Fighting Cleanly
August 21, 2022 • Pastor Michael Seto • Ephesians 4:25–32, Jeremiah 6:14
Emotionally Healthy Relationships
Fighting Cleanly
Pastor Michael Seto
You can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature
Fight Cleanly - the ability to pursue peace (Ephesians 4:25-32)
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4 Comparisons:
Genuine relationships (v.25, 32)
Genuine feelings (v. 26, 31)
Genuine spirit (v. 27, 30)
Genuine action (v. 28, 29)
Conflict isn’t a possibility it’s a certainty
Be your genuine self.
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Ways to approach conflict:
1. Don’t fight (Jeremiah 6:14)
2. Fight dirty
3. Fight cleanly
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7 Steps to Fight Cleanly
1. Ask for permission (Speaker)
2. State why it is important to you (Speaker)
3. Fill in the following sentence “When you…I feel” (Speaker)
4. State your request clearly, respectfully and specifically (Speaker)
5. Consider the request & state your level of agreement (Listener)
6. Agree to the request or offer an alternative (Speaker)
7. Review the agreement now and then again in 2 - 4 weeks (Speaker & Listener)