Sermons

Episode 183- Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

June 2, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • 1 Corinthians 7:28, 2 Corinthians 6:14, Proverbs 5:18

At some point, almost every married person has had the thought: did I marry the wrong person? In this honest and hopeful conversation, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott unpack where that feeling comes from — unmet expectations, comparison, cultural lies — and what to actually do when it shows up. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS - What expectations did you bring into marriage that didn't match reality — and where did those expectations come from? - In what areas do you find yourself comparing your spouse or your marriage to others? How does that comparison affect your contentment? - Scott mentioned that part of the feeling often comes from something in us — selfishness, unrealistic expectations — not just our spouse. Where do you see that in yourself? - What are three specific things you're genuinely grateful for in your spouse right now? Have you told them recently? - What are some things you did early in your relationship that raised the attraction level — and how could you bring some of those back? - Is there something you've been feeling disconnected about that you haven't fully said out loud yet? What would it look like to bring that to your spouse this week?

Episode 374: Finding Hope in Suffering | feat. Kirby Kelly

June 1, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp

In this episode we talk to author Kirby Kelly about her new book The Fabric of Hope. Life is full of seasons that leave us asking "why God?" — but what if those same seasons are exactly how He builds our faith? We talk with Kirby about how God weaves redemption into suffering and why bringing Him your honest pain is the key to finding real hope!

Christ in the Waiting

May 31, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda • Genesis 18:1–15

When waiting turns into doubt, Jesus meets us where we are and reminds us that His timing and ways are greater than our own. Abraham and Sarah's story shows that nothing is too hard for God, and what begins in cynicism can end in celebration when we trust His promises. Christ comes close in the waiting Christ is counterintuitive  Christ confronts the cynic  Life Group Discussion: What is something you're currently waiting on, and how has that waiting affected your faith? Have you ever had a plan for your life that God seemed to completely rewrite? What happened? What's the difference between honest doubt and cynicism toward God?

Episode 182- From Contempt to Celebration: Honoring Your Spouse's Differences

May 26, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • James 4:1–2, Philippians 2:3–4

The differences that drew you to your spouse in dating can become the very things that drive you crazy in marriage — but what if they didn't have to? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew talk honestly about what it looks like to move from contempt toward genuine celebration of the spouse God gave you. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS - What differences first attracted you to your spouse — and have any of those become sources of frustration over time? - Where do you tend toward contempt rather than celebration when your spouse does things differently than you would? - What's one specific difference in your spouse that you could choose to reframe with gratitude this week? - How do you currently discern, in your marriage, between a difference that's just a preference and one that has crossed into a sinful pattern? - Who in your life — friends, community, mentors — do you trust to speak honestly into your marriage when conflict keeps coming up? - What would it look like practically for you to pray for God's eyes toward your spouse this week?

Episode 373: Q&A with JP Part 1 (from BeSo Live)

May 25, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp

As an extension of JP’s Friday Q&A, he answers live audience questions from Becoming Something Live! Topics include feeling like you’re not doing enough for God, the Holy Spirit, dating and marriage, eschatology, spiritual success, Israel, and self-defense.

Jesus Looks After The Overlooked

May 24, 2026 • John Elmore • Genesis 16

Jesus doesn’t just show up for the polished and put-together, He pursues people in the middle of their mess, pain, and wilderness seasons. Through Hagar’s story in Genesis 16, we see that Christ is personal, present, and powerful enough to take the broken pieces of our lives and turn them into something full of purpose, hope, and redemption. Christ Pursues You in Your Pain Christ is Personal and Pastoral Christ has Plans Beyond Your Perspective Life Group Discussion: Why do you think pain often becomes the place where people experience God most deeply? In a culture that often values image over honesty, what keeps us from being real with God and others about what we’re going through? What broken part of your story have you struggled to believe God could use for good?

Episode 181- How to Deal with Divorce in Family of Origin

May 19, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, Scott Kedersha • Genesis 50:20, Matthew 19:6

In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss how your family of origin—especially experiences of divorce or relational brokenness—can shape your expectations, fears, and habits in marriage. But Scripture makes it clear: your past may influence you, but it does not define your future. Discussion Questions - What messages about marriage did you absorb from your family growing up—spoken or unspoken? - Do you notice any fears in your marriage that might be rooted in your family of origin? In what ways are you tempted to repeat patterns you saw growing up—or overcorrect them? - How can you intentionally build “truth-based theology” about marriage instead of experience-based beliefs? - Where have you already seen God bring redemption or healing into your family story? Resources https://www.amazon.com/flawed-families-bible-imperfect-relationships/dp/1587431556/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3l9wu88y619ar&dib=eyj2ijoimsj9.i44o1ipo406eckssfvihrspjo2agzo8pgch6l9pmhos.i_xwbtwu023ev8rwtk0xctnrmfwwnzbwzdbcjj3t8_s&dib_tag=se&keywords=david+garland+broken+families+of+bible&qid=1779034621&sprefix=david+garland+broken+families+of+bib%2caps%2c177&sr=8-1 https://www.watermarkresources.com/ministries/merge

Episode 372: Guarding Your Heart (from BeSo Live)

May 18, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp

As we continue our BESO Live series, we start by answering a question about hearing God’s voice through dreams and how to discern what’s from Him. Then we dive into a conversation about staying pure and faithful through every stage of relationships—dating, waiting, and marriage.

Bible, Gifts, Demons, Free Will and Predestination

May 17, 2026 • John Elmore

Can we trust the Bible? Are spiritual gifts still active? What role do demons play, and how do free will and predestination coexist? John Elmore reminded us that Scripture is not only historically trustworthy, but powerfully transformative, calling us to trust God’s Word, stay spiritually alert, and boldly live on mission through the power of Christ in us. How Do We Know the Bible is True Are Spiritual Gifts Still Active Today What Role Do Demons Play in Our Lives Predestination Life Group Discussion: What evidence or experience has most strengthened your trust in the Bible personally? When you hear about gifts like prophecy, healing, or tongues, what reactions or assumptions come up for you? Which area of spiritual warfare mentioned in the sermon feels most real or relatable in your life right now? How does knowing God is both sovereign and personal encourage you in your faith?

Episode 180- Should We Cut Them Off? A Biblical Look at the "No Contact" Trend

May 12, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough, John Elmore • Exodus 20:12, Matthew 18:15–16, Romans 12:10–18

Going no contact with family is trending — but is it biblical? In this episode the MTR team walk through the counsel of Scripture — from leaving and cleaving to the ministry of reconciliation — to help couples navigate in-law conflict with honesty, boundaries, and biblical wisdom. They dig into what Scripture actually says about honoring parents, setting boundaries, and pursuing reconciliation even when it's hard. Discussion Questions - Have there been moments in our marriage where you felt we weren't on the same team when navigating conflict with family or in-laws? What did that feel like, and how can we get more aligned? - Is there any relationship in our family system — parents, siblings, in-laws — where we've been avoiding a hard conversation? What has kept us from having it? - Where do we land on the spectrum between full contact and no contact in difficult relationships? Are we erring too far in either direction? - John mentioned keeping a shared note about how he and Laura want to be grandparents and in-laws one day. What values do we want to write down about how we hope to show up for our kids when they're married? - Romans 12:18 says, "As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." What is one practical thing that depends on you right now in a strained relationship that you could own? Resources https://open.spotify.com/episode/5xqbbjmw7tk89y0lby90ve?si=fc63119c0b8f4d87 https://open.spotify.com/episode/1rwaqopfsxnve5brslrrpg?si=b41622d232104562

Episode 371: How to hear God’s voice (from BeSo Live)

May 11, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp

In our first episode from BeSo Live, we answer the question that our attendees most wanted answered. They asked, “How do you hear God’s voice from your own thoughts?” If you want to grow in your understanding of God’s voice, this episode is for you!

Big Q&A

May 10, 2026 • John Elmore, Jonathan Pokluda

Episode 179- 9 Keys to a Strong "Empty Nest" Season of Marriage

May 5, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Hosea 4:6, Galatians 6:9, Ephesians 5:25

The empty nest season can either expose distance in your marriage or become one of its most life-giving chapters. In this episode, Derek, Andrew, and Gabrielle unpack 9 practical ways to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive when the kids leave home. Whether you are in this season or want to have a marriage that prepares for it, listen now so you can thrive when kids leave the home! Discussion Questions: - If our kids left home tomorrow, would we feel close… or like strangers? Why? - When was the last time we intentionally learned or grew in our marriage? - What’s something fun we could start doing together again? - Are we serving together anywhere? If not, where could we start? - Is there anything we’ve avoided talking about (sex, finances, conflict)? - Where do we need to give each other more space—or more connection? - What would it look like for me to “draw a circle around myself” this week?

Episode 370: Blessed are the Spiraling (feat. Levi Lusko)

May 4, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp

In this episode we get to talk to pastor and author, Levi Lusko, about his new book “Blessed are the Spiraling”. He shares with us about how God used a uniquely difficult season in his life. Many times God does His best work in the hardest times!

How Do We Know If We Are Living in the End Times?

May 3, 2026 • Zac White

Episode 178- Kids: Burden or Blessing? A Biblical Vision for When to Have Kids

April 28, 2026 • Andrew Owen, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Genesis 1:28, Psalm 127:3–5, Matthew 28:18–20, Matthew 18:3–4

When it comes to having kids, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer—but there is a biblical framework. In this episode, the More than Roommates team explores how couples can navigate timing, fear, and cultural pressures by seeking God, aligning as a couple, and pursuing wise counsel. Discussion Questions: - Do we truly believe children are a blessing, or have we adopted cultural views that see them as a burden? - What fears (financial, personal, family history) might be influencing our timeline? - Have we clearly sought God together in prayer and Scripture about this? - Who are the wise, godly voices speaking into this decision for us? - If we’re waiting, are we still actively giving our lives away for the Kingdom?

Episode 369: Becoming Like Jesus (feat. Matt Chandler)

April 27, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, Nate Hilgenkamp

In this episode we talk to pastor and author, Matt Chandler, about his new book "Becoming Like Jesus". The path to holiness is oftentimes not a straight line. We talk with Matt about how God uses the ups and downs of life to shape us into the likeness of His Son!

Big Questions Around Prayer

April 26, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda

Matthew 6:5–13, James 1:6–7, James 4:3, James 5:16–18, Philippians 4:6–7, Psalm 34:4, Luke 11:13, Psalm 66:18, 1 Peter 3:7, 2 Corinthians 12:7–9, Proverbs 15:22, Romans 8:16, 2 Timothy 3:16, John 10:27 Prayer isn’t about performing or getting perfect answers, it’s how you build a real relationship with God, who already knows your needs but still wants you to come talk to Him. Even when prayers feel unanswered, God is at work shaping you, and you learn to recognize His voice through His Word, His Spirit, and people around you. We pray because it builds our relationship with God God is often using what we’re asking Him to change to change us We discern God’s voice using His Word, His Spirit, and His people  Life Group Discussion: What tends to get in the way of you consistently praying, busyness, doubt, distraction, or something else? Can you think of a time when something you prayed for didn’t change, but you did? What was different in you afterward? When you feel unsure if something is from God or just your own thoughts, which of the three, Scripture, prayer, or community, do you tend to rely on most? Which do you neglect?

Episode 177- Discovering Your Communication Type ft. Jason VanRuler

April 21, 2026 • Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough

Jason VanRuler joins More than Roommates to discuss his book "Discovering your Communication Type." This episode dives into how your communication style and attachment patterns are shaping your marriage—often without you realizing it. By understanding how you and your spouse are wired, you can stop repeating the same conflicts and start building deeper connection. Discussion Questions: 1- Which communication type do you think you are? What about your spouse? 2- Where do your differences help your marriage? Where do they create tension? 3- Do you tend to avoid hard conversations or over-address them? Why? 4- How did your family growing up shape the way you communicate now? 5- Which attachment style do you most relate to (secure, anxious, avoidant)? 6- What’s one small communication habit you can practice this week? Resources Instagram (@jason.vanruler) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310370426/?bestformat=true&k=discovering%20your%20communication%20type&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-v2_k0_1_21_de&crid=13zpd4zq9trgy&sprefix=dsicovering%20your%20comm

Episode 368: You Are Not Your Job Title

April 20, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda, Kathy Davidson, nate

While our jobs are important, they are not our identity. How do we balance a desire to succeed in our job, without being obsessed with our job? We do our best to help you develop a healthy work ethic in this episode!

Soteriology: The Study of How God Saves People

April 19, 2026 • Jonathan Pokluda

Hebrews 9:27, 2 Corinthians 5:8, Luke 16:19–31, John 5:28–29; 10:28–29, Revelation 20, Hebrews 6:4–6, Ephesians 2:8–9, Philippians 1:6, Romans 8:1, 38–39; 1:19–21; 10:14, Matthew 7, Acts 17:27 JP teaches that when we die, our eternity is determined by what we do with Jesus, and that true salvation cannot be lost because God secures it. He also urges believers to share the gospel, since it’s the only way people can be saved. When we die, we will be with God or separated from God depending on if we trusted in Jesus Salvation comes from being born of Christ and cannot be lost Someone must respond to The Gospel to be saved  Life Group Discussion: What emotions or questions come up when you think about heaven, hell, and judgment? Do you tend to live more out of fear of losing salvation or confidence in God securing it? Why? Who in your life might God be calling you to have a gospel conversation with this week, and what’s holding you back?