowd than be right by themselves.

How This Affect Habits

 When changing your habits means challenging the tribe, change is unattractive.

 When changing your habits means fitting in with the tribe, change is very attractive.

IMITATING THE POWERFUL

We are drawn to behaviors that earn us respect, approval, admiration, and status. This is one reason why we care so much about the habits of highly effective people. We try to copy the behavior of successful people because we desire success ourselves.
 Many of Our Daily Habits Are Imitations of The People We Admire

o A young basketball player will shoot 300 jump shots per day because he read that Stephen Curry (The greatest shooter ever) shoots 300 shots after each practice and shoots 500 shots per day during the off season.

o A person will start reading more because they heard Bill Gates reads 50 books per year, and Mark Zuckerberg reads at least 1 book every two weeks and that Warren Buffett spends 5 hours a day reading 5 newspapers and 500 pages of corporate reports.

o An aspiring chef will study the cooking techniques of their favorite Master Chef.

o A young preacher/minister will imitate the speaking style of their favorite orator.

 We Imitate the People We Envy

We are also motivated to avoid behavior that will lower our status. We trim our lawn and constantly engage in home projects because we don’t want our property to viewed as the worst in the neighborhood. We NEVER miss our hair or nail appointment because we have a reputation of looking a certain way. We work hard to excel academically because there is a family tradition we are bound to maintain. In this way, imitating the powerful can have a positive effect on habit formation.

Bible Study Notes | In Summary

June 2, 2021 • Pastor Ludence Robinson

A SUMMARY OF ATOMIC HABITS BY JAMES CLEAR The Book in Three Sentences 1. An atomic habit is a regular practice or routine that is not only small and easy to do but is also the source of incredible power, an element of a larger system of intentional growth. 2. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because we don’t want to change, but because we have the wrong process for change to occur. 3. Changes that seem small and unimportant at first will reap a greater reward overtime. The Book’s Five Big Ideas 1. Good habits are the small actions of self-improvement. 2. If you want better results, then forget about setting goals. Focus on the process instead. 3. The most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you desire to become. 4. The Four Laws of Behavior Change are a simple set of rules we can use to build better habits. They are (1) make it obvious, (2) make it attractive, (3) make it easy, and (4) make it satisfying. 5. Environment is the invisible hand that shapes human behavior. The Book’s Chapters Summarized Chapter 1: To summarize Chapter 1 on The Surprising Power of Tiny Habits. We need to first understand this about habits, habits are a double-edged sword. They can work for you or against you. So, the idea is to create a system for developing good ones. Time magnifies the boundary between success and failure. therefore, good habits make time your friend. Bad habits make time your enemy. If you find yourself struggling to build a good habit or break a bad one, it is not because you have lost your ability to improve. It is often because you have not found our hidden Potential. Our hidden potential is hiding behind the goals we set for ourselves which are more times than not beyond our reach. Goals are simply about the results you want to achieve. While systems are about the processes that lead to those results.” Chapter 2: To summarize Chapter 2 on How Your Habits, Shape Your Identity (and Vice Versa) “Ask yourself, who is the type of person I want to become? That person who you desire to be, becomes the source for intrinsic motivation. But to do this, that is, to shape your identity, you will have to change your habits. The most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become. Every action towards that end is a vote for the type of person you wish to be. Becoming the best version of yourself requires you to continuously be open to things you cannot change, to change the things you can and the ability to know which brings about the best behavioral change. According to James Clear “there are three layers of behavior change: a change in your outcomes, a change in your processes, or a change in your identity.” He says, “Outcomes are about what you get. Processes are about what you do. Identity is about what you believe.” Chapter 3: To summarize Chapter 3 on How to Build Better Habits in 4 Simple Steps. Ask yourself 4 simple questions. These four simple questions are the Four Laws of Behavioral Change, which are set of rules we can use to build better habits. They are: 1. How can I make it obvious? 2. How can I make it attractive? 3. How can I make it easy? 4. How can I make it satisfying? Chapter 4: To summarize chapter 4 on The Man Who Didn’t Look Right first we need to ask yourself two questions: ‘Does this behavior help me become the type of person I wish to be? Does this habit cast a vote for or against my desired identity?’” The reason for asking yourself these questions is because the process of behavioral change always starts with awareness. We need to be cognizant of our habits before we can change them. Once we identify what those good habits are, over time and with enough practice, our brains will pick up on the cues that predict certain outcomes without consciously thinking about it. then as soon as our habits become automatic, they will also become second nature. Chapter 5: To summarize chapter 5 on The Best Way to Start a New Habit is to make it obvious, most people think motivation is what they lack, when in truth what they really lack is clarity. When we are clear about thing we can proceed with total confidence. “One of the best ways to build a new habit,” according to James Clear, “is to identify a current habit you already do each day and then stack your new behavior on top. This is called habit stacking.” “Habit stacking,” according to James clear “is a strategy you can use to pair a new habit with a current habit.” The two most important cues he says, are time and location. This is where implementation intention is created, which gives you the opportunity to pair a new habit with a specific time and location. Chapter 6: To summarize chapter 6 on Motivation is Overrated; Environment of Often Matters More, according to James Clear, we ought to “Make the cues of good habits obvious in our environment.” Why you may ask. because our environment is the invisible hand that outlines human behavior. He says, “Gradually, your habits become associated not with a single trigger but with the entire context surrounding the behavior, which is the environment one finds themselves in. Therefore, it is easier to build new habits in a new environment because you are not fighting against old cues, for every habit has its own triggers. Chapter 7: To summarize chapter 7 on The Secret to Self-Control is to spend less time in tempting situations. It’s easier to avoid temptation than resist it. One of the most practical ways to eliminate a bad habit is to reduce exposure to the trigger that causes it. Chapter 8: To summarize chapter 7 on How to Make a Habit Irresistible, James clear offers, that we “make it attractive.” He conveys, that “the more attractive an opportunity is, the more likely it is to become habit-forming.” It is the anticipation of a reward—not the fulfillment of it—that gets us to act, this is what make the habit irresistible. Chapter 9: To summarize chapter 9 on The Role of Family and Friends in Shaping Your Habits James clear says, “We tend to imitate the habits of three social groups: the close (family and friends), the many (the tribe), and the powerful (those with status and prestige).” He proposes, “One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where (1) your desired behavior is the normal behavior and (2) you already have something in common with the group.” “The normal behavior of the tribe often overpowers the desired behavior of the individual. Most days, we’d rather be wrong with the crowd than be right by ourselves.” Chapter 10: To summarize chapter 10 on How to Find and Fix the Cause of Your Bad Habits James Clear suggests, that we “make it unattractive.” We ought to do this by highlighting the benefits of avoiding a bad habit which will make it unattractive. Therefore, Habits are attractive when we associate them with positive feelings and unattractive when we associate them with negative feelings. Chapter 11: To summarize chapter 11 on Walk Slowly, but Never Backward, James clear suggests that we “make it easy.” He says, the most effective form of learning is practice, not planning.” So “Focus on taking action, not being in motion.” Chapter 12: To summarize chapter 12 on The Law of Least Effort James Clear says, we naturally gravitate toward the option that requires the smallest resistance or the least amount of work. So, the idea is to create an environment where doing the right thing becomes easy as possible. Chapter 13: To summarize chapter 13 on How to Stop Procrastinating by Using the Two-Minute Rule. The Two-Minute Rule states, ‘When you start a new habit, it should take less than two minutes to do.’ Make it as simple as possible to begin and add to it as time goes on. Chapter 14: To summarize chapter 14 on how to make habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. The way to do it is to make good habits easy and bad habits difficult. You make good habits inevitable by: (1) make it easy (2) make it attractive (3) make it easy (4) make it satisfying. You make bad habits impossible by: (1) Making it invisible (2) Making it unattractive (3) Make it difficult (4) Making it unsatisfying.

Bible Study Notes | CH. 14

April 28, 2021 • Pastor Arthur Jackson III

MAKING GOOD HABITS INEVITABLE AND BAD HABITS IMPOSSIBLE CHAPTER 14 The goal of everything that we have been sharing with you over the past few months have centered on making good habits become inevitable. To that end, we must realize that SOMETIMES SUCCESS IS LESS ABOUT MAKING GOOD HABITS EASY AND MORE ABOUT MAKING BAD HABITS HARD. If you constantly find yourself struggling to follow through on your plans, you could try creating what psychologist call A Commitment Device.  A COMMITMENT DEVICE – Is a choice you make in the present that controls your actions in the future. It is a way to lock in future behavior (bind you to good habits), while at the same time restrict you from bad ones. For Instance –  A person may want to develop more discipline and create a path for future success, so he/she will join the military.  A person may want to increase their credit score while simultaneously eliminate debt, so he/she will only use cash and/or a debt card for purchases.  A person may have a desire to reduce overeating, so he/she will purchase food in individual packages rather than in bulk size.  A person may have a desire to cut calories for example, therefore they could exercise “portion control” by asking the waiter to bring a to go box with their meals. THE KEY IS TO CHANGE THE TASK SUCH THAT IT REQUIRES MORE WORK TO GET OUT OF THE GOOD HABIT THAN TO GET STARTED ON IT. • The automotive industry made wearing seat belts hard NOT to fasten! The annoying chiming sound the car makes when a seatbelt is unfastened is a commitment device! Hearing the constant chiming increase the odds that you’ll do the right thing—fastening the seatbelt, thus making a bad habit (not wearing a seatbelt) difficult in the present. Commitment devices are useful because they enable you to take advantage of good intentions before you can fall victim to temptation.  TAKE A MINUTE AND THINK OF WAYS YOU CAN MAKE A BAD HABIT BECOME MORE DIFFICULT TO ENGAGE IN. 6 STEPS TO MAKE BAD HABITS IMPOSSIBLE 1. IDENTIFY CUES. Something has to trigger a habit, and A CUE CAN BE ANYTHING. Maybe stress makes you crave chocolate, or the sound of your alarm clock triggers you to hit the snooze button. Maybe rejection makes you turn to the Internet. Identifying cues helps you understand what puts your habits into motion. There Are Different Types Of Cues  Physical Cues – How your body responds  Behavioral Cues – The actions we engage in  Cognitive Cues – The thoughts or images we imagine  Emotional Cues – How we are feeling inside 2. CREATE A DISRUPTION. Once you know the cues, you can throw bad habits off track by creating a disruption. If the alarm cues you to bash the snooze button every morning, put the alarm clock on the other side of the room. Trekking across the cold floor will likely disrupt the snooze habit. If engaging in prolonged back and forth verbal exchanges (arguments) increases your heart rate, take deep breaths and work on staying calm. 3. FIND A HABIT REPLACEMENT. Research shows that replacing a bad behavior with a good one is more effective than stopping the bad behavior alone. The new behavior “interferes” with the old habit and prevents your brain from going into autopilot. When you are craving something sweet after your dinner, deciding to eat fruit (grapes) every time your mind thinks “cookie”, substitutes a positive behavior for the negative habit. 4. KEEP IT SIMPLE. It’s usually hard to change a habit because the behavior has become easy and automatic. The opposite is true, too: new behaviors can be hard because your brain’s BASAL GANGLIA, (the “autopilot” part), hasn’t taken over this behavior yet. Simplifying new behaviors helps you integrate them into your autopilot routines. 5. THINK LONG-TERM. Habits often form because they satisfy short-term impulses, the way chewing on your nails might immediately calm your nerves. But giving in to short-term desires often has long-term consequences. Staying focused on the long term while trying to change habits will help you remember why you’re investing the effort. 6. STAY PERSISTENT. Research has shown that what you’ve done before is a strong indicator of what you’ll do next. This means established habits are hard to break. But the good news is, if you keep at it, your new behaviors will turn into habits, too. Persistence works — at first it might be painful to get up at 5 am for that jog, but soon it will be second nature.

Bible Study Notes | CH. 13

April 21, 2021 • Pastor Ludence Robinson

ATOMIC HABITS JAMES CLEAR CHAPTER 13 HOW TO STOP PROCRASTINATING WITH THE “2-MINUTE RULE” According to James Clear the best way to combat procrastination and start a new habit is to use the “two-minute rule.” What is the “Two-Minute Rule?” The Two-Minute Rule states “When you start a new habit, it should take less than two minutes to do.” Two of the main reasons why good habits fail, (1) is because we set the bar too high for ourselves, and (2) the way to we get to our goals are too ambiguous. The point is to make habits as easy as possible to start. I am sure that anyone of us can put on running shoes and tie them, fold a pair of pants, stretch for 3 minutes, and even read one page of a book. To approach good habits in this way is powerful because once you start these small steps it eventually leads to the bigger goal. The small step becomes the means to an end. It makes what you are trying to incorporate into your life, something you can develop over time on an ongoing basis. In other words, it becomes much easier to do, when it is more attainable. Any habit that feels like a challenge, becomes more difficult to do. But in taking smaller steps it makes the challenge much easier to accomplish. James Clear says “A new habit should not feel like a challenge. The actions that follow can be challenging, but the first two minutes should be easy. What you want is a gateway habit that naturally leads you down a more productive path.” So, the small or easy clear and concise step is what James Clear calls “the gateway.” The way we figure out the gateway is by charting our goals from “very easy” to “very hard.” For example, he says, “running a marathon is very hard. Running a 5K is hard. Walking ten thousand steps is moderately difficult. Walking ten minutes is easy. And putting on your running shoes is very easy. Your goal might be to run a marathon, but your gateway habit is to put on your running shoes. That’s how you follow the Two-Minute Rule.” So, the idea is, we should do what is simple first, and as time goes on you begin to do a little more and more until you get where you desire to be. But it starts with a single step! Here is why the two-minute rule works, when we accomplish a small task that leads to something bigger, we get hyped. We may at times think it strange that such small steps could accomplish such great wonders. The point here, is not to despise small steps of reading one page of a book or praying for 30 seconds or making one payment towards a bill. Because the attempt is not to do it once, but to master the habit of doing it again and again, as James Clear puts it, it is “to master the habit of showing up.” The truth is, if we are attempting to improve on a good habit it must be established first. So, learning to repeat it often, is where the hope of eventually mastering it lies. So, James Clear cautions that “instead of trying to engineer a perfect habit from the start, do the easy thing on a more consistent basis.” Thus, “the first two minutes simply becomes a ritual at the beginning of a larger routine as you master the art of showing up.” So, as you and I practice those smaller steps, that actually grows into bigger ones it becomes an easier way to master the more difficult skills. As James Clear says, “You may not be able to automate the whole process, but you can make the first action mindless. Make it easy to start and the rest will follow.” The idea is not to do two minutes, that is not the goal, the goal is to do more than two minutes. Two minutes is the gateway to get you started. I mean, who is really inspired to read one page and stop, one push up and not two or wash a dish and not clean the kitchen. It’s not a mental trick nor is it a forced behavior, it’s a start to a new habit. James Clear suggest that “If the Two-Minute Rule feels forced, try this: do it for two minutes and then stop. Go for a run, but you must stop after two minutes. Start meditating, but you must stop after two minutes. Study Arabic, but you must stop after two minutes. It’s not a strategy for starting, it’s the whole thing. Your habit can only last one hundred and twenty seconds.” Strategies like this work for another reason too: they strengthen the behavior you are trying to build for yourself. If you show up to the gym for a week, even if it’s just for two minutes—you are shaping a new behavior. You are not concerned about getting in shape. You’re focused on becoming the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts. You’re taking the smallest steps that supports the kind of behavior you are trying to develop. James Clear says that “we rarely think about change this way because everyone is consumed by the end goal.” But one push-up is better than not exercising at all. One minute of panino practice is better than none at all. One minute of reading a book is better than never reading at all. James Clear, says “It’s far better to do less than you hoped than to do nothing at all.” Whenever you are struggling to stick with a habit, you can employ the Two-Minute Rule. It’s a simple way to make your habits easy. Here are five nuggets you can use: 1. Set concrete goals - The most effective goals are specific, measurable and achievable 2. Set priorities - write down all the things that you need to do and place them in order of importance. 3. Break down your work into little steps - A seemingly overwhelming test gives birth to procrastination 4. Tell others about your goals - people knowing your goals will help you stay accountable. 5. Reward yourself - when you complete the task acknowledge what you’ve done. Reinforcement is a good way to motivate yourself.