Episode 75 - Simple Ways to Build Culture In Your Marriage
May 7, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Genesis 2:24–25, Proverbs 5:18, Revelation 2:4
Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet. Scriptures: Genesis 2:24-25 Revelation 2:4 Proverbs 5:18 Resources: Blog Post - https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/marriage Discussion Questions: 1. What are some of your inside jokes or rituals in your marriage? 2. How can you build the culture of your marriage? What are the things that are like glue that bond your marriage together?
Episode 74 - How To Fight Your Temptations
April 30, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 5, Proverbs 18:8, 1 Peter 1:16, Proverbs 13:20
Everyone of us struggles with temptation—even Jesus faced temptations! What are the temptations we need to avoid that can wreck our marriage? And how is marriage uniquely designed so that we can help each other flee from temptations? Scriptures: Proverbs 5 Proverbs 18:8 Proverbs 13:20 1 Peter 1:16 Questions to Discuss: 1. What does it look like for you to flee from temptation? 2. What temptations do you face? How can your spouse help you? 3. How can you move the line, magnify the consequences, and map out your escape? 4. What would be helpful for you to confess to your spouse and to your community to help you with your temptations? Resources: Book - https://amzn.to/3ucn1qz, by Craig Groeschel
Episode 72 - Should Married Christians Have Celebrity Crushes?
April 16, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Romans 12:1–2, Romans 13:14, Proverbs 5:18–19, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Corinthians 6:18
In our culture, it’s extremely common for married people to have celebrity crushes—studies say 80% of married men and women have celebrity crushes. Does that make it okay for you or your spouse to have a celebrity crush? Should you have crushes on anyone besides your spouse? Scriptures: Proverbs 5:18-19 Romans 12:1-2, 13:14 Ephesians 5:3 1 Corinthians 6:18 Questions to Discuss: Who’s the most famous person you’ve ever met? Why do you think we obsess about celebrities? Why do you think people believe it’s acceptable to have a celebrity crush but not okay to have a crush on non-celebrities? Tell your spouse what you love about them and then go crush on them!
Episode 67 - What We Did And Didn't Learn in Premarital Counseling
March 12, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • James 1:19, Proverbs 18:2, 1 Corinthians 7:28
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what they did and didn’t learn in premarital counseling. Whether engaged or married for decades, we hope today’s new episode encourages and challenges you in your marriage. Scriptures: Proverbs 18:2 James 1:19 1 Corinthians 7:28 Resources: Book – Tim Keller, https://amzn.to/3t1x6ab Book – Scott Kedersha, https://amzn.to/3wbljhe Podcast – Episode 35 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000622253291 Podcast – Episode 12 – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000604088360 Questions to Discuss: When’s the last time you were really unprepared for something? What are you glad you learned in premarital counseling? What do you wish you had learned in premarital counseling?
Episode 65 - Being Real > Being Perfect (feat. Justin Davis)
February 27, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Justin Davis • Proverbs 28:13, Genesis 2:25
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott interviews his friend Justin Davis. With candor and transparency, Justin shares he and his wife’s powerful marriage testimony and we discuss the value of authenticity in helping couples be so much more than just roommates. Scriptures: Proverbs 28:13 Genesis 2:25 Questions to Discuss: Justin defined intimacy as being fully known emotionally, spiritually, and physically. How are you doing in marital intimacy? Who’s more authentic in your marriage—you or your spouse? How can you grow in authenticity? Resources: Justin’s New Book – https://amzn.to/49qmhp6 Justin & Trisha Davis’ Ministry – https://www.refineus.org/ Justin & Trisha’s Marriage Story – https://amzn.to/3soyoyj Justin & Trisha’s Podcast – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-get-real-with-justin-and-trisha-davis/id1550718949
Self-Control - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 9
February 13, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 25:28, Galatians 5:22–23
Today in part 9 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss self-control. Like a city whose walls are broken down, a marriage marked by a lack of self-control is often broken and in need of restoration. In this episode of More Than Roommates, we discuss why it matters to demonstrate the fruit of self-control in your marriage. Galatians 5:22-23 Proverbs 25:28 Questions to Discuss: 1. Who is more disciplined in your marriage—you or your spouse? 2, Where do you show self-control in marriage and where can you grow? 3. As we wrap-up this 9-part series, which of the 9 Fruit of the Spirit mark your life and marriage? Where is it lacking?
Gentleness - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 8
February 12, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Galatians 5:22–23, Proverbs 15:1, Matthew 11:28–30
Today in part 8 of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit and your marriage, we discuss gentleness. In our relationships, we either escalate/exacerbate the challenges with anger or a lack of gentleness, or we demonstrate the fruit of spirit of gentleness and turn away wrath. Galatians 5:22-23 Proverbs 15:1 Matthew 11:28-30 https://amzn.to/3sokijj, by Dane Ortlund Questions to Discuss: 1. What’s a household task you’re not good at? 2. Would your spouse/others describe you as gentle/tender? 3. How does a lack of gentleness affect your relationships with your spouse/kids/others?
Peace - Fruit of the Spirit Mini Episode 3
February 7, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Galatians 5:22–23, Philippians 4:7, Isaiah 26:3, Romans 12:18, Proverbs 25:24
In part 3 of our 9-part mini-series on the Fruit of the Spirit we’re talking about peace! Is your life and your marriage marked by the peace that surpasses all understanding? With such a lack of peace in our world and in so many marriages, the marriage marked by peace stands out. Galatians 5:22-23 Philippians 4:7 Isaiah 26:3 Romans 12:18 Ephesians 4:3 Proverbs 25:24 MT 11:28-30 Questions to Discuss: 1. Who do you know who is marked by peace? 2. Does peace mark your life and your marriage/family? Why or why not? 3. Are you making every effort to keep unity and peace in your marriage and family?
Episode 61 - Trust: How to Build It and Restore It
January 16, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Matthew 5:37, Proverbs 28:13, Romans 8:1, 1 Corinthians 13:6
Building trust is hard work that takes a lot of time and hard work. It’s often been said trust is built in drops and lost in buckets. Yet trust is so crucial in every relationship, especially in marriage. In this episode of More Than Roommates, we discuss how to build and restore trust in your marriage. Scriptures: Matthew 5:37 Proverbs 28:13 Romans 8:1 1 Corinthians 13:6 Questions to Discuss: Are you quick or slow to confess when you sin or mess up in marriage? What are a few ways you can quickly build trust in your marriage? How can you do a better job of looking for ways where your spouse is trustworthy? Resources: Book - https://amzn.to/3vkvppq, by Dr. Henry Cloud Book – https://amzn.to/48een0o, by Paul David Tripp (2 great chapters on trust)
Episode 59 - Common Characteristics of Couples Who Do Well
January 2, 2024 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Matthew 5:37, John 15:5, James 4:1, Proverbs 13:20, Matthew 7:3–5
While every marriage is different, there tend to be some common characteristics of couples who thrive. In this episode, we discuss four common characteristics of married couples who thrive in marriage. Scripture: John 15:5 James 4:1 1 Timothy 1:15 Proverbs 13:20 Hebrews 10:24-25 Matthew 7:3-5 Matthew 19:6 Matthew 5:37 Questions to Discuss: 1. Input - How have you fed your soul this week? What are you learning in the Word? 2. Output - How are you feeding others? Have you shared the gospel, served others, etc…? 3. Confession - How have you fed your flesh? What do you need to confess? 4. Of the four common characteristics shared, which one is a strength in your marriage? Which do you need to most improve in?
Episode 57 - What To Do When You’re Stuck
December 19, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • 2 Timothy 3:16–17, Proverbs 16:9, James 1:5, Isaiah 26:3, Proverbs 18:1–2
Every couple knows what it’s like to be stuck in a decision. What do you and your spouse do when you’re stuck and can’t move forward? In this episode of More Than Roommates, we discuss some steps you can take to get unstuck in your marriage. Scriptures: Genesis 2:24 PR 18:1-2 James 1:19-20 PR 15:1 Colossians 4:6 2 Tim 3:16-17 1 Thess 5:16-18 James 1:5 PR 16:9 PR 13:20 Isa 26:3 Resources: More Than Roommates, Episode 22 – https://pod.link/1667102563/episode/ff99728523730eeccc42e39accbb4b85 Sermon from Harris Creek from Jonathan “JP” Pokluda – https://www.harriscreek.org/sermons?sapurl=lytmyzawl2xil21plytrc3zxy3azp2vtymvkpxrydwumcmvjzw50um91dgu9yxbwlndlyi1hchaubglicmfyes5saxn0jnjly2vudfjvdxrlu2x1zz0lmkj2zjn3amtj Questions to Discuss: 1. What steps do you take when you and your spouse are stuck (in a decision, spiritually, in your marriage, etc…)? 2. When’s the last time you and your spouse prayed about a decision you needed to make? 3. What’s a decision you’re trying to make right now? How can you apply when you learned in this episode to the decision you’re trying to make?
Episode 54 - Technology and Your Marriage (Part 1 in a 2-Part Series)
November 28, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Psalm 139:23–24, Galatians 5:1, Proverbs 28:13, Genesis 2:24–25, Romans 13:14
Technology can be both a blessing and a curse. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss ways to grow in oneness in your marriage when it comes to phones and technology. Scriptures: Genesis 2:24-25 PR 28:13 Romans 13:14 Psalm 139:23-24 Galatians 5:1 Questions to Discuss: 1. Is there anything technology-related that’s off-limits to your spouse? Are there any legitimate reasons why your spouse doesn’t have access to your phone/iPad, social media accounts, texts… ? 2. What’s one intentional step you can take to grow in oneness when it comes to technology? 3. Pray Psalm 139:23-24 together, asking God to reveal any offensive ways within you. Resources: https://amzn.to/47rqpb8, by Andy Crouch https://amzn.to/3gbumu1, by Justin Whitmel Earley (Justin has a great chapter on technology in this book)
Episode 52 - How to Have the Best Holidays Yet with Your Family and In-Laws (Part 2 in a 2-Part Seri
November 14, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Proverbs 27:17, Romans 12:2, 1 Thessalonians 4:13, Romans 12:10, Genesis 2:24
The holidays provide a great opportunity for us to love and serve our families. Yet, they’re often filled with stress, conflict, and broken relationships. In this episode of More Than Roommates, we discuss how we can best serve our families and keep our marriage strong during the holiday season. Scriptures: Romans 12:10 Genesis 2:24 Proverbs 27:17 Romans 12:2 1 Thessalonians 4:13 Questions to Discuss: What’s one way you can serve your family this holiday season? Have you communicated your plans for the holidays with your families? What’s a new tradition you can start as you visit family this year during the holidays? Resources: Episode 43 of More Than Roommates – https://pod.link/1667102563/episode/6a9cbcece366c6d72ddf9f8cd28b41e6 Book – https://amzn.to/3sagnbr Blog – https://www.scottkedersha.com/blog-pages/3-ways-to-communicate-your-way-to-a-merry-little-christmas
Episode 50 - Are You Quick To Own Your Part Or Quick To Blame Your Spouse?
October 31, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, Derek Davidson • Matthew 7:3–5, 1 Timothy 1:15, Psalm 139:23–24, Proverbs 28:13
Many of us tend to be quick to blame our spouse and slow to own our part. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how we can do a better job of owning our part instead of blaming. Draw the circle around yourself and work on the person inside the circle. Scriptures: Matthew 7:3-5 1 Timothy 1:15 Psalm 139:23-24 Proverbs 28:13 Shownotes: https://amzn.to/46hdkzl, by Harrison Scott Key https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3z9essmiycm by Harrison Scott Key https://amzn.to/471akh7, by Dave Harvey Save the Date: The More Than Roommates Marriage Conference, Feb 2-3, 2024, Harris Creek Baptist Church (More details coming soon) Questions to Discuss: 1. How do you do in owning your part? Do you tend to own your part or point the finger and blame your spouse? 2. What would owning your part allow to happen in your marriage? 3. Do you own your part too slowly? Too quickly? Or just right? Ask your community if you need some input.
Episode 48 - How to Keep Your Marriage A Priority When You Have Kids
October 17, 2023 • Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough • Ephesians 6:10–20, Romans 12:18, Mark 10:45, 1 Corinthians 7:3–5, Proverbs 22:6
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to keep your marriage strong when you have kids. It’s easy to make your kids your number one priority, so we discuss practical wisdom on how to keep your relationship with Jesus and your spouse strong while still raising your kids. Scriptures: Ephesians 6:10-20, Genesis 2:24, Eph 4:1-3, Romans 12:18, PR 13:20, 22:6, Mark 10:45, MT 20:28, 1 Cor 7:3-5, 1 Peter 5:8, Phil 2:3-4 Questions to Discuss: How do you and your spouse view children? Are they a blessing or a burden? What do you think God is trying to teach you in this season of marriage and parenting? How are we doing at keeping Jesus our number one priority? How are we making our kids a priority? Resources: Episode 42 – More Than Roommates – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-roommates/id1667102563?i=1000627580668 https://amzn.to/3trubrj, by Ruth and Patrick Schwenk